14 and pregnant. Need help on what to do.?
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You need to talk to your boyfriend, but FIRST talk to your school counselor and your parents. They can help you out a lot. It's something hard to say, but the truth will come out anyway...especially since you won't have an abortion...you'll grow and get bigger and people will see that and know. Even if you are going to put your child up for adoption or keep it, someone has to know. That will ensure the healthiest start for your baby b/c you won't have the stress of worrying about how to hide it.
The only reason I say talk to your parents and counselor before your boyfriend is so that he won't persuade you to do things you don't want to do. I'm not saying he's a bad guy, but he'll be nervous too...and since you can't flat out tell him then there's something that's bothering you about it. Seek help and a doctor immediately.it's the best bet for that baby!
Tell your parents, doctor and him you are going to need a lot of help and support. Don't wait go now!
First talk to your parents about this. Worry about your boyfriend second. As soon as you tell him he'll probably run away. Your parents will always be there for you.
If you can't talk to anyone, at least find a planned parenthood center near you, and pay them a visit.
It might be hard to put your baby up for adoption, but in the long run its the best choice. Your baby will have a better life (more nuturing, better enviroment) then you could have ever given it. There are adoptions where parents area allowed to keep in contact with the baby. Look into it.
Good Luck!
you are pregnant and will have a baby
how can anyone help you
you probally would need to put it up for adoption. sorry, but it's the best thing for you. being that young, your schedule would be too crazy. let your son or daughter have a nice, stable family for them to live with. look into pople's profiles to see which family is best for your baby, they would love to take him/her in.
but first, tell your parents then your boyfriend!
if your parents allow keep "it" , you must never depart with your "boyfriend" try harder at school try to make a good life to take care of "it"
tell him "its your kid too" work together and hope for the best
You are too young to have a baby. Get an abortion or put it up for adoption. You say you don't want to do that, but the only other alternative is to keep it. You are a child don't ruin your life.
Adoption is the best choice. There are so many couples who are ready for the emotional and financial challenges of having a baby. Giving your baby a stable home with parents who are ready for the challenges is the best thing you can do.
If you don't believe in abortion and you won't put it up for adoption, then I guess you're stuck raising a baby. Good luck with that.
At this time you need all of the support in the world. Especially at your age! Go to the doctor just to be sure that you are pregnant and if you are, there is no choice but to tell your boyfriend. It looks like you've already made the choice for your unborn child, that you are keeping it, so you have nine months to prepare for it.
TALK TO YOUR PARENTS NOW OR ANOTHER ADULT FRIEND, BOY FRIEND AND HIS FOLKS NEED TO KNOW ALSO. HE CAN ALSO BE CHARGED BECAUSE YOUR A MINOR. LOTS OF THINGS TO THINK ABOUT. FIRST, TELL YOUR PARENTS.
First off tell your parents then worry about telling him! You need to go to a doc and get checked..but be prepare..you are both so young he may not want to be a daddy yet..you may be a single parent!! GOOD LUCK and next time please use better protection!!
First off, go to your parents. You need to just break it to them that you are pregnant. Then depending on whether or not they have insurance on you, you need to get to an ob doctor to confirm the pregnancy and start going for regular visits. If you don't have health insurance then you need to get to a health clinic in your area and apply for medicaid. The sooner the better on prenatal care. And because you are so young you may need to be monitored more closely.
How old is your boyfriend? Will he be able to help financially? Ultimately it is you and your familys decision on adoption. Some alternative schools have it to where you can go there pregnant and when you have your baby it can go to daycare there. You NEED to finish school. That is the best future if you decide to keep this child. It WILL be hard, but other girls do it ALL the time. I wish you luck!
you need to straight out tell him, "i'm pregnant". you also need to tell your parents so they can help you make a doctor appointment. please if you need to talk feel free to i.m. me.
I have a 14 yr. old daughter, and if she came to me that she was pregnant, I would support her. In that however, I would never encourage her to have an abortion. I would encourage her to place her child for adoption. I am adopted myself and so is my daughter and son, so we have 3 people in a family of 4 that could have been aborted but mine and their birth mom chose life. I do not know where you live, but I know that there are pregnancy help clinics all over that have counselors ready to help you make an informed decision. Abortion only adds to the problem. Besides taking the life of the baby, you can injure yourself physically, emotionally and spiritually. You need to tell you boyfriend however. He needs to know. I pray that your parents will be supportive. A 14 yr old is too young to raise a child, but not to young to make a very wise decision to carry the baby and then place it in a home that wants to have a child, Today adoption laws are so open that you can select the parents for your child, and have ongoing relationship with them if you chose,
First of all you should be very shameful for being that young and pregnant and its disgusting.From what i infer your boyfriend has probably gotten more then you pregnant and he won't care much. What you should do is go to confession and get your sins forgiven then tell your parents but let me tell you right now do not get and abortion that crap is ridiculous how could you kill your own child?Well tell your parents and your boyfriend and good luck and god bless.Please try to get your life on track for the sake of the baby's life give him or her love and attention and let him or her have a good life and teach him or her to never do what you did.Don't think i hate you but you seem to have a bad life at this point so get your life on track but keep your child safe from harm. God bless and good luck.
