14 year-old daughter sexually active?
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You've never talked about sex with your 14yr old daughter?
Take her to an obgyn (planned parenthood would do) and discuss birth control, STDs and everything that goes along with it.
Most schools do not teach about safe sex because abstinence-only programs get govt. money.
well you could but shes probly not really gonna wanna talk to you about that
It is certainly time to discuss sex with her. In fact, it is late. You can voice your concern to her since she has a boyfriend as an opener. Hopefully, that will open the lines of communication.
i think you should definitely ask her she's your daughter!! but you should be gentle about it if you aren't they you guys would most likely get into a fight and not solve anything at all
give her the talk and be really hard on her but don't mention what you found
I am 16 now and had sex with my bf when i was 15, first of all be happy she is using condoms, so she isn't stupid. Don't yell at her cuz she will just get distant, and you should also think sbout putting her on birth control pills or something. Good Luck!
I think you should really have a talk with her. As I'm sure you know, 14 is way too young to be having sex. It's good that she is possibly using condoms if she is having sex though. If she won't talk to you about it then maybe make her an appointment to see a gynecologist. She can talk to the doctor that way and although you won't know what's going on at least she'll have some good information and learn about what having sex really means. And since she is only 14 maybe you could limit the amount of "alone" time she and the boyfriend have.
I would not say CONFRONT her. Mabey take her out and talk to here. Make it special. But dont seem mad aobut it. Think of it this way if she doing it aleast it safe( the missing condoms) I would also talk to her aobut birth control dont want her getting pregnent. I know that 14 is very young but if she is doing it you want it to be safe right. But explain to here that sex is ment for two people that are in Love its a very special thing and should not be taken lightly. And that just because other kids do it she does not have to. And if a boy says he wont like her for not doing it that hes not worth it. Be very open and honest about it with her. Good luck!
get that girl on birth control before you end up a grandmother!!
tell her that all kids that are having sex have to go to the dr and get in the stirrups and let the doctor examine them for disease and pregnancy...also talk to her about nursing babies, how they suckle and cry a lot..then show her where she will be living when she delivers...take her to some places where the section 8 (poor)people live and say.this is where the single moms live, I hope they don't have rats in the garbage...I heard that they do, oh look there's one..wake up and scare this kid to death and start acting like a parent...if she can't keep her pants on, you control where she goes and punish her when she lies..you are setting up this kid for failure in life.
its ok. really, you should be proud of her for being prepared and protected. the only thing you could talk with her about is getting her on birth control just to be safer.
yes, u should, u should ask her ur question, like y does she have a pack of condoms, and has she been having sex? u know questions u want to know
and do u know that even with condoms and birth control pills there is still a very low chance of her getting pregnant, i've heard stories from people in here about it
I think you need to sit down and have a conservation with your daughter about sex. Especially, if she has a boyfriend. Try to be honest with her about how you feel about sex at her age and what are the responsibilities that comes with it. Try to encourage her to open up to you and let her tell you in her own words if she is sexually active. Do not make an assumption that she is.
Being a parent is very hard. I have a 14 years old daughter myself and understands where you come from.
Good luck
perhaps im more into "win win situation" because i dont think so confront will be a good choice. Rather, find a good time to talk to her abt sex, STD etc.. wat shld do and wat shld not be doing. And wat are the "things" which need to put a stop etc.. treat her like ur fren, speak to her frankly and also, tells her how u feel about sex, personal experience.
14 is no big deal. my sister started doing it when she was 11.
Yes talk to her!
-Fredo
be a better mother
if you confront her about it, she's only going to back away from you because in her eyes you went through her things and invaded her privacy (even though technically you didn't mean to). i'm glad she's at least being responsible and using protection, however i do think she needs to realize that getting involved with someone sexually at such a young age can become difficult. maybe try talking to her in a way that doesn't reveal what you found, but lets her know that sex is a big step and maybe she's not as ready as she might think? also you can try to raise awareness of sti's and pregnancy by mentioning it to your daughter if you see something in the news or in the paper. this way its not a direct "attack" and maybe she won't reject your input. good luck!
