Ok i need help for my m8 she is severely depressed?
and i dont need all that argy-bargy bull s_h_i_t from those hartless people sayin its good that her baby died(( some people put those kind of answers on her boyfriends questions ))
Answer:
You're a special person for wanting to help and to be with her. And your mom is special, too, for letting you.
The best thing you can do is to be with her and listen to her and let her cry if she wants. Don't try telling her anything like "it was meant to be" or "God needed another little angel" because that never helps and isn't what she wants to hear. Just let her know you care.
Her boyfriend sounds pretty cool, too, like he really cares. That's good. Often the husband/boyfriend doesn't understand because he never saw the baby or felt it inside him like the mother did, so it isn't real to him.
This website http://www.tcfphoenix.org/suggestions.ht... has suggestions for families and friends of someone who has lost a child.
Your friend will have lots of ups and downs and it may take a long time before she starts feeling better. Don't rush her. We all grieve at a different rate. Just keep letting her know that you care. That's the best thing you can do. And, yes, if she feels like she has to hurt herself, she needs a professional to help her understand why and how to keep from doing it. That's not something you or her boyfriend can handle by yourselves.
God bless.
you didn't say how far along she was in her pregnancy..I found this helpful site if she had a miscarriage.
The only thing that I can say is just be there for her. If she gets to the point where she is wanting to cut herself or gets really out of control, than she will need to seek medical advice. How long ago did she lose her baby? Just remind her that God has special reasonings as to why she did not keep the baby. Noone ever knows why, but things always happens for a reason. Try and keep her busy, so that way she is not just sitting around thinking all day long. Let her know that once her body heals, both mentally and physically, she can always retry. Good Luck, and I am sorry to hear this.
you just need to be there for her and be a friend tell her that it was not her fault and unfortunately it sometimes happens.
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