Would you?
I have let use a small amount of mascara and a little lip gloss..but wait for it now she wants to wear foundation etc.. why .cause all her friends do!!!
I am not comfortable with the idea, i gave into the lip gloss and mascara now it's this.
My daughter is right when she says everyone is wearing it as i see it all every morning on the school run with my son,but i am not being funny these girls look like sl*ts and i don't want her to look like that.
Help what would you do???
Answer:
I would say let her use some tinted moisturiser so that she at least fits in with her friends, but help her to make sure she uses it correctly. That way you have some bonding time and she won't look sl*tty.
too long
let her put it on and get other people to point and laugh at her and say look at that terrible makeup and she'll no longer want to wear it.
you could get her a tinted moisturiser. That way she would still feel like shes wearing make-up but it would be a lot more subtle than wearing foundation and also won't damage her skin.
at the end of the day, if you don't let her she is just gonna borrow some from her friends, so let her wear some but just make sure it doesn't look too bad
Your not her friends mother... putting on too much make up will make her look to much older than she is... which will open her up to the world of older guys and lying about her age... She's only 13 at least let her get to highschool first... I wasn't alllowed to wear more than powder and lip gloss till i was about 15 my sisters were 16 before they could wear any makeup! But your her mom and stand your ground. And they look like sluts because their parents are letting them grow up way to fast!
I had a friends parent who would only let her wear make up to church at first... then as she got older more mature and learned how to apply it she allowed her to wear it to school... and it showed her she really didn't need that much makeup. so maybe slowy let her do more... but remember because her friends are is never a good reason to give in!
why dont u show her how to apply the foundation so she doesnt look like a s!ut? she might have spots and want to conceal them..i think little girls with make-up just look like what they are..little girls in make up, it desnt make them a s!ut, make-up is a rite of passage...
In germany we say,
The truth is like a farmer-/countryside girl, without make-up she (it) is most beautiful (attracting).
"Die Wahrheit ist wie ein Bauernmaedchen, ungeschminkt am schoensten"
Tell her. :] Please do NOT run around like a indian temple maid/prostitute.
O. von Krautland, Steinhenge
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Show her some pictures from something like perezhilton.com or something and the affects of makeup abuse
This is a difficult one - I would try to persuade her that natural looking make-up is far more flattering during the day and maybe look at some pictures of celebs as role models (ones who are young and pretty rather than ones who look like slappers). Tell her boys hate girls who are caked in make-up!
the more you give in the more she will ask for. I would say stand your ground.....good luck.
ur her mother and she is asking for ur permission which is a good start, preharps u could let her she is a teenager now.. show her the correct way of applying foundation... so she doesnt look like a sl*t, and make sure its the right colour too. preharp u could start of slowly by allowing her to wear it for special reasons and not school untill u are more comfortable. this way she will not go behind ur back and do it anyway
Oh god i'm dreading my daughter growing up. You could get her some tinted moisturiser? Although to be honest i'm planning to lock my daughter in a cupboard when she gets to this stage.
Let her only wear it at weekends? Good luck
She is at that age, I would try faking her out with a translucent powder or like a sheer powder. My mom took a before and after picture of me when I was maybe 12 or 13 and I looked like a clown, haha! It kinda convinced me to not to go too crazy with makeup for a while. But my mom also gave me a choice, the sheer powder w/mirror compact, lightly tinted lip gloss or a neutral eyeshadow. I only got to have 1 at a time and then I slowly graduated to 2 at a time and so forth. Hope this helps!
Stick to my guns! I wasn't allowed to wear make uo until I was 15 and that was only because I worked after school and weekends at a beauty salon. If you give in to her on this how is that making you look to her? She will think that you will give in on anything. Please stick to your guns. Or at least give her an ultimatum. Tell her that if she waits till she is a year or two older yo uwill take her to a professional who will show her how to wear make up properly so that she looks natural not like Coco the Clown. I saw this a lot in my old job and apparently it really works!
