Am I right?
We have a 17 year old foster child that lives with us, she has been for four years. She also was doing high school by modules. She now hasn't opened her books since the start of November. She also has not worked since July. My mom does not say a word to her about it.
And I tell my mom she can't have double standards. But she says that brittney has no chance of graduating, and I do. So she wants me to finish it. Then says if I don't want to finish it I can get a full time job and pay rent. Yet Brittney doesn't pay rent, nor even have a job. She stays up all night and sleeps all day. My question is am I right to think this is unfair?
Answer:
You're right to feel however you want to. Your mom is also right to feel the way she wants to and set up the rules that she wants for you to live in her house. Maybe she expects more out of you because she knows that you can do it. Basically your mom has gave you a choice and put the ball in your court. You can 1.) do the school work and stay there rent free and do whatever even if it's a part time job. or you can do 2.) quit school, get the full time job and start paying her rent and do whatever you want when you're not working and paying your bills.
no youre not being unfair because even thought shes a foster your mom should treat youll equally so tell your mom what you thing and make her realize shes being unfair
Your mom would treat the foster child better cuz she adopted her
That is WAY not fair. Tell your mom that it's not fair, and explain that your atleast TRYING and she is not. You seem to be a smart person, so you should tell her that you try, and that Brittney, if she tries could graduate if she really tried, and that if she nags you, then she should nag her! AND your her son, so thats just RUDE!
right? well everyone is right at their own point of view! i think that you should care more about yourself and stop thinking what your mom says to you or to the other child. I don't think you would be happy if your mom would think about you the same way she thinks about the other child. Think about your future and where your taking your future to by taking the decisions you are taking. Just remember that for every choice you take there will be a consequences good or bad, there will be one!
I don't think it's fair, but I do think that your mom wants what's best for you. It's important to finish high school, and if we take your foster sister out of the picture, it is reasonable for her to expect you to work full time if you're not going to do your schoolwork. She's trying to push you into adulthood, and she might treat you differently because she really cares about how you turn out.
So even though it's not fair, that doesn't mean it's not right.
Yeah, that's totally unfair. You should both get about equal treatment and opportunity. Advice-wise, I don't really know what to say. But I do agree with you and wish you luck. :)
It's more unfair to your fioster sister for her to say that she doesn't have a chance of graduating! She *does* have a chance, if she starts now. I know how it is to laze off like that, but she can do it, I'm in that same sitch right now.
Yes, you are SO right. Everyone has the chance to graduate (regardless of if they take it or not), and she should push your foster sister just as hard. If your mom is anything like mine (and it sounds like she is), she needs to get a life and look at her own faults before nagging at yours. There *is* a double standard here.
I feel your mom's expectations of you are fair and she is selling Brittney short by not expecting more of her. I was in foster care, but still managed to be an honors student, work part time and do extra-curricular activities, because this is what was expected of me. If Brittney is expected to fail, she will and if you are, so will you. Expect more of yourself and keep encouraging your mom to expect more of Brittney, if not to be fair, then for Brittney's sake.
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