Man it would be embarresing and weird to talk to you daughter about that. Ask her why she even had condoms in her drawer.
You need to sit down and talk to her.
Good Luck
confront her. she's your daughter!! you have every right to be concerned.
and get her on BIRTH CONTROL!
cause she's going to do whatever she wants...you already know that.
you should be glad and very proud taht your 14 year old chose safe sex. tell her that you are okay that she is having sex (even if your not) and talk to her about female birth control. you cant tell her she cant ever do it again. she will. i did it at 14 but my parents who knew i was sexually active never did anything and now im 17 with a baby. i love him though. its proally aquard to think what you should say but you cant offend her. make it light and fun to let her know you arent mad. ( "wow, my 14 year old is having better sex than me!") just a light one!!
definitely talk to her. if you found condoms & some were missing there has to be something going on. maybe you should talk to her about her promiscuity before she gets too out of hand. 14 is wayy to young to do that.
you should say heyguess what i found today and she will say what and you pull them out and say these and say have you and your boyfriend been useing these and if she says no say well i do beleve 1 or 2 are missing well if she says yes say thank you for telling the truth and i am going to take these and you are grounded for two weeks no tv no dates no sleepovers no nothing and i want you to stay here at night and we will talk about this more with your father and we shall discuss more punishments!!
Actually, you and most parents today are about 10-12 years to late. We need to be talking to our children factually using correct terminology from the first time they point and ask "what's that?"
As parents we can't teach what we were never taught. So, you and your daughter need to learn together and trust together. She will not trust you if you don't trust her. Go and learn together from you family doctor or OBGYN.
Once kids become sexually active they are not going to stop. They will only be more responsible if they can develop a healthy self esteem and a relationship with their parents.
Go to the library, to planned parenthood, to the doctor, not to the school because they teach the Republican Bush plan of abstinence only- which has been proven to only delay sexual activity for 12-18 months - what a crock of you know what that our taxes are paying for.
Anyway, be the MOM you need and can be.
Good luck
Are you allowing her to date at this age? She's too young to date, so I suggest nixing the dates and start monitoring her activities. Don't just assume she is with friends. Keep in contact with her friends' parents to make sure they are where they say they are. You'll have to keep on your toes, but it can be done. YOU are the parent, remember that. It may take some tough love to put up with her attitude when you curb her activities, but if it were me, I'd do it.
Talk to your daughter about sex. I hope she will realize that she isn't emotionally ready at age 14 for this. Maybe you'd better tell your husband too so he can have a man-to-man "talk" with the so-called boyfriend.
yea you should ask her if she is having sex with him..ask several times and let her know well hey i found the condoms..so what doyou have to say about this..she may lie to you(like i did my parents)but eventually she is going to have to tell you the truth about it..you have to ask before she is infected with something of pregnant or even in a bad case both
I am 17 now and had sex with my bf when i was 15, first of all be happy she is using condoms, so she isn't stupid. Don't yell at her cuz she will just get distant, and you should also think sbout putting her on birth control pills or something. i know whyyou are stressing cos my mom was doing the same thing at her age but i was stupid and didnt use any protection and fell pregnet and i had no support from any one in my family but my bf has been there the hole time and now my family are realy supportive on my self and my little girl and i know why they did it all now i understand why big time Good Luck
talk to her about it
Leave them out somewhere in her room, where she will know you found them. Give it a couple days. If she doesn't come to you, go to her. And talk, talk, talk... Like a friend/mother, don't get angry & remember there is no such thing as a stupid question... Be as honest & upfront as possible. She should know what responsibilities come with having sex; regular dr. appointments, STD checks (because she is not married or committed to just 1 person) birth control... Make talking with her about these subjects a regular thing then it wont be as awkward, & she will be more likely to come to you. You also do NOT have to support this behavior... Set boundries & clear, consistant consiquences. I wish you luck!
Explain to her the dangers and responsibilities. Also explain the rhythm method, but dont embarrass her.
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