I Cought My Teen Daughter Having Sex What Shoutd I Do??
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First give her some protection cause if she wants to your not going to stop her but talk to her and let her know the pros and cons of having sex and be sure to let her know even if you don't want to hear or say it tell her that if she were to ever get pregnant no matter the situation she can talk to you. Just don't yell at her for it or act disgusted just talk to her and try to find out why she did weather it was curiousty or pressure but just talk.
Talk to her and dicuss with her in a calm manner.
Take her to the doc... Have the doctor explain the ins & outs (bad pun) of sex to her. You should also sit & talk to her & her partner & her partners parents, (even if you all can't /wont sit down together his parents needs to know too!) about sex as well as your opions & rules for her while she is living at your house. Set good limits & boundaries and very clear consiquences. Always be consistant & firm. Try not to lose your temper or be angry. It is okay to be disappointed though. Try to encourage open lines of communication, just be loving & patient! Good Luck!
well 1st how old is she...but the best thing u can do is to educate her on sex and STDs and pregnancy, and inform her she is not to have guys over in YOUR house...that's is totally disrespectful...and if she is a young teen(like 13-14) i would kill the guy and lock her up...that is way too young and she can do serious damage to her body...scare it into her...buy having sex too early or with too many partners u could actually cause yourself cervical caner when u r older and may never be able to kids of her own...i hope this helps...i have 2 daughters and i am dreading the teen yrs...Good Luck
First of all find out how long it has been going on and does she have some form of birth control. Have her get a full ob/gyn exam and pregnancy test. Next put her on birth control if she isn't. Since you didn't state her age I can only guess from here. I would ground her completely for violating family rules. To me that means no computer, no cell phone (take it away), no going out anywhere with friends, etc. She has to go to school, but she would have to come straight home. NO BOYS period. If she is over 18 all of that is a moot point. I would also suggest counseling for her and you.
no parent can control their children, worse if they're teens and dating. My best advise is to talk to your daughter about STD's! you should get some videos or photographs of genital infections, inform her about what can happen if she doesn't use a condom. Condoms are the #1 in protecting from STD's and pregnancies!
Well sit down and discuss the consequences of having sex and then since she's already experienced it one time that you know of instead of being a grandma when your not ready then I would bring her to the doctor and get her put on birth control ASAP! Good Luck!!
Talk to her as calmly as possible, I'm pretty sure she has a good reason why she did it? Was her age anyway? Maybe you can talk to her about the consequences of this action. Unwanted pregnancy, AIDS and STDS, etc. Don't reproach anything what's done it's done, try to understand her. Most of all don't yell at her, tell her how much you love her and care for her.
Punish her.
well there is really nothing you can do, if she wants to do that to herself...like you said..let her make her own mistakes..
Mere punishment is not enough in this situation because she does not understand the severity of what she did, especially if she thinks it is just a joke. Sit her down and talk to her about why she is doing it and what the consequences of her actions are. From STD's to pregnancy, to even a promiscuous reputation at school because I know ZERO boys that kept their mouth shut about sex. Educating her is the best thing to do, and try to do it without flying off the handle. Sit and talk to her as if she was an adult ( even though we all know she is not ) but that is the way she sees herself.
Step up and take charge. Sit her down, explain that it is not ok and WHY, and then set ground rules. It's ok if she gets mad. If kids are not mad at their parents, then the parents are not doing it right. (or there is something wrong with the kid. hehe)
Take her to an abortion clinic to view discarded fetuses (if they allow it). Show her pictures of std's and show her a video of someone giving birth. Most of all, explain to her the bad things that will happen and WHY you don't want this to happen to her.
If you have to, drop her off at school, pick her up afterwards, ground her to the house. expl that actions cause reactions and if she wants to be an adult by having sex, she needs to act like an adult.
Well, you know what we were told : it takes two to tango . I would call on his parents absolutely immediately and inform them of the news. She is under age and that means contributing to the delinquency of a minor. Anybody touches my daughter, trust me , they are in BIG trouble .
Sure, it's easy to say don't be mad at her blah, blah, blah. You want to be a grandmother , I don't think so. They don't have the faintest idea what those raging hormones are causing on misery . I trust you are open about the subject in general and have a discussion in great detail . No rosy, flowery language .Lay it on the line . All the stuff other folks on here have told you already . Do it .
Make sure she is punished for her indiscretion . Don't be a pushover . No being alone with this guy . Now, most important to get her to a doctor and do not be embarrassed. Get her on the pill, it is a precaution .
