13 year old, escalating bad attitude, just hit his mother! Now what?!?
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Get him counseling, go on Supernanny, send him to juvi!! Whatever you do, make sure he KNOWS that he is NOT the head of the house and if he doesnt respect the rules and authority... take away some of his privledges.
beat his a.s.s he shouldnt be hitting his parents, i mean i dont believe in hitting children but he hit his mom
There are some good ideas in the book "the Defiant child". Might be worth a look.
Also, don't know where you're located, but in my state he's considered old enough to know better and that's assault. Don't be afraid to call the police.
If he hit her tonight call the police right now and let him go to juvenile for a few days. He needs to know that what he did is unacceptable and will not be tolerated and when you show him you mean business he will back down.
sounds like its time for hard punishment..be looking into military school..some places even have one of those "scare tactic" programs where they let out of control kids see what can happen when they think nothing can touch them..look into that too. good luck, had it been someone in my family doing this kind of action they'd got their butt beat and never forgotten it. i don't suggest this
I agree w/ KOI this kid needs to be taught who is in charge. If one of my kids took my purse or hit me my husband would whoop his A**..He thinks therapy is a joke and he gets the "I.m a bad kid" attention he wants. He is also teaching the other 3 kids that they can do what they want and get away with it..
Call the cops on him then whip his *** til they get there. He needs to go to boot camp and then you need to camp your boot up side his ***. He has some serious issues if he is hitting his mom.
wack him back
you need to bust his azz something fierce!!! that little punk needs a smackdown in the biggest way. i would be happy to do it for you, but i'm sure you wouldn't like that much. but also, you as the parents are to blame as well because you have allowed him to get to this point. when he was younger and showing these bad tendencies, you didn't do much (if anything) to stop him and this only encouraged him more and more. too many parents don't understand even the most basic psychology of a child, when to be soft and when to be a hard-azz. you need to learn this ASAP!!!
He needs his a** beaten. Only ingrates and lowlifes hit thier mothers. And when I say a**, I mean he needs to be bent over a good knee and shown what a child he still is.
If he hit his mother call the cops. They can take him away and scare the fear in him. He ain't listening at home so maybe a couple days at juvenile jail would be in order. Also the courts can order counseling. He needs it!!
I WATCH A MOVIE ON DAT MANNER!
it scalate so bad on the movie dat the younger brother end up in the '' hospital.
Id say put him into military school.
she's the mother!
and while hes in her house, hes supposed 2 do what he was told!
hes picking on her bcause she is a woman, no offence but some men beleive women a weaker!
id call the police, and have him removed, then if or when he comes back, if he continue, get a restrain order, then trow his behind out..
it will hurt i know.. but is for her own safety!
whop his AZZ, and tell him, the next time he raise his hand at his mother. he betta be askin her a question.!!!!!!!
Counseling is the only way to go at this point. And do it soon. If he is the eldest, his younger brothers could be easily influenced by his bad behavior.
However, i don't believe that using coercion is the solution at this point. You will only push him further away & make him more aggressive. Discipline is something that should have been instilled in him long ago. But at this point, you need to help him see that his attitude is not good for him or for the people around him. And for that, he needs to first resolve any issues that might have led to him being aggressive. So quick..get a psychologist!
slap that boy.
teach him to be respectful.
tell him to pick a branch off of the nearest tree and you can take it from there.
If he feels like he should be treated like an adult, treat him like an adult. Don't wake him for school, don't transport him to school, don't prepare his food, ultimately, make him take care of himself. He probably won't like this, and will hopefully therefore willingly take his place in your family unit as a 13 year old.
Otherwise, there are schools you could send him to. Tell him this. Make him believe you are actually considering sending him away for awhile. This worked on my 17 year old brother, and he stopped falling for my parents' "plans" years ago.
Give him a good old-fashioned spanking!
This happened to a friend of mine, with her 14 year old daughter.
After her older sister left, she all of a sudden tried acting like she was 18, being bossy, pushing her younger brother around, staying out until the early morning hours, not doing homework, skipping school and totally disrespecting her mother and her mother's boyfriend (who owns the house they are all living in). They both talked to her time and time again and finally told her if she acts up one more time they were going to call the cops. She acted up, they called the cops and she went to juvie hall for a weekend. Now, she's home every day right after school, does chores, shows respect, stays in school, does her homework, stopped pushing her brother around and has an 8 p.m. curfew.
They had to scare her before she finally stopped.
Take him on the Maury show.
violence ain't the answer... are u sure nothing else is goin on, like trouble at school? my little sis went though a faze and she was biteing hitting and pinching me and my mum and my dad, skipping school, sneaking out hanging out with the wrong ppl, sneaking out , underage drinking, we took he to get help turns out she has problems with some teacher, and girls at school
get him into some counseling. also have him spend a few day in juvenil detention center. that should straighten him right up. do not put up with this. if you let this go he is only going to get worse.
send him to a bootcamp/juvi you have three other boys to be taking care of dont nad believe it or not hes setting the example for them since hes the oldest. wheres the ungrateful little brats father? you need to get him some serious punishment
how about the mother beats that child's *** i think that would work perfectly!
WWW.boy'sandgirlstown.org call 1-800-448-3000 and call the police and press charges. If he hit u.
The fact that he has hit his mother now shows that he's reached a new level of whatever is going wrong with him. Perhaps you have been to therapy with him, to little effect - but there are other therapists you can see. A therapist usually gets a general idea of the problem area when you set up a first appointment. You should just say immediately that you have already seen physical violence on his part.
At the very least, the therapist will think about getting him into the office sooner rather than later.
If a boy hits his mother, my reaction (if I were the mother or the father) would be to have the police on the phone. I would make sure that if he wants to be treated like an adult, he should make the acquaintance of the police so that he knows that they will be there to punish him as well as his parents.
Actually, I know that in the right kind of mood, I would have have that kid on the floor with his arm twisted behind him and I'd tell him that it would be the last time he'd ever raise his hand to me. He would have to apologize and if he hesitated, he'd end up having to beg for my forgiveness!
I'm not sure if this kid has ever tried drugs but he sounds like there is something in his life that has him on edge and desperate. He's not only shown that he can do bodily harm to a woman but he has shown that he could steal if he wanted to - that is what holding someone's purse hostage amounts to.
Have I convinced you yet? If you need to get the police involved, and the school, and the rest of the boys in the family, do it. He's only going to show the other brothers how far he can go and what you will let him get away with.
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