13 year old and boyfriend?
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Is she actually dating, or is her "boyfriend" just a name...someone she calls perhaps on the phone. If that is all, I'd let it go. If she is sneaking around and dating when you think she is elsewhere, a grounding is definitely in order.
You are right. 13 is far too young to be dating. It's best to be firm.
Think Before you let it go Sweetie
Better to have control. Say it is ok, but they must be at your house when they are together. She is going to have one anyway and it is best to know what is going on.
let the girl do it.
im 13 and i know how that feel.
you shouldnt be so overprotected
she just gonna keep denying you and doing things you wont like
its not a big deal, my first was at 12 and it was just puppy love like noting serious so you shouldnt make a big thing out of it
girls will be girls
ask her why she lied and to trust you. tell her that you won't overreact and if she's doing something, tell her that you should be aware of. because you cared.
don't worry about it. if she is a good kid than she wouldn't do anything bad. she was probably just embarrassed, i know i dint want to tell my parents when i got my first boyfriend.
im 14 and let me tell you this form my point of view the more you push teengers away the more they become rebels.
soo let her have one keep an eye on her,
just leave it alone if she wants she has a boyfriend then she will if she doesn't then she doesn't! and u should trust her!!
Let her be free. My gosh. Let her make memories for her to look back on. But make sure you know what there doing and don't keep them locked up in your house. That's torture.
well give her some privacy shes 13 a teen aageer she shoudl able to date. duh. u funn sucking mother.,my kid shes 12 i i let her makeout with gu ys. in my livin room. shes a lil hoe, but girls cna b girls.
She's a teenager. It's absurd to try to keep her from boys, but you should definately set some boundries. Talk with her a lot about it. Keep the lines of information open.
um, 13 year olds can't do much, they have no car, not very much money, they just use the term "boyfriend/girlfriend" to impress their peers. just watch her, i wouldn't let her go to his house alone, he can come to yours only when you or your husband is home. tell her about all the terrible STDs and just keep a close eye on her
don't make a big deal about it. unless you think the boy is bad or dangerous for her to be with, then step in, and if she doesn't like it, she needs to deal with it, your the parents, you've been around the whole dating scene
Punish her and tell the parents of the boy. Restrict her time when she is not in your presence, severely. If you don't, she almost certainly will start having sex within in a very short period of time. Since she is only 13, and hence, an idiot, she is very likely to get pregnant, and/or get involved in an extremely negative situation with the boy.
It's real simple. Girls who have parents that force them to delay sexual relationships (boyfriend/girlfriend is ALWAYS a SEXUAL relationship) until an age appropriate time turn out normal while those that do not, end up all screwed up.
Let her have independence and if they "break up" then say "No more boyfriends for a while" but definatly keep control
Let her date him and see how it goes. If he is a good person (respects her and treats her well) then let it to continue. If he is not a good person, get rd of him before he corrupts your daughter.
I would again explain the rules to her and tell her that I expected HER to take the responsibility of taking care of the issue and being honest with the boy that in fact she is not allowed to have a boyfriend. Then I would make sure that while she was not in school that she did not see this boy. You might start thinking about getting her into some construtive activities such as dance or marital arts to occupy her time because she is finding her own ways of filling up that time and it could lead to a pregnancy filling up her time.
I would hope he is just someone she sees at school or calls on the phone. I would tell her you know about him and ask her why she lied. It is important to build trust between each other or she will continue to lie. I would assume that she is not left unattended with this boy. Dating or seeing the boy especially at this age should be on your terms. In my opinion, she is too young to date anyway.
I'm almost 18 and from a teenagers stand point don't worry about it. If you tell her to stop she's going to want to see him more, and resent you. Not letting your children "to date" is kind of pointless to be honest. When you're that young it's just kind of a cute thing, it's nothing to worry about. If what your worrying about is sex or something, my parents allowed me to date whenever I wanted and I still ended up not having sex until recently. You just gotta trust your kids to make their own decisions.
you could do one of two things, or both. You could drop hints about how dating is bad and tell her fake stories of how dating at her age affected peoples lives, or calmly discuss with her that you know. Remember justalking, no yelling or running away from the situation.
Well try to meet the guy first. But tell her that you 2 want 2 have a talk (do only one-on-one) and talk to her about boyfriends, if she doesn't tell you at the end tell her you know. And tell her that she can tell you anything and don't be embarrass and don't think that u you will make a big deal. Also tell her you have also been a 13 year old. But really 13 year old boyfriend girlfriend are something not really to worry about its less than puppy love. All can happen is a little kiss.(Not very serious kiss.) But let her experience this, it will pass. Trust me, I know!!
dont! im in highschool, but i know that when i was at that age my parents said no and i snuck out with my girl and all sorts of stuff, at taht age its a joke so dont worry. nothing can happen just be like "i know you have a boyfriend and even though i dont approve your getting to that age and i will be ok as long as you promis to think before you do anything" trust me anything else will result in tons of anger and rage that you dont want.
leave it go u told her no so what do u think she'll do? go out and find 1 dur
im 15 ive been dating since im 12. its kind of hard to hols yourself back when the person you like likes you back. : /
sucks for you i know.
I'm 13 and i date. how old is this boy? If he is like 12-14 then sure go ahead. If he's older most parents won't like it, but it doesn't mean it's a bad thing. I dated a 16 year old and my mom found out (I hadn't told her) and told me to break up with him. I told him what she said, but I didn't break up with him. Two weeks later or so he broke up with me because of his ex. If I had though she would have let me go out with him then I would have told her. I am still really close friends with him and to me it wasn't a big deal,
let it slide, just drop hints about how they shouldn't be intimate. things like this will always come up, you cannot expect her to not date and she is doing it behind your back because she feels you and her cannot come to a safe compromise. Don't tell her you know because if she knows you know she'll think you are okay with it which may bring about risky behavior. Like I said, just drop hints about anything you may be concerned about that may be happening between her and that boy. You could also SCARE HER with stories of diseases that can be spread so that it will always be on her conscience.
uh well im only 14 so what do i know? But i think that dating at 13 is alright as long as they dont go to far. Maybe with some restrictions if it makes you feel better. I would tell her that you know and let her know that doing things like that behind your back is not alright but compromise with the dating part. That way, you both win a little bit wile you still keep your authority as a parent.
i wouldn't punish her for havin' a boyfriend. she should have a little freedom. don't let her and her boyfriend go too far though.
be like the dad in 8 simple rules (RIP). talk to her "boyfriend" and scare the **** out of him. be very stern towards him while making sure that he doesnt do any **** to your daughter. let your daughter do what she wants; teenagers dont realize things unless they have realized it for themselves.
Have to re-evaluate the reason why you told her "no boyfriend". As a former teen not too long ago, and you were once one too, you should know to not tell her not to do something. That is a formula in her mind to motivate her actions to do it.
In her mind, why should YOU be the one to decide when she is READY to date.
You need to think of that when she will ask you that most likely.
I would honeslty supervise her and set some rules (ex: Can't be alone, can't go in bedroom and shut the door, talk about the birds and bee's).
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