All I can truly say is pray for guidance. Have you spoken or informed you parents of your situation? This decision is very delicate, because you yourself is just baby. Then the question moves into how old is your boyfriend, because you must remember this not only affects you, but also him.
What I would suggest is to go to your parents and if you are afraid to go to them, then go somewhere like planned parenthood and have a counselor help you to find a way to discuss it with them.
You may not believe in aborting your pregnancy, but how easy do you think it will be to place your child up for adoption. Also think about the stress that you are going to placed on, not only physically but also emotionally.
But again sweetie pray for direction and guidance, and talk with your parents. They maybe a little upset and hurt at first, but you need them right now. Peace and Blessings
14!!!??? well, it's not my job to judge. But if your willing, your parents could raise it themselves until you're old enough
Just tell your parents and then tell your boyfriend. You need to go to the doctors asap to start pre-natal care.
If you dont believe in abortion or adoption, dont. Its not your parents decision what happens to your baby, its your decision.
Congrats, i know you are scared and worried of what will happen, let someone know that wont freak out about it first, so you have some support, maybe ask that person to come with you to tell you parents.
Good Luck With Everything x
Congratulations on your first baby!
1) i am totally with u on th abortion thing but their is still adoption i was adopted when i was 5 days old and i have heard all of the your kid will be messed up emotionally crap and none of it is true
i have always known that i was adopted and my life is great !
2) tell your parents they love you so much that they will not even think about what u had to do to get pregnant because they will be to busy thinking about yours and your baby's health
3)tell the guy and if he doesn't stand by u then you know u can't
be pregnant because that means he has no balls
P.S. stay strong about abortion because that is a human life
Tell your school nurse. They can give you a test and talk with the counselor. They will call your parents in and it is all on nutral ground so you don't have to feel threatened. If this guy goes to your schoolmake sure they know that. That way he can be involved. He can't go against the nurse at the school or the positve test.
i dont care how u tell him( maby yell at him for haveing S E X with u) but y did you have it your so yong and keep the baby even though its going to be wierd havind a mom 14 years apart
This is a decision you need to think about long term as in can you raise a child? Will you have support? Where do you want to be in life and can you get to that point and raise a child at the same time? You dont believe in abortion...well i do because so often there are parents that are so young that do have children and they cant cope and the child ends up beaten or in some worse case scenarios dead.sorry but its a fact im not saying you would do any im answering a question you asked.But on the other hand some people cant mentally deal with abortion.You did "it" unprotected and you are 14 hun think about it and think about it hard this is a decision you will deal with for the rest of your life.And way down the track if you are living in a slummy neighbourhood the chances of this child getting involved in bad stuff is gonna be high.I dont really care of what ppl think on what i say im speaking my mind and i am speaking from experience.How ever if you do have a support system in place and you feel you can do this by all means go ahead if you feel you can be a responsible parent ,changing nappies,coping with constant crying(in some babies),the terrible 2 tantrums,missing your social life because you are off to daycare,playgroup,kindy etc.,the cost of clothing schooling food and that list never ends.That is just some of the stuff and yes its scary and i have the balls to say it.no one did to me. Dont get me wrong i love my son to death that i gave birth too when i was 17 but i never ever realised the impact it would have on my life FOREVER.You are probaly a good kid and i am not choosing to scare you i am choosing to let you know the facts.seriously you need to go to a counsellor and talk and cry and get out what ever it is you need to get out and have an adult who has probaly seen this sort of thing before help you think things through long term.Best of luck with what ever decision you make and i mean that from the bottom of my heart...one piece i can offer you is never say no to help,it can be the hardest thing to do but its the most gutsiest thing to do.
Do What You Think Is Right.
Talk To Your Parents this is a big deal and they need to know abot it.Also go to the dr.
Good luck sweetheart. Becoming a parent is always a suprise. I would pray about it and go with what your heart and mind are telling you. If you have an open relationship with your parents, you should tell them. they are better off giving you advice and seeing you through this time than any of us would be. Good luck shoog:)
You are so young, it's normal to be scared. Everything will work out. Good for you for wanting to keep your baby, I don't believe in aborption either. You are going to have to find an adult that you can trust and tell them what is going on. Try a school counselor, preacher (or maybe a preachers wife in yourcommunity) You need to see a dr soon, so keep that in mind. And yes, the father needs to know. And yes, he needs to support the baby. Good luck to you.
omg am 14 and the last thing am thinkin of is losin verginity at this age..your pregnet and no one can help u here just face the consequences and be a mother at the age of 14 it is better to be hangin out with ur friends at this age but to bad u skipped stages and u ruined ur life i know it might not make so much sence.
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If have a daugher and im almost 14, its easier then peopel tell you, as long as you love your baby and feel that love you'll be fine
tell him you are pregnant and if he dosnt understand then dump him.
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