Should I call or wait?
Answer:
I understand your frustration, especially where money and time are concerned. It sounds like you have invested a considerable amount of time and energy in this young man over the past year and a half. You should be proud of yourself. He is lucky. While the circumstances are frustrating, try to leave Jonny's mom out of the loop. Your commitment is to the mentee, despite the fact that his mother may be making the situation more difficult (both by not honoring Jonny's commitments and by making excuses for him). I know you feel dissed, but you are the mentor, and this relationship is for Jonny's benefit, not your own. Try to recognize that if Jonny had fully developed the life skills that you might wish he had (courtesy, respect, commitment, etc.), he wouldn't be in need of a mentor.
I think it is your responsibility to get in touch with Jonny. This is an opportunity to teach him something about relationships and life. Tell him that you understand that he did not have a choice as to whether or not to go out of town (if this is the case), but that you were bummed to have missed the game. Without expressing anger, further explain that you were really disappointed when he did not call. Ask him how he has felt/would feel if he were blown off in this way? Explain that you have higher expectations for him. Encourage him to keep his commitments. Ask him to be honest with you. Does he want to modify the relationship? See you less? Under different circumstances? Or has his situation changed so much that he wants to end the relationship?
You should also consider how the relationship is working for you. Perhaps set boundaries, so that you don't get "dissed" this way. Don't buy tickets to events. Take him to the park, to play basketball, etc. But do take responsibility so that you don't get hurt or taken advantage of.
You could be waiting forever. They might think that you should make the first move.
I think you should call just to be on the safe side. because, they might not call and you could be waiting forever.
Ummmm.i think you should leave him alone before people get the wrong ideas.
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