Wut r ur thoughts on abortion? my bf has decided im gettin an abortion...i dont kno if i want to any thoughts?
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He can't make that decision for you. If you are against it, don't do it. If you lose him because of that, so be it... you and your baby do not need him. Talk to your brother, and tell him what your bf thinks you should do. Your bf may get his a** kicked... but it sounds like that is what he needs. Good Luck.
It is your choice don't worry about losing your boyfriend you should ditch him anyway he is way too controlling over you
If your against it, then don't do it. And how is it you live with your bf at 15? Go back home and talk to your parents
Geez you are way too young to be pregnant. But if you have any doubts about this you need to not go through with the abortion just because your boyfriend is telling you to. If he is really the one for you, he will support any decision you make, and not pressure you into anything (especially sex, before you are ready). Find someone you can trust and talk to them, maybe your brother..he'll be upset at first i'm sure, but might be of some help for your situation.
You don't want to lose him? This is not his decision. You need to tell your bro.
You should get an abortion. You are too young to have a child.
Religious nuts will go bananas, but they are concerned with their religious agenda, not your future.
ExCUSE me? HeTOLD you that you are? Who does he think he is??? You don't want to lose HIM?? You need some serious help. Tell your brother or Tell your counselor at school. He is not in charge of you, you are. This is not something to mess around about. This should be YOUR decision, not his and you are rather young to understand it all, therefore, you need to speak with someone OTHER than him..
That's not a decision you let someone make for you. That's something that you are going to have to live with too
You should talk to your brother. Don't listen to anyone on here, everybody is going to preach to you about it being either "your choice" or a "sin against God," or some nonsense like that. It IS your choice, but you're 15 years old and you're going to need some serious support. Talk to him. If hes your guardian than he needs to help you out, and you can work out your options with him. Remember that you aren't going to be able to raise a child alone, and remember that your boyfriend isn't going to be able to help. I strongly suggest breaking up with him and maintaining a relationship for purposes of supporting your child IF you do have the baby. If you do not, than dump him and move on. And for heaven's sakes, get on birth control. Good luck to you.
I agree that you are way too young but this is YOUR body not your boyfriends.
Sweetie, from experience, I had an abortion and I was married to the man who told me that if I loved him that would be best. It was twins. I just feel like crying everyday for what I have done, but I can't take it back. We already had a child together, so I had been through child birth. Abortion is something that takes 10 minutes to do, and it is something you must live with everyday. After I had mine, I later found out that my mother had thought about aborting me. I just burst out in tears. If you need anyone to talk to e-mail me and I would be glad to talk to you.
PLEASE.DON'T GET THE ABORTION! I had an abortion when I was younger and I honestly REGRET it. I really didn't know what to do and I was young and also my boyfriend kinda forced me into it. When you have an abortion you get the worst feeling you've ever had. I couldn't stop crying and to this day I cry about it and think about the "what ifs" abortion sticks with you forever...it's forever in your mind and also the guilt is always lingering around you. Not to mention the feelings you never thought you would have after the abortion...I talked with other women who had abortions and they felt the same...for some reason you feel hate and anger toward every pregnant woman you see...you feel really sad when you see babies. and like i mentioned earlier you always think of the "WHAT IFS". You are free to do what you want...but my opinion is DON'T DO IT! And also...what will you do if something goes wrong?
Well ultimately its up to you, because its your body the doctor would be taking the baby out of. Your very young and that's a big ouch. But you can have this baby if your up to it. A girl that dated my brother got pregnant when she was 15. Never told her parents and hid the pregnancy till she walked out of her parents bathroom with a baby. She gave birth by herself without anyone even knowing! I would advise against that, because proper medical care is very important, but it just shows you how truly strong 15 year olds are. I think you should tell your brother, and get his advice. If your boyfriend is so controlling that he's already decided for you and hasn't taken your health and sanity into consideration, he might just not be a keeper. I'm sure he's thinking about his freedom and the child support payments he's going to have to make for the next 20 some years if he leaves you. You've got to think about your freedom too, its not easy being a mom when your so young. Also you best make your decision soon, I wouldn't recommend having an abortion past 8 weeks. If you have questions about abortion check out www.abort73.com Just a warning though, its not a pro abortion site. The pictures of aborted fetus's are particularly enlightening.
Your hormones are going crazy right now. This is really only a question you can answer yourself. Have you talked to your brother?? You are very young and this will change your whole life no-matter what you decide to do. Have you thought of having it and placing it up for adoption, there are sooo many couples who would love to give your baby a wonderful home. If you are even thinking you do not want an abortion DON'T DO IT. and if your bf does not understand and stand by your decision then he should not be having sex with anyone unprotected. I am sure you do not want to fight with him or lose him BUT you are only 15 and the chances of you two actually staying together past your 18th birthday are very slim anyways. You have to think of your thoughts about being a mom and about the baby you are now carrying. My e-mail is on this site if you want to talk t_thornington@yahoo.com. It does not sound like you have parents to talk to.. Can you talk to your brother or do you have a close older friend to talk to?? I hope this helped a little,,, good luck in whatever you decide... I can not support you in the abortion thing, sorry.