Let her - all girls are into make-up. Whatever it is you are worried about discuss with her and encourage her to follow a skincare regime so she doesn't irritate her skin.
I told my 16 year old daughter a couple of years ago that if she learned how to put it on properly so that she didnt look like a circus clown then i would let her wear some to school - she sat for days trying out make up and asking me if it looked ok until i finally said yes - she started with blue and pinks but i finally wore her down to beige tones
now when she goes anywhere with her friends or me her makeup is nice and she looks natural instead of looking like she ran head long into a cosmetics factory (like some do)
hope this tip helps
I would compromise with her, agree to let her wear it if she'll take make-up lessons from you or someone that is great at doing make-up. So that way she'll learn how to make it blend and not make it look to dark so she'll look good.
This is really hard. My mum never let me wear make-up and I used to slap my friends make-up on once I got to school. I'm 24 now with 2 kids of my own and can see this from your point of view, I agree with what someone else said and get her some tinted moisturiser but explain to her why you don't want her plastered in foundation. Plus all that stuff isn't gonna do her young skin much good either. Good luck to you hope your daughter doesn't give you to much grief over it. Sarah xx
Ask her why she really thinks she needs it? Do her friends get more boys cause they wear it? Personally, as a guy, I dont like girls that wear a ton of makeup. It makes them look fake and plastic.
how a bout the new mineral foundations ?
they are powder and not too expensive
( can't put it on to heavily!)
make her practice at home first
do before and after shots
maybe get pics of donts and dos
I'm now 14, so I do know what are the girls like in this age.
At first even if you don't let her wear it she will probably put on someone's foundation just before the first lesson and remove it after the last one, this is exactly what most of my friends do :) And yes, I can't disagree, they do look like *this word here* However not the make-up itself make them look so bad. Basically there are two reasons why they are so: First, they don't actually know how to use it. Second, they want everyone see they wear make up. Afterward they just can't stop, because they think their skin is too way bad to show it, well, they do have a lot of spots... But anyway you must not forget the psychological aspect. Your daughter must not feel herself uncomfortable at school. I'm saying that, because I had the same problem. You may try to deal with this just as my mom did. She bought me a foundation and mascara for teens and an every day use cleaning lotion. She won't have to use a lot of it and she will always look natural.
if you put your foot down shs going to do it anyway behind your back, so its best its upfront, take her to debenhams and the staff will advise, a colour that blends well will look good without looking tartish, ita a natural phase to look grown up, and she wont want to be the odd one out, at least shes being honest with you.
Call Carol Baker Visage or another makeup place. For $20 you can buy her a membership that includes 11 free makeup applications (once a month except in December). When I wanted to wear makeup my mum took me there and they showed me not only how to wear minimum makeup for maximum effect, but told me the proper way to wear makeup.
The reason most of these girls look like sl*ts is because they wear 10 lbs of foundation and decide 1/2 inch eyeliner looks great. If she learns properly, she has no excuse to look like a teenage wh*re :P
well im 13 (14 in 8 days =]) and i do feel pretty bare when i'm not wearing make-up. if she applys it properly then she won't look like a sl*t and lets face it 13 year olds do get stroppy when they don't get their way!! i think you should let her wear it because she might feel left out when all her friends are having make-up chats and stuff but dnt let her do what girls in my year do and wear foundation way too dark for them so that you're orange and your neck is white. its pretty disgusting lol
This is a tough one! When I was growing up, all the girls in my school wore make up, but not me, my mother would not allow it. I was the most unpopular girl in my year, and the other kids used to make fun of me because I was 'ugly'. When I finished school, and went to college, aged 18, was when I met the friends that to this day are still by my side, it was then that I started wearing make up and socilaising, which in my opinion was'nt such a bad thing. The only thing I would change if I could would be a little guidance from my mum, unfortunately, I went through the far too much make up stage and looking ridiculous stage but only realised when it was too late. I guess what I am trying to say, is that only starting to wear make up at aged 18, did not do me any harm, so if your gut instinct does not like the idea of your daughter wearing make up, dont allow it, you are her mother, and at the end of the day, she is still a child. In saying that, my daughter is only 3 months old, so I have a lot to learn when it comes to parenting! Hope it all works out, Good Luck!
