If your daughter got pregnant young. What would you do?
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honestly, I would want my daughter to not be afraid to come to me FIRST, and not to FeelBaby.com! lol. Seriously, I want to be very open with my daughter, and I am evn now that she is 4. Some things of course you cannot be at that age, but I will give my daughter a good course, when she's old enough, on being cautious instead of beating into her head that sex is bad. Of course I don't want her to have sex at 12, 13, or even 18 :). But it happens, and you really can't control your kids in what they do when you aren't around them when they become teenagers. I wouldn't yell or scream, but give her advice, and hope she makes the right decision for herself. I would not force anything on her or make her feel bad. It takes two to tango.I just wouldn't want my fiance to catch the boy who did make her pregnant! :)
Make her raise her child.
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I had my son at 19years old. I raised him myself with support from my mom. I am a college graduate working on my masters degree and on my way to becoming a project manager.
My mom helped in babysitiing and just being there overall for support.
If my son got a girl pregnant at a young age, dam write i would make him take responsiility.
i got pregnant young (if you call 18 young) and my mum and dad were not impressed but have now been together 11 years with my husband and have another child so proved them wrong - I think I would be disappointed that they did not concentrate on their career but would support them no matter what cos I love them so much - I would help them get the career they want - my parents were supportive in the long run - at the end of the day they wanted the best for me and who can judge them for that
Be supportive and help her make the best decisions possible under the circumstances.
try and be as supportive as possible - it's hard enough being a mum but a very young mum is really difficult and you lose your teenage years and freedom - so I would try and help and be understanding as much as I possibly could (and yes I have two daughters though not yet teenagers)
It's her body, let her do what she likes.
I would be disappointed, then scared, then irritated, then accepting. Disappointed that I wasn't a good enough mom to have taught her better (I would be crying at this point). Scared about how we were going to deal with it financially, emotionally, and morally. Irritated that I even had to deal with her bad decisions. Accepting of the issue, and ready to work with her on what she wanted to do.
If my daughter got pregnant young, Id just be there for her, but then again Im open minded and so is my mum.
I wouldnt be ecstatic obviously but supporting her would be important to me whatever she wanted to do.
I got pregnant at 19 I know that not really young but i was not yet married. My parents just hugged me and asked if my husband of now 7yrs was still going to stand by me. They hugged me and helped me learn to be a mother. My parents especially my mom is an amazing person. I I pray that if my daughter(6 1/2yrs) get pregnant really young I will be there for her the way mine were for me.
I would bring her to the clinic and she would have an abortion. No child under 17, should even be pregnant! There minds are not ready for it. They still play with barbies and dress up. They shouldnt have babies if they dont have jobs or education! what will they teach a child.
I think parents have a right to be upset, granted accidents happen but common sense should of happen when they had unprotected sex! Some want a child for what i dont know.
Men dont have to stick around so they dont get the stigma attached to them. Being pregnant is a wonderful blessing and its a shame it is not taken seriously, these young girls thinks it fun to have a baby, they will learn the hard way
make that girl raise her child,bath,feed,work and more.she had no business doing what she did
I am only in my 20s, and therefor do not have children or an experience with this yet, but if I had gotten pregnant before now, I would have been afriad to tell my parents. I do not have an open relationship with my mom, at all. I would have had an abortion and not told her, I am glad I never had to deal with that, and now I am at a point where if I got pregnant I am mature enough to take care of it.
But I'd like to belive one day, when I do have children and if this were to happen to my daughter, I would be supportive of her. I hope she can come to me and tell me without worrying about me yelling at her. And we could then deal with the situation.
my gf was only 17 when we had our first child we now have a health 3yr old daughter and a beautiful 3 month old son our parents were really understanding and helped out with everything our mums were even there for the births and i'd like to think that we would be just as helpful for our daughter and our son of course if he became a dad to many familys fall apart because of this sort of thing
If she was under 16 - I would have the rodent who got her up the duff Baseball Batted... and whisk her down to the Family Planning clinic ASAP.. for a D&C... if she was over 16 My Wife and I would try our very best to assertain what her intentions are...she would have our full support - but she would be advised that it would be in her best interest to have an abortion...& advise her about what life would be like being a mother.advise our kids to live their lives to the Full - and £$ ... doesnt come easy these days..Security first before playing at happy families...
Being that i've been through the part of life when your parents aren't there for you like they should be. I know better than to leave my children wondering about sex and letting them find out the hard way. From the age of 10-11 i'm going to teach my children about sex and all of the consequences and of course how to protect themselves. The younger the better now a days, sex is everywhere there's no denying it. If my daughter got pregnant young i would cry! But i'm going to do everything in my power to make sure that doesn't happen. If my son were to get a girl pregnant i would make damn sure he takes care of his responsibility, mama didn't raise no fool!
I would be disappointed but i would support her all the way. I was pregnant at 17 and (i was on the pill and i took it properly) i didnt get much support, only from the father. That was 18 years ago and im very close to my daughter and we do loads together and im still with her dad. If she had a child in next few years i would look after it as much as i could so she could go out with her friends and enjoy life.
I have two boys and I would be upset if they got a girl pregnant at a young age. This is because I feel life is hard enough without being a child raising a child. Having said that I would offer every support that I could to them (and the girl) because the reality is that a baby is on the way, I wouldn't scream and shout but I would worry inside. The same if I had a daughter, there's no way I could abandon my child (and theirs) though I know it would be hard. My cousin had two children under the age of 2yrs by the age of 18 (she now has a third! - and she's now 24) and she has to be one of the best Mothers I have ever met, I admire her greatly (of course she has the love and support of the Dad which makes it easier, but they have done a fantastic job). Weirdly, I had my second child at age 29 (the first at 24) and I was still nervous to tell my Mum!, even though she has been nothing but supportive to me and my boys!
