How do I discipline my 11 yr old when he doesn't care if I ground him and take his things away??
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Sounds like your 11 yr old is at the age where the old discipline of grounding and taking his things away won't work anylonger. Maybe you need to start treating him as a young person and not a child, when he does something wrong try sitting down with him and letting him know what he did was wrong and how his actions are disapointing and upsetting to you. Then ask him what he thinks would be an apropiate punishment.
depends on what he did, make him visit elderly people in a nursing home
go longer or find anohter weakness but stick to your guns....
He is not too old to be spanked. Don't let him think he can push you over, you're the boss. Take down his pants and put him over your knee, no matter how weird it seems he's going to be so shocked that he wont disobay you again.
"Foolishness is bound up in the heart of a child; The rod of correction will drive it far from him." Proverbs 22:15
"The rod and rebuke give wisdom: But a child left to himself brings shame to his mother." Proverbs 29:15
aka "spanking"
Well, what finally got my nephew's attention was taking away literally everything. They locked him out of his room and made him sleep in a sleeping bag in the guest room and he had to earn everything back.
Of course, he was stealing stuff and getting into major trouble so that's why they took such drastic measures.
Good luck!
I guess the threat of Santa not coming this year doesn't work on an 11 year old, does it? Anyway, try taking everything away (including TV) and also give him chores to do around the house. And for each chore he doesn't do, throw away something precious to him (at least make him think you're throwing it away). When he realizes everything he had is now gone, he should straighten up.
WHile it may cause you a bit of suffering, we found that that actually REMOVING all sources of entertainment from our house works well with our 11 year old.
Have him volunteer in a nursing home or soup kitchen Or do any kind of community service. My son is 9 and the same way so we have him visit the nursing home and do activities with the elderly. It really has made a change in his attitude he likes going now.
He has actually sold you on that he doesn't care if he is grounded? Keep it up long enough (which is OK since it isn't punishment if he doesn't care!) and see how he feels after 6 months of that (or more).
No phone, no TV, no radio, no video games. Just school, eating sleeping and homework. I would allow books though, it'll teach him how to read so something good will come out of that.
don't do anything he'll learn from his own mistakes
Find d 1 ting he LOVES 4 me its tv or d computer!!Den wen he has done sumting take it away!!Works everytime!
take EVERYTHING out of his room except his matress. And he'll only have one pair of clothes to wear. and 2 pairs of underwear. And aftert 2 dayz he'll understand that he needs to respect you as the parent.
Kick his butt. Okay I know in today it is not popular to hit your kids. But it worked on me, and I am going to spank my kids. (some kids should not be hit). Anyway since you take stuff away you may be against spanking your kids. That I can understand. Anyway I would say instead of just taking things away, I would make him do hard labor. Cut the grass, pull weeds, wash windows. Everything and anything that sucks and is hard.
He doesn't care?
There is a problem. To him the threats lack meaning and depth. Stick to your guns. Really mean it. Avoid negotiation at all costs.
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