Isn't my mom too worried about modesty?
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She's not too strict at all. She loves you and doesn't want you to have the appearance of being easy. I have a 17 year old daughter, and it makes me very uncomfortable when grown men look at her chest and try to pick her up and she's not even an adult! My wife and I have always made her dress modestly, and she fought it, but now she understands that there are plenty of perverts out there, and she's happy we've done what we have.
your a young lady and should wear bras.
No she only wants what is best for you and you sound like a really good kid. Listen to your mum.
nope
i don't believe she is to strict, it's love..
No, you aren't worried enough.
Don't be so eager to show your body. You might be surprised how much more guys are attracted to a girl with class.
Yes,she is. And it's your fault for taking that crap from her. But don't take this seriously. I'm 13 to. I just have a baby.
She may be a little too protective, but, if you're an especially developed girl for your age, she definitely has reason. Too many dirty old perverts, along with young teenage guys whose hormones would love to stick it to you honey, in the literal and figurative sense of the word.
Hm... thats kinda tough. I don't think your mom shouldn't have THAT much control over you anymore.. I mean you are 13, but I think thats old enough to make desicions about your body. I mean I could understand if she didn't want plunging necklines or short mini skirts, but to be strict about bras? You should talk to her about it and tell her what you feel. I don't really have any other advice. Hope that helped :)
Sorry, but I agree with your mom. I'm in my early 20's and I really don't think she is being to strict on you. My mom would have had the same rule if it had ever come up. My advice is just to put up with it until you move out or turn 18 or whatever. Then it will be your decision.
You're not going to like my answer but no, I don't think she's being too strict at all. I see girls your age that are dressed way, WAY too skimpy. I definitely think you need to wear a bra too--might as well get used to it!! You'll have to wear one for the rest of your life!
So, take it off when you go out and put it on just before you get back home-keeps everyone happy. My niece looks like her nipples are about to pop out any lower and she could show her navel. Maybe your Mum wants you to look pretty not like a tart??
You need to wear a bra. You should get used to it now because you will be wearing one for the rest of your life. Sometimes we have to do things we don't like. Your mother is just trying to teach you how to dress respectably.
loooooooooooooooooooool! no marcia, she is not too strict! she wants u to be descent and good. wearing a bra makes u even look better :)
well, u will get used to wearing bra in hot whether by time. at first it is difficult, but then u'll never be able to go out without it!!
good luck!!
No Way - really wearing a bra is such a little thing to do for your mom ( & for yourself) so that she can have peace of mind. & there are some really gross people out there - protect yourself!
Trust me, if you're developed enough to need a bra, then you *need* one. Support is important and you'll understand that more as you get older. It's good that you recognize it's only because she loves you, so do yourself a favor and listen to her, she has lots more experience than you. Easier said than done I know.
Hun, how old are you? As a woman, you will eventually find that bras are TOTALLY NECESSARY you don't want saggy boobs when you're 35, so try to get used to it. Of all things your mom could make you be super modest about, this is the least of your worries. Be glad she isn't checking your skirt and shirt sizes.
Good Luck! :)
i think your mom is just looking out for your best intrest. She thinks it looks sleezy and she probably just dont want the boys to get the wrong ideas about a girl who is only 13 dressing so provacative.so i think you should just listen to your mom.
You are only 13. When girls dress indecent they attract the wrong type of guy and the wrong attention. Your mom is just looking out for you. Remember guys are naturally pigs. No bra may mean to them that you are asking for it.
I don't think she is too strict. She is just looking out for your best interest. You sound like a good kid so keep listening to your mom!
Look...its about presenting yourself as a person. Your self-image is involved. Going braless in the privacy of your own home is okay. But when you go braless shows more than you think. Anytime a woman is not wearing a bra it is very obvious. It's not a matter of your mother being strict its a matter of her teaching you self-respect. Honor yourself by covering up. Boys/men will get the wrong idea and get to look at you through your clothes. Trust me. Your mom is right. You may not think so now because you are 13, but one day you'll look back and thank your mom. You'll be thankful that she cared enough to teach you about self-respect. You should give her an extra hug for that!
No it is fair. I am 12 and a girl and my mom is same way. I dont get to dress like my friends do so i dont show much skin and my skirts have to be long and my jeans cant go down low so you can see my underthings, i always have 2 wear a bra too and i dont have hardly anething to put in there! I know not comfortabl but i think u mom is just worried for yuo like mine is. Its OK GOOD LUCK!!
I agree with your mom. Showing skin is not tasteful. It gives a bad inpression for the boys.
As for the bras? Your 13, you should be wearing a bra. Any teenager should. This is a great law your mom has!
Not wearing a bra can cause early saggage. You should wear a bra.
well i dont know about the weather there im sry but if its extremely hot then yes i know that a bra can be deathly hot i know it lol maybe you could get by with gettin thinner ones and it wont be so hot. Hope it works for you.
wuts wrong with wearing bras?
i HATEand ABSOLUTELY HATE
not having a bra on. whats the big deal?
just put one on! do you want
everyone to see your junk?
of course bras suck sometimes, but if you've got boobs (wee're talking over an a cup, a cups can get away with it) you'll be more comfortable wearing one. or try getting tanktops that have bras built in. they're warm weather clothes, and they're relatively comfy. and your mom isn't too strict. not wearing a bra makes girls look trashy and easy, and i'm assuming that's not what you want to thought of...
Marcia,
It can be so hard when your friends "get" to do things you don't, but don't forget: just because your friends are doing things, that doesn't make it right for you. (This applies to a lot of things in life as I'm sure you've noticed.)
You have to decide on your own how you want to present yourself, independently of your friends.
Your mom doesn't want you to be modest because she thinks there is something wrong with your body. It's because you're special and worth it! You are much more than just your body and when you wear 'see-through' it becomes that much harder to 'see-through' to who you are as an individual, inside.
Remember moms are under pressure nowadays too, to think "it's no big deal" and "if you've got it, flaunt it." So consider yourself VERY lucky to have a mom who not only loves you, but is strong enough to go against the current. She wants people to see your real beauty and that's great.
Take care, and and I left my URL to prove to you that no, I am not your mom. :-)
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