Help with my 15 year old son. I found magazines in his room and there were stains in his sheets.?
Also - He asked me if he could have a few friends over this weekend to sleep over, boys and girls! I said I'll think about it and then I found the magazines and "stains" what should I do?? Please help me.
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Ok well hes obviously going through puberty. If his dad is around he is the one that should be talking to his son. And he shouldnt bring up the things you saw it will only embarass him. It sounds like its about that time to have that talk with him anyway. Also no to the coed sleepover but you can have the girls over just say they have to leave by 11. If he goes crazy when you wont give him something say then fine no sleep over at all now. And when he gets like that then start assigning extra chores such as raking the yard or shoveling snow etc. Always remember the most important thing in that situation you are the parent and dont back down from your decision otherwise he will continue to walk all over you.
Let him go. Could do the kid some good.
- Bride
ahaha.
dont let the sleep over happen inless you want a grandchild.
IT IS A PART OF A TEEN AGE BOY, BUT NO GIRLS NEED TO SPEND THE NIGHT OVER THERE.
the stains wer probably wet dreams, the mags are totally normal. unless he is like 12 wich he isnt i would let him. just make sure that u check on tem every once in a while. it should prob be pretty harmless. i tink it would be ok. nothing would get like serious if u and ur husbound or somone like another adult is home.
leave the kid alone .all boys do this ,do you want to give him a complex .this is totally normal
let the stains go. if the mags are violent or a health risk, take them away.
let him be.
dont let him have both the boys and girls over, its too much of a risk. ESP. at 15. boys are fine, but keep the girls at the girls house.
Sounds like normal stuff but the sleep over with boys and girls at that age sounds like trouble to me.
I know what I did at 15 and would never let my kid do a sleep over with boys and girls at that age.
talk to him about it and dont let his friends sleepover only if u want a girl preganent at that sleeepover
give him privacy. as far as a co ed sleep over, no way, not at 15. i would let the girls come over till like 10 maybe but only boys sleep over.
Let it go. There is nothing wrong with what he is doing - it's natural.
Regarding the boy/girl sleepover, I would not allow that. I realize that they have become more popular recently, but I just don't believe in it. I never let either of my daughters have or attend a boy/girl sleepover. It's just asking for trouble.
That is a dangerous situation. He is too young to have co-ed sleepovers. That could lead to an addition to your family..
oh, ha! don't let his friends over, unless you want to talk to him about safe sex. the magazines and semen are just fine, just make sure he don't watch net porn. he probably would have sex with his friends, so be careful. whatever you do, DON"T GET MAD, or take away anything (not magazines, but yes to net porn and maybe to friends).
Well it al depends on your moral views...if you dont want your child having sex at such an early age, then the sleepover wouldnt be a good idea. But if you want to let teh child to lead life of his own, let him throw the party and be repsonible for his own mistakes. All you can really talk to him about is protection. You can't really keep the child from having sex or having sexual thoughts. You can really only educate him on it.
C'mon, he is 15, let it go, don't embarrass him, what is there to talk about, he is a healthy boy. For as far as sleepovers, not so smart with boys and girls that are sexually curious don't you think, use common sense.
As long as the magazines are "typical", I'd leave things alone. If the mags show any kind of abuse (don't count light bondage), you need to address it.
If he has younger brothers or sisters, you might want to drop a casual comment to him to hide his magazines better - you don't want the youngsters running across them.
Other than that, let it be. It's perfectly normal.
Oh, and NO WAY on the co-ed sleepover!
hi your son is 15 and so am i! he is in high school i am shor look this is normall hes a guy now not a little boy he gets urges just like a man hes all grown up and soon he might deside to have sex thats life
If you don't know that a 15 year old boy Jacks Off,you've been living under a rock,it's perfectly normal.As far as underage girls sleeping over,I'd be careful of that !!
at 15 no way would he have girls spend the night! also i would NOT bring up the issue. let your husband, also, i'm sure those stains have been there before you are just now noticing them. even if it's just from wet dreams, it happens. maybe the girls could hang out but must be gone by 10:30 or 11, but the guys can stay all night. good luck on this one =)
I am sorry but I cannot answer your question.
Let everyone spend the night but walk in about every 15-30 min. just to be safe!
~Chanel!~
I have a 13 yr old son and as much as I don't want to think about it, I think the stains and magazine curiosity is probably pretty normal. I am very against the idea of co-ed sleepovers though. I think that is just asking for trouble. I know that the hormones are raging at this age and letting them all sleep over is letting them find out about those curiosities! Good luck!
I have to agree with the majority on this one. Boys at that age will have wet dreams..unless he asks, don't comment on it. It will only mortify him and drive him away from asking questions. Keep the communication open. If he hangs around while you are doing housework and acts like he wants to talk..let him and give him honest answers.
A co-ed sleepover is never a good idea. An adult-supervised party with boys and girls could work out, but no sleeping over except with the same sex. The magazines are normal too, but monitor the type of magazine he is looking at. Some can be even too graphic for adults to handle. If he shows interest in unusual sexual fantasies, such as bestiality or sado/masochism, then I would confront him with it and try to steer him away from that kind of activity.
If you do say something to him about his girlie magazines, just let him know that you are aware of their presence and ask him to please keep them discreetly hidden, especially if there are other siblings in the house. Keep communication open above all. You will find mutual trust will come from it.
hmmm. his a teen, dont tlk to him bout-know how embarassin that would b for him? imagine u were him.
a lil advice: dont let him have any girls at the sleepover, they've all got their hormones - u dont wanna be a granma, do ya?
The magazines and stains.thats just what young boys do...and really isn't something you should scold him over or punish him for.
But the sleepover...NO WAY. Not only is that a bad idea for your son and his friends...but if something happened you could be held responsible for it!
first dont worry about the magazines and the bed stains
let the sleap over contienu just peek in on then every now in them
this is all normal
talk to him. If you are afraid he will get mad, tell him you are the mom, and it goes your way. Don't let your son scare you, and do what YOU think is right.
i think you should say okay to the co-ed sleep over just make sure the girls sleep in another room and check up on them every now and then. if he wants to have sex he will theres no stopping that. but hes 15 and hes horny. you cant tell him to not do that at night when hes alone if you expect him not to go get it else where.
let him go
the stains were probably from the wet dreams he is having . you can let him have the mags . but tell him the positive and negative stuff about those mags .
ur son is changin lol...but all boys do the things he's doin trust me i heard of some pretty crazy things in the locker room..Having sex is like playing bridge. If you don't have a good partner, you'd better have a good hand
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