How to handle this situation involving my 12 yo girl and her bras?
Another trick is resisting learning how to put her bras on. She says it's kinda hard and says I gota help her. Well, I do, but this can't go forever.
Of course, those are childish things and I don't see any big problem, but I'd like opinions on how to handle this situation.
Answer:
Compromise and let her wear sports bras. They are not "tricky" to put on and are less restrictive, but still offer support and modesty.
She will decide to start wearing a bra when she sees all of her friends wearing them. She is just at that age.
She'll want to wearthem eventually; when her friends all are, when the boys at school make rude remarks (and you know they will). Give her time, especially if she is well-endowed, she will appreciate them soon enough.
Does she really need one? If she is just starting to bud, I dont think it's even necessary. My daughter started with buds at about 10 years old and now really does need to wear one for support. If there is not much to support, theres not much need for a bra.
Sounds to me like you're handling it just fine. I have a 12yr old niece doing the same things. When we notice she doesn't have it on we just ask he to put it on. As far as it being difficult to put on I'll tell you the same thing I told her.. It'll get easier with practice.
Try to start her with a training bra or sports bra. It will get her used to the idea of it, and whenshe has the physical need for an actual bra she will be more comfortable with it.
I would recommend taking her to a couple different stores to try on different bras. My wife says the comfort of an expensive bra, like victoria secret, is better. She says the wires bother her. Try it.
If she doesnt really need one then dont make her wear one, but it she does you need to tell her why she needs it. My mom just bought them and I was sorta the same way but I come froma family of woman who grow over night (as in chest size but stop after a while) Cause I started when I was 11 1/2 and didnt really care for it. And would leave it but after a while they stopped growing so my mom didnt mind much. But then when I did need to wear them , I started to tolerate them, now I wont take it off unless I am going to take a bath/shower other wise it says on! She will get use to it.
well i think you know how to take care of this already, it is very weard now days i remember when i was like 10yrs old i already wanted to wear them i was dieing for some reason but things change over night right??
well good luck as long as you keep telling her she will get used to the idea !
goood luck , you are a great mom but remember to also be a great friend!
hope you have a great day!! =)
I wouldn't bother he about it. When she feels it is necessary to wear one , she will do it on her own. At this point she probably feels like she doesn't need it yet. Just give her some time. Or you could try her on some sports bras, they are much easier to put on and more comfortable.
I bought my daughter the sport bra. The ones that you just pull over your head. The are like mimi tshirts, are very comfortable and hold what they should hold.
didn't you ask this question already?
leave her
It sounds more like she is trying to get attention more than anything else. She lets you see that she is not wearing one, so you can talk to her to tell her to go put one on. And also, that she 'needs' your help putting it on.
I think she just wants to spend some more time with you while she is still a 'kid', and before she gets to old to do 'kid stuff'.
Wearing a bra an getting your period are all signs of growing up and becoming a woman, she is just trying stay a 'kid' a little longer.
She will soon get out of that phase, because of all the other girls at her school. Also, when she gets a boyfriend
i started wearing bras at 9 i am now 11 she might not want to wear them because boy make "smart" remarks when we walk by they look at our breast or butts and either try to touch them or they just say "DAMN"
Don't make her wear them if she doesn't want to. It is perfectly stylish for women to go without a bra in this day and time. It is not immoral or promiscuous. Most people will probably think she's just comfortable, if they even notice at all.
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