If she is 18 you can forget all the good advice and hope for the best .
I went through a terrible time too . It all worked out in the end . Maybe they know more than we give them credit for . It is just so very bad to think about a pregnancy and a life in danger with all the STDs out there .
Good Luck .
hope they had protection
TALK TO HER...AND TAKE HER TO THE DOC JUS iN CASE OF ANY STD's
First take her to the doctor and get on birth control
Second, if you know someone with an infant, have her babysit
Third, If she thing sex is a joke, she is way to young to have sex. I think you should put in therapy. At least she might learn that sex is not funny.
How old the boy, can he be charge ? Not fair for the boy, but sex is not funny
Get her one of those babies that they provide in school and say congrates your pregnant. I am of the opinion that sex should be saved for marriage, but whats done is done. Definatley talk TO her (not at her) about what has taken place. Let her know what your rules are for your home. And educate her as much as possible. You can give her the pro's and con's of both sides. I dont find that there is security in sex before marriage. Lol I wouldnt let her see that guy again and would definatley take away certain privacy privaledges, but my veiw dont work for everyone. Good Luck
since she already lost her virginity, she will be tempted to do it again. You should tell her the dangers of sex such as pregnancy, AIDS, HIV, gonerea, etc. Tell her to always use a condom, that way the next time she will be safe.
Why would you want her to make mistakes on her own. U think you should allow her to make the mistake of having sex at 14 on her own? Your supposed to disipline her and she wont hate you. Shouting at her because she had sex wont make her hate you.
Take her to the doctor and make her start taking birth control. There is a difference between making your own mistakes when you're young and stupid and becoming a mother.
also, it sounds like she has some self esteem issues... maybe conseling is a good idea?
maybe try and talk to her about it as a friend, not a mother, she might open up to you
If she is already sexually active, you must discuss protection and contraception to her. Pregnancy would be the least of her worries if she contracts a nasty STD or HIV/Aids. Give her something to think about and help decide which method she is comfortable with.
Talk to her about it, tell her out of respect to you it should not be done in your house, or other places where you might catch her. Explain about pregnancy, STDs and the complication with both. Tell her that she can always talk to you and encourage her to ask alot of questions. There really isn't anything you can do, other than make her see sex is over rated, until you find "the one" but i remember being 14, and if somebody told me that id laugh. but it is true!
I think taking her to the GYN, and u talking to her about sex and stds is enough punishment for a teen lol ALso give her the preggo talk cause im sure u dont want grandbabies..
U cant punish someone for having sex, sex is natural and sure she is young but im sure u raised her right. Just educate her in everything so she isnt afriad to talk to u about it or uses her body as a boy toy.
GOod luck with ur daughter :-)
eh-hem ur name is posted as "sexy_bad_*****" where do you think she gets this u weirdo?
First of all, if shes doing it then she isnt thinking it just a joke. Second of all, if shes old enough to know how to do it shes old enough to make her own decisions. Teens like to do what there told not to do because it gives tem the feeling of freedom. Shes going to do it weather u like it or not she going to do it some day and likly continue now. If you try to tell her what to do or sheild her from it shell just begin to hate u and do it more and worse things. Let her do what she wants an if something bad comes from it shell have to deal with it and learn the hard way. Dont try to sheild her from a sex life, believe it or not the kids who are put under house holds with lots of rules start craving freedom. The less rulls in a house hold the better. I had friends when I was younger and 1 of them was completly sheltered and lived under so many rulles. The 1st time she had sex was when she was 11. And my other friend had only a few rulles to follow just common scence and dicipline which is what kids should have and she stayed virgin untill she was 17. Shes probably afraid to ralk to you about sex because you sheild her to much from it. If you talked to her about it and not like aying DONT DO IT ITS BAD. Just talk to her about youre experiences then shell likely open up more. Give her a little more privacy and freedom shell turn out fine. For instance doing lil things can make her more trusting with u. Even knocking b4 u enter her room. Dont let her hav to much freedom still give her diciplen but try to understand her P.O.V b4 getting so crazy about it.
kids are gonna have sex. its not the 1800's any more. just talk to her and tell her the facts. maybe even buy her some condoms so she is safe. i know its hard but i wish my mom would have done that
Take her to the doctor immediately so that she can be on the contraception injection (she needs to be on her period for the first time injection). What is wrong with you? You are the adult, and should have excellent communication with your daughter.
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