My daughter is driving me nuts! Why do kids think that they are so cool and that their parents are idiots?
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giving in to every snotty thing is a recipe for disaster. you need to step up to the plate. when i was 13/14 i was a total snot. my mom was expecting it, it just rolled off her back. after a while i stopped because it didn't make a difference with her. it took longer with my dad though, because he had more troubles accepting it.you should know that these days, i'm more at ease with my mom, because i can say something like, your getting old, and she'll just laugh and say something sassy back.
don't stoop down to your daughters level. you know that "cool" is just recycled from what was cool in your days, so what if your daughter doesn't know? it's her loss, don't lose sleep over it.
Weren't you the same at her age?
You have a long haul ahead, but the smart remarks would stop real quick.
I remember doing the same thing when I was a teen, and I turned out okay. Every time I see my mom, I apologize for the way I treated her. :) In fact, now that I have a sixth grade daughter, my mom laughs and laughs at some of the stuff that I tell her about our daily life. I guess what I'm saying is that I think all kids treat their parents like this. Try not to take it personally. Someday she'll think you're brilliant.
sorry to tell you, but your daughter is normal. it is that wonderful time of life... puberty & adolescents...
No offense, but could you be embarrassing her by trying to act much younger than your age?
And I must say, NOT all kids treat their parents like this.
She needs to learn that it is wrong to be so disrespectful to you, and maybe you need to learn to act like a mom.
evidently you have forgot how much hell you gave mom while you were growing up. and i bet you money that you told mom some of the same things your daughter is telling you now. so just enjoy your second childhood while she is young enought to be a child.
Welcome to the world of parents of teens. Every time she comes home, crack up some Sinatra or Johnny Cash or something equally as repulsive. Once she sees that modern music is so much better than the crap you are "supposed" to dig, maybe she'll understand. Also, tell her that she only thinks she knows everything because she is young and ignorant. That the true sign of maturity is to acknowlege your ignorance.
Sounds like you need to grow up yourself, and not take things your daughter says so personally. She's your daughter, not your sister - take some parenting classes.
Good luck. I would try and talk to her about respect. I know I had problems with my parents but it was never about whether they were cool or not. (They weren't but that is beside the point). She needs to respect you. If it really bothers you, sit her down and talk to her about what it was like when you were her age and about respect. Even if she thinks you are totally uncool, you are her mother and she should show respect.
A lot of kids her age like to feel as if their generation has things of "their own." Having a parent like them sort of, well, contaminates the coolness. I've seen a lot of teenagers who feel that way. Just go with it, but try to tone down her disrespect with your personal cool attitude.
On the other hand, my kids always liked to "turn me on" to their music; and I do the same for them with mine. As a result, I listen to a lot of Tool, NIN and Muse, and they borrow my It's A Beautiful Day, Chicago, Frank Zappa and Jimi Hendrix CD's.
relax mom, don't you remember being 13?
Welcome to the world of "mom of teens"
we should all have badges that say "buy me a drink, I'm the mom of teens"
here's what you do - take the focus off of yourself - smile lovingly at your daughter and sweetly (but sincerely) say "I love you dear". and leave it at that. They can't answer to that
my teens (3 of them) are always told they are loved, never put down, smiled at, hugged, cherished and sometimes indulged when it's warranted. The most important thing is to keep communication with them open and honest. They eventually get it, and grow out of it.
Stick with it mom, you're doing a good job.
I think she has way too much attitude. A little rebellion goes a long way doesn't it? You sound like a really cool Mom that any girl would be proud of. Tell her you don't care if you are talking about music, hair or cookies, she needs to respect your opinion and your wisdom. Don't try to be a friend, you are the Mom!!
She sounds like a normal kid to me. Get over it. If she gets too much of an attitude, just remember that you are the mom and the one who is in charge not her.
She sounds like she is testing your limits. She is searching for her personality traits and she is trying to find them through you.
Just think when you were her age and how awkward you thought you parents were and how much you much smarter you thought you were over your parents. I tell you children are much different these days and they have a lot more peer pressure than we did. Life today is much more stressful because there are so many "grown" up things children have to indulge.
If you feel what she is saying is making you uncomfortable tell her and open up to her to show her how you feel. Soon she will stop but until then don't be afraid to let her know that she is still a "kid."
It sounds like she's going through a phase. If you would like her to be a bit more respectful that's something you can deal with in your own way. She's probably trying to find her own identity.
well. . . I'm in middle school, and was last year too, but i never acted like that. i understood that while i am smarter and more mature than most other people my age in my grade, i am nowhere near as intelligent and mature as the average adult. i think your daughter is turning into a stereotypical, thinks-she-knows-it-all priss. Tell her not to talk about things she doesn't know about like she does, and, if you're willing, reverse it. you used the slang first, right? so when she says "god, mom, why are you using our words?" say sarcastically- "Oh my god, (daughters name)," snotty tone- "They were my friends and my words first." a.k.a. give her a taste of her own medicine.
hi mom, welcome to teenager-hood!
it sucks, get comfy b/c it will probably last until she is about to graduate high school or the first year of college.
she is trying to find her own individuality and doesn't want her mom to infringe on that. it sounds like you are competing with her a bit (The other day she made a comment that it is crazy that her mom knows all HER songs and that I shouldn't like teenage music...the music I like is mostly remakes from when I was younger! ). this isn't going to help at all. just let her think you are lame and let her get frustrated with you, but continue to be there for her and get used to being uncool:)
take care.
Because, she is going thought puberty, its the time where a young girl is turning againsted her mother.. i dont know why they do that, im her age so yea i do that sometimes to my mom, but only because she embarasses me when she says weird things like "cool" and stuff, and i think that she is trying to think she is cool becuase she says cool. some parents dont realy get why there kids say things like that. So now i dont really care what my mom says XD
dont let her balk talk to you. You can say any words you like and she needs to know that
Isn't that what everybody did? Don't you remember when you were our age and you said those same exact words to your mom? I know, you're daughter thinks she knows everything. Is she in fifth or sixth grade or something? It sounds like it! Sixth graders are always like that. They think they are all popular and cool just because they are in sixth grade and they just started middle school. I was the same way. And nobody uses "tight" or "dope" or "fresh" anymore. Sixth graders think we do, but we really don't. We use "dude" and "awesome" and "coolio" and stuff like that...stuff that OUR generation made up. Your daughter doesn't know SQUAT about middle school, no offense.
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