My gf tried to kill herself last nite and.?
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hello again tyrel. how is she doing? is she holding up okay? are you sure she had both of those eating disorders?she has never said anythign to me abotut hem before.. but stress can cause you to loose or gain alot of weight! it is a sad time for her. she has had a hard life and there isnt much you can do to help her. other than be supportive of her (lettign her live! f course!) but dont try to hard. be there and care for her. you sound liek a great boyfriend. but she needs to see a psychiatrist! they specialize in this stuff. im not sure a regualr therapist can help much. psychiatrists arent bad! she just has major depression problems. never tell her :why cant you feel better or snap out of it" that will only make her more depressed it will make her think "god i cant snap out of this and cheer up then i cant do anything!" so jut care for her. tell her nothign is ever her fault because it isnt at all! what happened with the child is a natural thing that has been hapening to women since the beginning of time and its always a possibility. and a omplication with pregnancy. there wasnt anythign she could do to stop it. but just care for her and be ther for her (keep an eye on her) try to take her out again when she feels comfortable. but she is the one that decides SHE WANTS help(sh doesnt seem liek she wants it since she doesnt talk to her therapist). nooen can make her go get help if she isnt wiling to get better. she is the one who has to WANT it. once again i wish the two of you and the famly best of luck!
-morgan
First remember this wasn't your fault. Second get some major help. Think like psychiatry.
Oh my gosh the poor thing. Well I think you should just do what you've been doing and be there for her. I think she just needs to know that people care about her and love her. She is obviously in a bad place right now, I would just spend as much time with her as you can and try to do things to cheer her up (depending on what she likes) Maybe cook her dinner or take her out someplace fun/beautiful.
i am so sorry i dont know what to do i tride to hurt myself all the time i so sorry i dont know what to do
tell her that killing herself is the weak way out and only quitters or lames take that way out. calling her actions weak and telling her shes giving in and quitting will probably piss her off, but it will show her to be strong and find the good side in life
Just show her how much YOU love her. She'll come around when she realize someone still care for her. Take her to the movies or to dinner, but don't crowd her. Just be there for her. I hope you two have a blessed life TOGETHER.
Tyrel, i dont no if koi told u or not, but i have invited both of you to come bac to South Africa with me on a visit to my family, it will make her so happy if you came with us..think about it, ok??
*jasmine*
one thingtake her out wen shes outof the hospital and show her how much fun life can be
First thing you have to know is that this is not your responsibility. Second, I want to tell you what a wonderful young man you seem to be wanting to help her so much. Your parents must be very proud.
I know you want her to be happy, but she has to realize happiness on her own, and with professional help. Just be there for her to talk to when she wants. She is in the safest place she can be right now, even though she may not realize it. The sad thing is is that she has to WANT the help, and sometimes severe depression makes that almost impossible.
Just be a friend right now, and don't try to take on her problems as your own, do you understand what I mean? You can be there for her but it IS IN NO WAY your responsibility to make her happy. Depression is an ugly thing.
Hang in there and I hope she gets the help she so desperately needs. I wish I would have had friends like you when I was 14. You must love her very much.
Take care.
Ask the doctor what you can do to be supportive. Knowing that you are there and care will help her tremendously. Hugs go a long way. Let her know that she scared you half to death because you can't imagine life without her. Help her get her follow up care, even having a friend sit in the waiting room while she talks to a counselor will give her the privacy she needs with the doctor, yet reinforce that she is loved.
wow! first off you are only a kid dont try to take on the world you cant change her mind...basically she has major mental issues that wont go away over night and you cant just convince her to be happy it doesnt work that way...you say she has been through a lot but that doesnt tell us what has gone on with her it may have been some very serious things that the average joe cant help her with...if you want just be there to support her but she will need counseling and maybe depression medication and depending on how bad off she is right now they might just keep her locked up until they get her mentally stable...good luck
Tyrel (your answers name)
what you seek is a big order for a 15 year old boy. It is also a dangerous one because as you become involved your emotions are involved and you too could become discouraged.
Remember her happiness is not your responsibility. You can't MAKE her happy. You can only provide friendship and caring.
I just got done writing you. :)
I would count you as one of the good things.
Also, if I remember right, she likes music. Put that in the good column.
I would also suggest a little camping trip when she gets better, a little one on one time sitting by the fire will do wonders. Maybe a trip together. Get out of the idea that life needs to go back to normal. Koi knows that normal sux. get into the mode where life needs be special.
Of course anything I can do, just ask.
well maybe theres really not alot of options u can do. y r u guys living with her grandparents, did u guys have sex or something?
So Koi lived?
Take her somewhere cool.
well this happened to my best friend last year. she was depressed and she didnt care much for her life because of her situation at home. well when my team found out we all formed a support group for her. we made sure she told us if anything was wrong and we did things to make her take her mind off of her home situation. now shes living life and enjoying it. i think all your girlfriend needs is a little reality check and show her how grateful she should be to be alive. she just needs a little attention and support. and maybe a little more love
umm. therapy would help in this case.
but you can...
treat her well, make her dinner and take her out to watch a beautiful sunset, tell her you love her and that she's beautiful. just do little, sweet meaningful things that constant show her how much she means to you.
wow im sooo sorry for your girlfriend but im glad she has a boyfriend who cares about her like you do
honestly i dont know what to tell you but just take her out and have a good time act like little kids and forget all your and her worries
good luck and
God bless
travel c the world and its many wonders about life
show her that someone (you) genuainly care about her.
Im SO sorry, she needs to see a psychiatrist (thats not a bad thing whatsoever.)
She needs God in her life. God loves her and you. Let her know that no matter what happens that God will always love her. God has a plan for her life. Thats so important. God is, always was, and always will be there for her. He will help her to get through these hard times in her life. Life is worth living. Dont let Satans lies deceive her into thinking that that life is not worth living. Believe in Gods Word. His Words are true. Believe in His Son and know that through His Son he saved us. Giving us the chance to have eternal life. The most important thing is that God has a plan for her life. That is amazing to know that God has always been there for us and wants to bless us in every area of our lives. I'll be sure to keep you guys in prayer.
God bless you
Im glad to hear you are sticking by her through all of this. Thats what she needs right now is a strong person in her life to help her. When she gets out of the hospital shes going to need to get help..i mean ALOT of help. She has some really deep seeded issues that need to be fixed because if they arent shes going to keep trying to kill herself. She may need to go into one of the clinics that give her constant supervision and all the help she needs. Im so sorry to her that shes going through all of those things and I will keep her in my prayers. Just remember..shes been through alot, and although you may get frustrated let her know that you arent going to hurt her or leave her..let her know how much shes loved. Because its obviously something she didnt hear alot when she was young and it will help her more than anything.God Bless you and Good Luck.
If and most important, you have to remember you can't make her happy, she has to make herself happy. Unfortunately unless she is willing to get help-counseling and medication, chances are she will always be fighting the demons of her past. Since she tried to kill herself, legally her guardians should be able to force her into in patient care and most hospitals have a plan to help people without a cost. She is very fortunate to have someone who cares enough to ask the questions you have. I will be praying for you both.
Shes been on here before.. I recognize the story..
Show her all the good things in her life, make her feel good abotu herself, make her want to live.
makeout with her in the rain. works for me. lol. it does! :)
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