teach her the right way to wear it. to make it look lik your not wearing any at all, tell her also that foundation can cause her to break out in pimples since it clogs pores eye liner mascara and lip gloss goes a long way if applied properly. i know you as a mother do not want to think about your teenage daughter (your baby) growing up fast and sex and boys and all that are coming but you as the parent have instilled in your daughter your morals and now you have to trust her and yourself as a mother that she will make the right choices but dont make her feel left out and dont be the reason she being made fun of at school
now we know in there real world it doesnt matter what everyone else does but she hasnt learn for herself yet you have to let her learn for herself
Let her do it but give her mum to daughter tips to do it right. This is a time for bonding between you and what you do in the next few years has a massive effect on her own future and you reltionship with your daughter.
She IS growing up and odds are in a couple of years will be having sex with boys, boyfriends, things going wrong, crying to mum, things going right happy as a cat in a wool factory.
You wont stop it... your job is simply to help her through it so it works out best.
14 year year olds are dating but new to make up.
Its no different to the boys trying to look a little bad and cool with their flashy traners and rebellious earrings etc.
She is not trying to be a hooker. Shes is wanting to grow up as her hormones tell her to and fit in.
Also NOTE
Good one where.
The freakier she looks ie goth, metalhead, raver, hippy punk etc.
Usually the nicer the group she will hang in and safer, the more ghettoised gang culture the more in danger she will be and the more proper the more bitchy her group will be.
First time you pu on make up bet you looked a right mess.
Not as you wanted to look a **** as you say but simply it takes practice and thats what mums are for... Help her look her best to get the attention from boys ... Just being 13 it should simply be to get a kiss and hold hands sweetheart thing...
Puppy love and all that, then 14 more second base ie kiss and hands over clothes. 15 for 3rd base and starting to go steady,
For most 151/2 to 17 1/2 for full sex relationships and going steady in terms of months or a year realtioship, getting more serious and in love snd knowing what she is doing so by the time shes 18 and in uni knows really what shes doing, no longer running back to mum when things go wrong. Partying, experimenting and towards last year probably flat shareing.
Thats what most girls I have knows have followed patterns something like that Certainly lots of snogging infront of mates late 15-18 and talking about all the places they done it.
Thats not slutty. Its how thingsa work as a teenager when you have lots of freinds, partying and trying new stuff.
Horrified??
Dont be... its just growing up and you should have great memories of it all.
First loves and all that.
But thats to come.
Now this is the time for precisou mum and daughter time learning about makeup and finding her look and style so she does not like like a five year old who got hold of the paint box.
Very shortly Im guessing padded bras as well .
This is not being pervey its being honest.
What you need to be is be honest to yourself. What were you really like and how did you really feel that age when you got the hots for the first boy you really liked and wanted him so badly to notice you.
What she also needs is assertiveness lessons and self defence lessons to toughen up a little so can handle boys and the effect of her new girlie powers over guys... So she is confidence and gets to do what she wants with boys, but only what SHE wants with boys.
Most likly will push it to much to work out boundries. Helps to have somone slightly older to keep an eye on things.
Often its too much first then working balance out
Im nearly 17 and I very rarely use foundation so at her age she shouldn't need it. Maybe you should compromise by buying her some eye shadow or blusher?
Let her wear make-up. My daughter is 12 and i allowed her to wear make-up. She can wear everything but eye linner this year. She dosen't look like a s**t. I only allow her to wear certain amounts.
you need to think was you or did u wanna wear makeup at 13 because i did and probually allot of other people did too a little wont harm or make her look like a s!ut just make sure you show her how to put it on tidy shes growing up now and just wants to be like everyone else
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