Please, my 12 year old daughter is lying to me, and it hurts.?
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OMG that was so me many years ago lol. Well your daughter is probably embarassed, i was, so i tried to hide it from my mom. I just didnt wanna be grown (at the time) and having a period meant i was a woman (well so i thought). Dont be hurt she probably has a reason she's not telling you. My mom and my older sister were on to me until they finally just figured i had started although i never admitted it to them.
maybe its an embarrising issue for her give her time she will come around.
Because talking about that stuff just isn't fun to do w/ parents.
maybe she wants to avoid "the talk"
Probably because she is embarassed. Dont pressure her on this, let her come to you. Why are you searching thru her room anyway? Can we say invasion of privacy? I can see if you think shes on drugs or something but because of her period?
She's probably just embarrassed- I wouldn't push her too hard on this. 12 is such a hard age, and if she does have her period, then her hormones are most likely out of control for the first time in her life so its natural that she would be moody. Just make sure that you have pads and tampons around for her if she needs them. When she is ready, she'll let you know. I was embarrassed too when I first got my period, and didn't tell my mom for 3 years (I was only 11).
maybe she is freaked out by the hole thing. its a strange thing maybe she doesnt have all the info she needs give her time and she is 12 12 yr olds lie its hormonal
I remember not wanting to tell my mum and being a bit embarrassed at the time, but she didn't push it and bought me towels and left them on my bed with a note saying its OK to talk and shes there if i need her. I was a very quiet teenager maybe she just wants a bit of Independence and thinks shes OK by herself, if i was you i wouldn't push it just casually ask her if she OK when you think its the time of the month for her. I know it hurts but she isn't trying to hurt you.
She could be embaressed. Could it maybe be one of her friends?
I'm sure she's embarrassed. I know I was afraid to tell my mom at first- thinking she'd make a big deal about it. It wasn't so bad though. I'd simply talk to her about it. Let her know you know she is on her period, and that you need to discuss everything- like what can happen if you leave a tampon in too long-things like that. Give her a calendar so she can mark it down when she's on it. Let her know she can come to you about anything.
She is probably embarrased and upset by it. Instead of asking her repeaditly about it, you can sit her down and tell her that if has gotten her period and doesn't wish to tell anybody about it's okay and you will respect it, but it is a normal thing that happens and she shouldn't get embarrased or upset. She probably doesn't want you to make a huge deal about it. So respect her wishes and let her be.
She is embarrassed! Perfectly normal. However, I would suggest taking her to your local womans clinic or a gynecologist that sees children. Explain to them the situation. If she is 12, she really shouldn't be using tampons. Also, if she is too embarrassed to talk to you about these things, she may feel better with someone else and you want that someone else to be a person with some real knowledge. You don't want her to be getting all of her pubescent information from her friends! in addition, make sure that the doctor or counselor discusses some general sex ed with her. I know it is a lot to handle as I am also the mother of a 12 year old girl.but you want her to have the facts!
Good luck and hang in there!
she might be scare of telling it to you, fist talk to her and let her know that having period is nothing bad to be ashamed of , let her know that you are there for her if she has any questions...
do not try to make her to admit.
good luck
maybe she is embarrassed and scared and she does not know how to come to you about it. i am 17 yrs old. for me when i was imberrassed.. do you have a good relationship with her, because if you dont then she really thinks your going to ask to many questions or something and she doesnt like it.. hope this helps... :- )
Because she feel like you don't need to know her business. Especially if she has older sisters. When i first got my period, i felt embarrassed to tell my mother and hid it from her, of coarse cause my sisters where their and told me what i had to do to keep clean but they didn't know i hadn't told my mother. Maybe you should just be cool about it and not force her to tell you and when she feel comfortable and not all crazy about it, then she will be open. All she needs is her space. She learns all of this in school and thinks it's a big deal so she wants to keep it to herself until she sees its no big. It's just a faze.
She might not be having her period. She may be experimenting with things, wondering how they look and how to use them. Some of her girlfriends at school may have started thier periods and she wants to know what it's all about. Another thing, she may have had her period and she might not want to talk with you about it. I know this hurts, but she may be embarassed and feel weird talking to you about this. Give her time. Find some good pamplets with useful information on becoming a woman and give them to her. She may find that useful, and when she's ready she will talk to you. I wish you the best.
You have to take charge.How can she get her period, without you actually knowing about it?? Do you not have conversations with her about things? You have to know how scared she must be if you haven't properly prepared her for what's happening to her, what's to come, how her body is changing...etc. I must be one of those "rare mother's".My daughter tells me everything! Even things that I'm not "wanting to hear"...But I have to say that I am sooo thankful that we have such a good relationship. I'm glad I'm able to be there to give her the "correct info" and anything that she has a question about.I know that if I weren't there for her, she would get "the info" from some one else, and who's to say if it would be the right info. Teenage girls are so vulnerable, they need their mom's, they need their mom's to be able to talk to them about anything and everything. You have to ask questions and get involved.no matter how embarrassing the situation might be!
I think there is some communication issue b/w u n ur daughter...otherwise what is the harm i a daughter telling her mother about periods?
Infact you should have been the first one to have got to know that.
Try to get close to her.
Let her know that you are always there for her.
Best of luck!
simply tell her that she is growing and she needs to know some stuff...... also don't try to ask her all the time but if she doesn't want to talk simply leave her alone, beleve me she will come to you once she gets cramps!
a similar thing happened between my mother and I. I got my period at 11 and it would come and go and I thought there was something wrong with me because it didn't come on an exact schedule, and it came before all my friends so I thought something was wrong with me. I think its also because this is a grown up thing to her and she wants to keep it personal, you have to let her tell you on her own time... Hope this helps!
Tell her that it is no big deal, and you just want to know because a trip to the Doctor may be needed if she has any problems
and you will need to buy her supplies, She is embarrassed.
hm..looks like she's quite emabarassed or shy abt this issue. Don't take it personally...give her some time until she is comfortable to talk to you about it. In the mean time, make sure u don't be too pushy or too aloof and give her some room to feel comfortable around u.
She may just be trying to be private about it. People, particularly at that age, feel uncomfortable talking to anybody, especially parents, about such an intimate topic. Remind her you've been there and know how she feels and what she's going through. Encourage her to open up to you, tell her you won't judge her and, if she needs someone just to listen, you're there. She'll listen to ya I'll bet. When the time is right, "the gates of conversation" will open. Don't give up on her.
Look, she just doesn't want to talk about it. When I got mine, I didn't tell my mom. My sister found out and told her. She is going to lie to you. She is avoiding "the talk" and all of that stuff. It's just embarrassing. Then mom's think they have to go all out, and once you tell your mom, you know the whole world is going to know because moms don't know how to shut their mouths about their daughters' lives and they don't know how to keep personal things personal. That is why I don't tell my mom barely anything I want to be kept private, and I am 13. And don't try to explain to her that you will keep it a secret, because we both know you are lying. First, you will tell your mom who will tell your sister who will tell her friend and on and on. You can't keep secrets with your parents anymore. Every girl knows that. Moms and Dads tell everything, no matter how personal it is.
well tell her that that she is the age that she should get her period, tell her that if she doesn't get it in a month or so you will take her to a doctor who will look at her down their and run all sorts of tests on her... this should scare her into telling the truth...
She's just embarressed. It's an awkward conversation for a 12 year old girl
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