Is it ok beat your' kids?
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there is nothing wrong with spanking.but spanking is not beating. spanking is discipline.
Yes,to treat them well..but if u beat them 4 no reason..then that's being Child Abusive
violence begets violence. Try talking to your children, time outs, taking away a favourite toy. This shows just as much a consequence. Hitting your child only instills fear. I want my child to trust me 100% through bonding, and not through fear.
there is a difference between a spanking and a beating and a difference between discipline and abuse
It is always wrong to use violence on a child. It teaches nothing except that a child should hide his behavior from the hitter and that people who love you hurt you.
physical punishment has been demonstrated to lower the i.q. of the hit child. it also creates resentment, teaches violence as a problem solving means, and totally ignores teaching a child how to take responsibility for themselves.
The book - how to talk so kids will listen and listen so kids will talk - contains a very clear, easy to follow method of treating your child with respect rather than as chattle, maintaining control of your home, and fulfilling a parents obligation to their child - to teach them how to regulate themselves as a thinking rather than fearful being.
what do you call beatting?
do they leave a mark ?
okay a beating is different then just a spank!
may want to rephrase that!
THE PARENTS CAN NOT BEAT THERE KIDS
I grew up getting punched , kicked and ,socked about every 3weeks , mostly for little things.. It only lowered my ego and killed my self esteem. I felt small and helpless and like I couldnt even trust the one person i should have been able to trust! I dropped put of school,got pregnant at the age of 14 and began aseries of abusive relationships I was always hit on by the people who said they loved me ... Do you think its a good idea?? I dont , there are alternatives to hitting. You are valuble and important dont let anyone treat you any differently!
i would give my child a warning before i hit her i would say make sure you have a good reason before you do it, and i also think that you should tell your child why you are hitting them.
Yes but never when you are angry, only when you are doing it to teach a lesson, because otherwise you will use more force and it wont actually mean anything. Also try not to beat kids of any age more than once every two weeks because that will just cause them to build up a resilience and become rebellious
a good swat on the butt never hurt anyone... beating is a different story...
Since I don't know the specifics, I can't say if they should change. Many times, kids exaggerate and call it "beating" when actually it isn't. Do they leave bruises? They are what you might call "old fashioned' - - - you know, they were apparently raised to believe that a good "old fashioned" a** whooping has more effect than a lecture or "time out". I've seen some kids where this is definitely so.
You have admitted they do it only when you have been caught doing something bad - - - which leads me to believe you are naughty. My advice is to straighten up, grow up a bit, and try to earn their respect through good behavior, not bad.
aint nothin wrong with a good *** whippin...if the child is showing out you put the belt on that *** to let them now that you wont tolerate it...and this people thats saying its wrong they kids probably running a muck...so do what is necessary to keep them in line.
Well...what do you mean by beating?!? If you mean being slapped, kicked, etc. for insignificant things, then...OF COURSE NOT! If you mean a paddle on the hand, minor spanking, or spanking with a wooden spoon, then...yeah, that's ok. The main concern needs to be that the child isn't truly HURT. Otherwise, physical discipline isn't bad.
It is never alright to beat your kids although I admit there is a real; lack of respect to elders these days. When we were young we got a switching,a belt or even a hot wheels track accross our back but that was very rare. Today there are many laws forbidding this and even a preschool kid is told to tell if they get a spanking. I myself spanked my kids maybe twice in their life and it was with a clam cool hand on the buttocks that hurt me worse but yet they feel they were disciplined. There is always time outs,taken privalages away etc. Besides I never heard that spanking made a big difference although your well known Ceo's etc said they were spanked.
NO!! It is not ok to beat children! They are people too and if you physically harm a person, you can go to jail. I think that they should talk with the kids about what they did wrong and then can agree on a resonable punishment.
No beating please.
Definitely have your own disciplinary techniques such as time-out, privileges taking out. Most important of all ignore the bad behavior if kid is not in any danger and concentrate on good behavior. Good behavior should always be compensated according to age.
Remember that abuse is the weapon of the vulgar. You should do better than your parents and your kids should do and be better than you.
Find out about parenting classes. Parenting classes will be one of your most valuable assets. Break the cycle of physical abuse.
Well there is a difference between a spanking and a beating.and a difference between discipline and abuse.But yes I thank you should spank your kids if they are doing wrong.No don't beat.But spanking is OK to do.But you should show them a lot of love and tell them that you love them a lot. And to spank you it hurt me as just as much as it hurts you. But I love you.
Not beat like punch or kick or anything but if you are talking about a spanking yes. More children need to be spanked.
what do you mean "beat"?
if you mean a light "whipping" (with a belt or other object) or a spanking (on the legs or butt with hand. paddle or brush) you will survive to improve whatever it is they want you to do.
But then there is the "beat down", like in a fight with bruises and serious chances of being hurt.
If you are being truly beaten--like very hard hits and punches-you need to report it to someone who can help you...there have been incidents of abuse to the point of crippling a person to the point of death or actual death.
Theres a fine line between abuse and discipline when beating kids so make sure if you have to, its to teach them that what theyre doing is wrong or that they shouldnt talk back to you
My parents beat me and I turned out okay - all my friends were beaten and we're perfectly normal and not psychologically scarred or anything...maybe in this day and age people dont condone it, but I dont think (IF u dole it out in discipline) that it would harm a child...as long as its not malicious
Its funny I would come across this question, just today, a group of students at my school were talking about the different punishments/beatings we got as children and most of them agreed that it was for their own good and they deserved it - so no, i dont think ur parents were wrong for doing it
If u still feel strange beating ur child then u probably want to use another form of punishment...one girl at my meeting today said that the most painful punishment her mother ever gave her that was non-physical was to take her music away from her. Mine, from my father, was to stand in an empty corner and not talk...THAT, for me, was painful!
I'm 34 years old. I came from an era where it was acceptable to physically discipline your children. I don't have kids of my own but if I did I would not discount corporal punishment. I feel it is necessary only if it will be effective. Some kids do not respond to it and some do. My brother did not respond to it well and continued to do the things he shouldn't. I recieved swats all the time at school when I was in the 1st and 2nd grades and by the third discovered I didn't like it and adjusted my behavior accordingly. I didn't get spanked too much at home-mostly because I did my best to not get caught.
I occasionally got smacked around when my parents would find out about something. It was usually out of anger-if there was a discussion, it was usually after I had been slapped and pushed around. It was normally my mom who did the physical part and my dad the discussing. My mom was also an undiagnosed, and therefore unmedicated, bi-polar. I can only remember one time where my parents tried to spank me in a controlled enviroment. I had cut school when I was 14 or 15 and my parents discussed my punishment and then came up to my room with a belt. That was the one thing I feared.
I wish my parents had tried punishing me that way from the beginning. I may have turned out different. Spanking would have worked with me.
I can't say that it would work for you, and as long as it isn't a "beating" defined by slapping, punching, kicking, etc., then yes, it is ok for them to use corporal punishment to disciple you. And of course you can avoid the subject by doing what you are supposed to be doing. Your parents aonly punish you because they want you to do the best you can life. Believe me, I wish I had listened to my parents more when I was a kid instead of having to play "catch-up" now that I am an adult. I hope this helps you and good luck in all your endeavors.
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