What can I do with my 13 year old who thinks he can go where he wants whenever he wants to go?
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This really works---------go to the Police dept. talk to them and tell them the next time he leaves the house you are going to call them and have them pick him up--------he is at the age where he can have the daylights scared out of him by being picked up by the cops. When /if you do go to the PD ask them should they pick him up to put the fear in him.
Drag his *** back into the house and ground him so the younger kids see that it is unacceptable behavior!! As for cussing, a little soap in the mouth never hurt anyone even if you have to hold him down! Or for that matter, a crack across the face!
Just let him do what he wants. He is grown up. If he gets himself in anykind of trouble, he has to deal with it, not u. Just let him do what he wants and pretty much ignore him. Make him make his own meals, wash his own clothes, clean up his own room and maybe take his allowance away from him and make him get a job.
or you could just beat his ***
If he continues to leave without your permission he is running away and undermining your authority and I feel you have every right to call the police to intervene. Most of the time they will talk to him first.If he does it again they will take him to juvenile for a overnight lock up to scare him.If not and he leaves and gets in trouble after you tell him no YOU are responsible for his actions. If he gets hurt even after you told him no you are responsible and could be jailed for negligence. If you let law enforcement know about his behavior there will be documented proof and will help you help him.
The early teenage years are time for the young siblings to try their wings. Parents, it seems to them, get in the way of that exploration. Now I am not saying you shouldnt set limitations. What i am saying, you should pick your battles. As long as the child isnt abusive to others, and he isnt picking up bad habits like drugs, smoking and such, dont demand that he stick to the same rules that a child of 9 might have to abide with. and listen to your child, ask questions which wont demean him,
You might also do what my mom did to me once, after I had left the house without telling her where I was going. One day I came home from school and she wasnt home, I didnt know where she was. I worried about her. When she returned home, she told me she was doing what I had done before. after that I always told her where I was going, or left a note. This might work for you
sounds like a typical teenager to me, even though i never acted like that cuz i would have been spanked
ground him now it only gets worse
Kick his ***!
It'll work!
Just do it!
In front of the other kids too lol.
well .. I do know that kids will be kids. I do not feel that he is out of control, but as he gets older just give him more freedom. It will make him feel responsible. Once he gets older and hit puberty he will mature a little bit. As for the younger kids, explain to them that what their older brother is doing is unacceptable.
Obviously, when you ground him YOU must ground yourself, too, so that he cannot leave the house. If you have to, change your locks to dead bolt internal "key only" and remove the key that works the lock.
Be sure he understands the terms and conditions of the grounding - no phone, no computer, no video games, no leave the house (or whatever your rules are) for XX amount of time.
Be sure that he understands that if he breaks your rules, his time in "prison" is doubled. Also tell him that talking back, swearing, etc. will no longer be tolerated and again, if you hear that stuff, his punishment will be extended.
You might also give him the opportunity to "work off" some of his hours in prison by doing hard labor around the house.
You need to talk to him about all this stuff BEFORE the next occurrence!! New year - new rules conversation.
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