It is sad! If my daughter ever gets pregnant young.she will have her father and I 100% behind her. She would finish school and still go to college for sure because we would support her and that baby until she can. Children are children for a reason. They make mistakes and they don't think about future consequences. My mother would have done the same for me too. My friend got pregnant at 16 and her mother kicked her out. She bounced from friends houses and a group home. She lives in an efficiency apartment now with her nearly 5 year old and works at McDonald's. She never graduated high school, let alone started college. Why would you want that for your daughter and grandchild?
My kids are almost grown, but I have thought about this often when my daughters go out. Of course we would yell and be upset. The reason is because we love our kids and want the best for them and a teen pregnancy can really mess up a kid's life. Plus a baby is a big responsibility so we are concerned about how we will all handle this. Parents are just as scared as the kids are at that time. I would be there for my daughter and help her make the best decision for the baby and her life. I would never force my own wishes on her, that is not right. If she has made an adult decision about sex, then she needs to face it like that also. I would also make sure that she finishes school and never gives up her dreams for her future. And last but not least, the boy and his parents would have their fannies involved too! Daddy would be going through this all right along with my daughter, he helped create the situatation! It is definately not fair for the dad to just go on his merry way! No way!
I got pregnant young (well 18..these days it doesnt seem young) my son is now nearly 4 1/2, i'm coming up to 24...
My mum cried her heart out, she didnt once shout or scream or even ask what i was going to do, all she said was she loved me, amazing..
My dad on the other hand (bearing in mind im the fave of three girls AND the closest thing to a son as i was the tom boy of the family) went mad, and actually asked me to get rid of my baby, not because hes all into that, but he knew what would happen with my sons dad and he so wanted me to get my education, I said no i was keeping the baby and he didnt talk to me for two months...i was still living at home..
then one day at 4 months gone i walked down stairs with my bump squeezed under a jumper and dad said 'alright bumpy?!' and that was it...nothing but support from him..even though he wasnt happy he respected my descion...
I actually continued at college and got the qualification, and then started a new course at 8 1/2 months pregnant and completed that too...
So its not all bad, if you want things in life you just have to work for them...if you make a mistake then i think if you are willing to accept that then parents should be a little more supportive, i know its hard though, and ive never been on the other side, but its not all bad having a baby young.
saying that id not advise it either and my dad was right to worry, my boyfriend hit me and we split when my son was 6 months old...all whilst i was still studying at college...taking my baby with me...was a gard time but we made it!
My niece has just fallen pregnant and is still very young so it's a topic close to my heart. I know her parents are disappointed and hurt (especially since her father is an elder in their local church and they have three other younger children to worry about). If my child had to fall pregnant at a young age I would try to be as loving and supportive as possible. I would look after the child so that they could further their education (so as to get themselves into a more financially secure position where they can actually take care of a child properly) and I would ensure that the child got more than enough love and attention rather than resentment. After all, children do not ask to be born, and who can resist loving them??
I would be very disappointed if she got pregnant young because she would have a hard road in front of her but I all so would be there to help her and support her as much as poss able, it's unfair that the diff rent types of stereo types for girls and boys
I had my first child at 19, and of course my parents were upset (mum more than dad!) but I am still with my partner and the proud parents of 3 brilliant children, we have our own home and work full time - we took responsibility - and in our situation it worked out. (Mum has been amazing) I would be there for my own daughter - but I would be more open with her and not like my own mum, and hope she would come to me with any probs/advice - so she would not be in my situation at such an early age and get out to see the world first. I wouldn't change anything now but I have a a more open relationship with my daughter and sons
Be there for her ,let her now that what she did is not that good,but have a better furture ahead.Child is a gift from God .God knows what will happen to her tomorrow not us ,love her
My daughter got pregnant her senior year of high school, I supported her. We talked, we cried, we took it one day at a time. The worst thing that could happen did, at three months pregnant she had a miscarriage. Everyone, including the boy's parents said it was for the best, now she could graduate and go to college. Their son would be able to go to the college of his choice, so his plans could stay on course. I did not see it this way, I seen the hurt, confusion, the guilt of "did I do something to cause this". My daughter did make it to college and I think she became a stronger person.
Well, I am no where near having children on my own. But I hope I would support her entirely, whether she decided to have an abortion or to keep the baby. However, I might be angry with her boyfriend for getting her into such a situation, but I'd try not to show it and to support their relationship if it continued.
well all i could do was make her keep it and make her know that she has responsibilities now and educate her about being a mother
I had my first child just before my 19th birthday so I wasn't that young that my parents could really do anything about it, and I was stable and with a partner and stuff so I guess it's not the same as what you're thinking of. If my daughter got pregnant at say 16, I wouldn't be angry at her, I would be angry at myself and the schools for not teaching her enough about the dangers of unprotected sex. I would support her and help her to come to a good decision, I would probably offer to care for the baby for her while she finished school and college and stuff.
After my 15 yr old got pregnant.I was out of control for days I stormed into his house twice an punched his lights out. that didnt help at all,but it made me feel a whole lot better After a visit to the docs (where he told me to go out as it was nothing to do with me)she decided to go ahead and have the baby. She had a little boy
and passed him straight to me.(I had three girls an always wanted a boy) For two months I called him 'o' levels as that was
what she went to school for.Hes 10 now an my best mate!
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