What am I to do about my daughter?!?
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Like alot of the others that have answered already, I too was a troubled teen. There comes a point where you can't get through to your child, no matter what you do. My mom did what no parent wants to do an that is "Tough Love". I believe someone else mentioned this but there is actually a group. They didn't have a website years ago but they do now. Check it out. It worked for my mom. It didn't help me (I had to do that myself) but it helped her to deal with me and to take care of her. Here's the link: http://www.4troubledteens.com/toughlove.
Good Luck!
sit her down n talk to her n let her c how she messin up herlife
enroll her ina program so she kan see that life aint rosy at all like she thinks it is
basiclaly
talk to her n make ur pt clear
make sum simple bt necssary rules n enforce them
Sometimes you just have to let them make mistakes. For some reason once they make that mistake and see that there really are horrible consequences chances are she will start to shape up.
You can do what they use to do in the old days...and i hope you know what im talkin bout.
Your daughter sounds like me. (once upon a time) My mother could not control me and the sad truth is that if she is as head strong as I was, then you will never have that control either. My mother did the hardest thing that she ever had to do. She signed custody of me over to the state. I resented her for it for years but as I grew I came to realize that she did it out of pure love. Had she never done it, I would have probably ended up dead or in prison. I am a better woman because of it and I now have four children of my own. Thank God for my Mother.
You have to make a decision to protect your daughter. Tough love is the answer. She may resent you but in time she will thank you. God bless you and good luck with your daughter.
take her to school and walk her in to her homeroom and hand her to the teacher. if she doesnt stop skipping school you could end up in jail. tell her that and tell her she needs t obe responsible. i did this too. but i cut school because i was harassed and teased as well as soon as i got to school i always felt sick. turned out i was i had a tumor from asbestos in the school. i didnt want my mom in jail so that scared me straight
see if the judge will order her to a boot camp it might jump start the way she thinks
It sounds like you have tried everything. But, here are 2 things that I feel may open her eyes.
I would have a sit down conversation with her. Like you would with one of your good girlfriends. Don't judge just listen and give her your thoughts on things, not as her mother, but as a woman to woman. See if that, in any way gets you closer to understand her and her understanding you.
My second suggestion would be to take her to volunteer at a shelter for homeless children. Let her see what some children have to go through without anybody there for them. Maybe she can see how lucky she is to have a mother that cares so much about her.
Good look!
Well I've tried this with a very difficult teenager and it helped: describe her own acts to her as you see them dont get angry and pretend as if all her problems are happening without her being intentionally difficult. tell her that you need her help and ask herself for a solution. Tell her that you love her no matter what mistake s of judgement she may make in life, tell her that you're sure she can find a solution to the problem better than you because after all you're seeing the problems from outside and after all she is the one who has to make a choice for her life.Be frank and honest, don't exaggerate or understate the problem, don't get angry, just voice your concerns as a parent.
Shes doing this all for attention.
Dont give her any. Just ignor her.make her life seem pointless to you...as shes not using it efficently.
If she doesnt care about her life.then why should you?
She'll turn around and start trying to get your attention in other ways...like actually trying to get good grades and helping more around the house.That will be her other means of attention.
GOOD LUCK
or just beat the Sh-it out of her
Okay, first of all he last thing you want to be doing is trying to make her do something that she obviously wants to rebel against, trust me the more you make her the more she is going to resist. Instead call her bluff, see if she is really willing to screw up her entire life, praise her friends or family relations who are doing well in school for example. This will cause her to become jealous and want your praise, because after all lets face it no matter how much kids say they hate their parents deep down it's only because they aren't getting the love or praise they want.
If this doesn't work then sit her down and get in touch with what she is feeling, is she having problems coping with something in her life that is making her act this way? Does she want attention? Is she doing it just to do it? But make sure you stay calm and open minded.
Once you figure out what is causing her to do these things then a plan can be set to help get through these.
I had a very similar problem when I was younger. It got so bad that I was admitted to an out-patient rehad facility where I continued to act out. Then, I was admitted to a long-term inpatient facility. That's what it really took to kick me in the head and to get me to stop what I was doing. That's the only advice and I have and even that only works some of the time.
your daughter sounds alot like me. Well.. except that I'm a guy, ofcourse. My parents just got so sick of me, they they signed custody of myself over to the state. I hated them for doing it, but I guess they did the right thing. Look at me now! I'm a pilot for Emirates, up for promotion to Captain in a few short weeks.
Thanks alot mom and dad!
Love ya lots
Let her make mistakes or pack her things and send her to one of those boot camps for a month in like Arizona. You know the ones where they make the brats walk around in the desert all day and night with only 1 container of water. That'll teach her to straighten up her act.
I was the same way, my mom tells me she felt the same way. I was horrible. My mother just hung in there the best she could. She wasn't always right, but she loved me and never gave up. Today I am a happy mother of three and a very successful consultant. She will most likely turn around. Young girls are sooo hormonal and drama queens. Just let her know you love her and tough love her. Best wishes to you.
Boarding school, boot camp, take away everything she owns. it doesn't work for everyone, and sometimes it could make them worse and get them into things they weren't into before, but in alot of people, it does! Or, you can have them move in with a stricter adult (family member) and have them set straight.
change her school and dont let her out of the house with friends and such until you feel she is doing everything in her power to change ..
well apparently she's not listening to you or anyone. if she gets caught by police and told to sit in jail overnight.let her sit.don't come get her, only because you're telling her that everytime she messes up someone will be there to fix it. She needs to learn that there are consequences to her actions. the sooner she learns those the better. Talking and asking doesn't seem to be working, so try a whole different perspective.
I am sorry, but the best thing you can do is to immancipate her. Still love her and give her guidlines, but you can't force her to do anything, not at this age / state...it will only make her rebel more.
have you tried sending her away to boot camp?
put her on television they will sent her to boot camp. they will not put up with her bull s--t like you do. slap her in a corner.
beat her!
I Know when my 13 year old son continued skipping school the school sent the truancy papers to a judge and we ended up in court twice and then it was referred to a Juvenile Detention Center. If he would have continued the judge was going to send him to a boot camp.
This may be one of the hardest things you will ever do but sign custody of her to someone else.To a foster home or orphanage or the state something, somewhere.
Show her what life is like in a foster home or orphanage or with someone else who ain't gonna deal with all the sh*t she doin.In a foster home with ten other kids where all the luxuries in life aren't handed to her and money isn't as plentiful.Where she will suffer the consequences and be treated just like everyone else.
She wouldn't last a day in my shoes.
Yea she may think it's wrong but it's not fair that you work and provide a living for her and give her everything she needs and then she disrespect you and break the rules like that.
boot camp.
it works.
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