If you a teenager is it right for someone to keep things from you?
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I don't think it is right, something similar happened to me. My grandmother had a stroke about 2 weeks ago, so my dad was forced to tell me when he had to go to the hospital, but tried to make it seem like it was very minor and nothing would happen, even though they did not know if it was minor or not yet. I suspected from the start he was keeping things from me, because whenever my grandma got in the hospital, he would usually not tell me until about three days or so after the incident happened, even though everyone but me knew, including my brothers, so sometimes i would not even know my grandmother was in the hospital until a couple days after she was already out. He wouldn't tell me my grandmothers condition, if it was good or bad, getting better or worse, and he would not let me see her, claiming she told him not to let anyone but my aunts and uncles see her, even though i knew this was not true, because he let it slip that she could not talk and was unable to move on her right side, so she could not have told or written anyone that. When she died, the fact that i thought she had been getting better made this even a worse thing for me. Sometimes people try to protect by not telling you the truth, like my dad, and many other people, but in the end you are usually hurt from the fact they were not telling you the truth of what is happening, and the fact that a bad result like death is much more sudden, versus when you knew someone was dying.
Yes, you are still a child, protected by your parents. They ARE protecting you, not leaving you out. When things calm down, ask what happened. If you want the truth, tell them you are a big girl and can handle it. If they don't tell you, or don't give you details, be satisfied with that. I'm sure they wouldn't keep anything important from you.
I dont know enough but yes in some cases it is better that you dont know. But they could have kept it hidden better so that you werent worrying about just now
yes, and they are waiting for the right time to let you know. You will find out.
PS. Forgive them. They are probably preoccupied with whatever is going on, so just wait. (Have you thought of asking---maybe they overlooked letting you in on the "secret"?)
It depends. If it concerns you, then yes, you should have an idea of what's up. If it has no bearing on your life, then, no. They might be keeping you in the dark in order to work out a definite - no sense worrying about a MAYBE.
If something is being kept from you, they are doing it for your sake. Have you asked what is going on? If you have, just leave it for now and ask again at another time. If they still wont tell you or do not tell you much then let it go. I am sure that if it is something you need to know you will be told in good time, if not try not to worry.
I agree with the earlier answer that there is no point worrying you with a maybe. But, you could perhaps say that not knowing is upsetting you anyway. If you ask though, be willing to hear the answer.
i think that you have a family that are trying to protect you but they are problely going the wrong way about it i think you should confront them with what your feeling and tell them your worried about whats happening its likely to be quite big but take it like the young adult you are show them that you are to be trusted as an adult in your own right but remember they only keep things from you because they think that they are trying to protect you because in your family's eye your there baby and you always will be they can not help that
dont be sad.. sometimes its good for us not to know all things.. sometimes the truth hurts.. or else someone keep secrets to you because they want to surprise you.. ^^
SURPRISE!!
It depends on the person and situation but sometime adults keep things from kids (and yes, teenagers are kids) to protect them. We might not like it, but it happens and sometimes it is for our best interests even though we can't understand that.
If you really want to know, ask your parents (or whoever is keeping things from you) what is going on. If they want to keep "protecting" you, they will, and if they don't, they'll tell you.
Good luck.
maybe they havnt told you because they dont know the full extent of the problem themselves. Parents and adults in general dont want to worry children and teenagers as its their job to protect them from pain and fear. dont worry sweetie
No, but their probably trying to protect you
#1 you dont say how old you are, #2 some things are not meant to be heard by the younger people in the house either because you need not worry or it is just none of your business.
if its to protect your feelings and to keep you from being upset then yes its ok to keep things from you. I talked to a friend of mine today and she said that she learned that when people want you to know things they will tell you. I'm sure the things being kept from you are to protect you and your peace of mind. I hope this helps!
Don't rush to become an adult it's not so great. Your parents and family are protecting you wish I still had my Mum and Dad to look after me but now I am the older one. Funny but I still feel that inside I am no older than you yet I am a grandmother..where did that time go?
no not really when my mom was a teenager and my mammy told her everything? why?
it depends...
(poss a surprise for you)
or something very serious... tell them how you feel and you aint stupid
Older members of the family are entitled to privacy. When they have a problem and want help from family, they may not welcome having all their personal details passed on to the teenagers in the family.
After all, if you were over, say 70, would you want it?
If its something that is for everyone to know, then you'll be told in time (their time).
Teenagers talk about "their rights", but other people have them too.
It's may be right to keep some things from other adults or other teenagers or those younger than you. Sometimes you will get to tell someone everything other times you'll keep bits of info back and others you will just have to keep a secret (even from family). This is what you will experience if you are not experiencing it already which I suspect you may be.
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