I know your young your really young..i was 16 when i had my daughter.One your going to need an guardian to sign off on any papers if you want an abortion...Your bf cant just take you down there and have it done. Two why would you want to be with someone who doesnt wanna think things out and come up with a plan...what are you going to do after you have an abortion...and he does something stupid an d leaves you anyway...then your depressed because you killed your baby...the only thing you two had good together.and you dont have him. I really think you should take his opinion into consideration...but this is not just about him...its about you..this is going to be an emtional scar for the rest of your life. When's he ever going to want to have children? is he always going to want to take the easy way out? I'm sorry but he needs to grow up and quit thinking about himself..and start thinking about what you want and what you need....You dont want to lose him...but your willing to kill an innocent child...so you dont have to fight with your bf?This baby cant stand up for itself..and have an opinion ...you have to do the mature thing and think about you and the baby...and whats best... i think you need to talk to your brother..or whoevers going to be taking you down there.goodluck to you sweetie..and may god be with you in whatever you decide
your body your baby your choice,he needs to go byebye.please talk to your brother or teacher,guidence counseler,someone that you trust .thats over 21. you aren't alone but no one can help you if they don't know .your bf knows this ,he is not thinking of you he is thinking of him self.i'm a mom of 4 i just gave you the best advice i can give to you,i'm not there,so what you do with it is up to you. good luck ,be safe,talk to someone.4 the record i do not believe in abortion 4 my self but ,i do believe in choice, always get counseling hon b4 u take the leap.
You have to honestly think about whats best for you, not what your boyfriend wants, You need to talk to your brother since he is your guardian. Think about it having a baby at young age is very hard and it will take a lot of will and determination I know I had my first son at 15, but I had a good support system, and I also had an abortion when I was 22 and I still think about it, so its a double standard, you need think about whats going to be best for you and the baby. Also you mentioned you don't want to lose him what if you get the abortion and he still leave then .what. If you need to talk email me @tbanks19@comcast.net
abortion is a sin and thats killing a inacent child god says you should not kill
I don't think u should abort that person inside of u because u'll feel bad. believe me I know someone who got an abortion and she was never happy she had nightmares and a lot of bad stuff hapenned to her, in other words abortion isn't ur best option. u have a lot of options, like tell that guy that got u pregnant, if he rally loves you he'll understand. Talk to him, try not to yell at him or anything like that, just talk to him. Another option is to just tell ur parents, parents are good to talk to, they'll probably get mad at you, but then they'll understand u, believe me, even if they look like the worst parents, they'll help u. I don't think ur friends idea's a good one. It's okay if u don't take my advice, but I just want u to think about it and think that if you abort you'll kill a little person. that's all am asking u, think about it, PLEASE.
Dont kill your baby just to please him. That would be silly. And if he loves you , then he will not decide for you to get an abortion. No one can force you to do anything. Please dont do that because you will regret it for the rest of your life.
I got pregnant at 15 too. I know you feel alone, but I am here to tell you that you aren't. I also was on my own at 15. Try this before you do anything else.Take a bath, sit and relax, just think, cry, laugh, whatever makes you fel better. and while your in there think of how this baby could make you a better person in the long run, yea your gonna have people make comments and be mad, but Honey it is your decision. dont let anyone make that choice for you. Then go out and confront your bro and be a grown up, after all you made the choice to have sex. Give your baby a chance. I had a friend that hadan abortion and she has regretted it every since. Just relax and think to your self for a minute. GOOD LUCK W/ YOUR CHOICE ! one final thing I kept my daughter she is now 5 and i am so happy that i did, it's not going to be easy, but nothing good is ever easy !! Think about it.
If you dont want to do it DONT! I had a friend, her boyfriend told her that if she got rid of the baby he would stay with her, otherwise he would leave, so she had an abortion. But guess what... he still left. You've got to put the baby first. If you cant support the baby than adopt it out to a loving family that will be able to give it the support and love that he/she needs and deserves!!
well he sounds kinda controlling so I would lose the b/f now b/c if he thinks he can control what you do with your child then later on he's gonna control you even more. Also abortion is stupid so DON"T DO IT!
If your 'boyfriend' is the one deciding if YOU are getting an abortion, then you've got bigger problems than this one. First, get a backbone. If this jackass is telling you what you're going to do, you need to get rid of him. If you do keep the baby, he'll probably take off anyway. If you are against abortion, then thats your decision-don't abort. Your boyfriend has absolutely nothing to do with it. You need to tell your brother regardless of what you decide to do. Its a very adult and mature thing to face your problems head on. And if you decide you don't want your baby, adoption is a much better choice. There are hundreds of people out there that would be glad to raise your child and give it a loving home if your not able to. But the best thing to do is keep it if you can. If you have the means to raise this child, do it. But if your not able to, give it up for adoption. Abortion is never an answer.
Also, consider getting on some birth control if your having sex and not able/wanting to take care of more children.
Please Please don't have an abotion just because your boyfriend wants you to, you will end up blaming him and not liking him in the long run. Tell your brother and look at all your options. You are young and if you are not ready to be a mom adoption is always out there.
dont get an abortion you will regret it later Abourtion is wrong
I'm not gonna say y did u have sex, but you should have thought about the consequences. I am strongly against abortion. i feel that it is like killing someone or in ur case, taking away an opportunity to have a life. So talk to your brother about it. please don't do an abortion. if you decide that you really don't want a baby, but still wanna see him/her let someone you know adopt him/her, and visit. or just give them up for adoption if u don't want it.
but please don't do an abortion.
Its your decision(my sp sux), you decide, i think you should tell your bro tho. dont let your bf control your life, its yours you decide
I dont think abortion is your best option. I think you should talk to your boyfriend about your problem. you could also talk to your brother or your parents. You have a lot of good options. Abortion is no good. If you abort you won't be able to live in peace because your conscience will always be there to tell you that you killed a little person that was in you, but because of your nonsence you killed him or her. You could talk to your brither, he might get mad at first but then all of his anger will go away and he'll understand you. You can also talk to the guy that got you pregnant, He might not understand you, but at least try. Just think about it, PLEASE.
your body honey. Find a planned parent hood maybe they can help you through the different options with counsling and such. Good luck.
Honey you should tell your brother if you don't wanna get an abortion don't if your bf leaves you he never really loved you.
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