I'm 35 years old with two teenage kids how can i be a cool mom?
Answer:
Be their Mom. Someone they can trust, respect, look up to, be proud of, confide in . Don't try to be a friend instead of a Mom. Friends come and go ...
don't tell them to clean there teeth for a start i hate parents that patronise u
be very laid bak but always have control over your children.
let them have some sort of freedom but make sure they know who the boss is.
Don't worry about being a "cool" mom. What they need is a responsible and respectable mom. Parents shouldn't have to be "cool" in the eyes of their kids.
tell them to clean their teeth and put paste on the toothbrush at night and demand they brush teeth
cool mom---u cool enuff
The "cool moms" are the ones that end up with fines for letting their kids skip school or drink underage. They are the ones who are charged with a crime after another child leaves their house drunk and kills an innocent person or themselves. They are the ones that don't care about their kid's future or grades in school.
Cool moms buy their kids cigarettes and drugs.
I don't ever want to be a cool mom. I am the world's most over-protective and involved, heavily tattooed, suburban mom.
Definitely not by trying to be one of them.
You get the "cool" label by being understanding. Keep in touch emotionally with what it was like to be their age, and you will always be the one they (and all the other kids) want to turn to. If you remember it well (and it takes a bit of practice), you won't roll your eyes at their ideas and slang and clothes and music. You won't judge. You will listen and understand.
That doesn't mean you won't have any rules or boundaries or that no one will ever be told something for their own good or punished for getting out of line. It's just that if you understand and you "get" them, they know it, and they can forgive the fact that you will always be the parents, not the friend, and that you sometimes have to be the enforcer. That just comes with love.
let them do watava they want
ps ur cool mom for wanting and tryin to be a cool mom
If you just be a good mom you'll be cool to your kids. There is a fine line. You need to be a mom and a friend but be careful not to fall into just friend catagory. Kids, whatever age, need a mom and will appreciate what you have do as a mom eventually if not today.
Be there for them. Love them. Listen to them. You don't always have to offer opinions or advice. I know sometimes we feel like we are supposed to have all the answers for them... but they don't really expect that. They sometimes just need a loving ear to vent to.
First, don't try to act too "cool" like getting tatoos, piercings, or wearing mini skirts. For me (im 14) a cool parent would be a parent who is understanding about restrictions. My parents are cool for me because they trust me enough to let me do what I want, like go to the mall by myself. Also, my parents bought me a cell phone, cus I needed one. But, they recognized that I needed one, which was cool.
It bugs me when parents try too hard to be the "cool" parent, by having NOO restrictions, whatsoever, on their kids actions, and by dressing and acting like they are 15 again.. But, if that's the kind of "cool" you're looking for, be my guest.
For me, real "cool" is having an understanding trustworthy parent who respects a. my personal space, b. my friends, c. my choices and decisions. A cool parent lets me make some of my own choices, but still knows when to step in and direct me.
Good luck!
You can be a cool mom only don't go overboard, because with your teenagers may go to taking advantage from you and start treating you like a friend and not a mother. You can be cool, by showing an interest in the type of future they would like for themselves. Play boardgames with them and invite some of their friends to join you all.
don't try being cool. just be urself ur kids will thank you for it when they grow up. just support them but tell them when they are in teh wrong. that's as cool as anybody can get. just being there for that person.
You have to be laid back and not to protective. But you should always be there when they need you, and stand by there side.Don't dress younger than your age(like mini skirts and tatoos) because that's just embarassing. You should show them that you care about there future and what they do. You should give them some space because they're growing up but not to much that they stay out of the house for to long and worrying you to death because you don't know where they are.The more responsible they are should be a reason to give them more freedom.
yea well i'm a teenage boy and i consider my mom a "cool mom". she gives me my space and doesn't bother me and gives me almost all the freedom i could ask for. she trusts me completely but i know that if i ever screw up she'll take the trust and all the priveleges that go along with it away in an instant. And all my friends love her cuz she's not a pain in the *** and she makes INCREDIBLE food. she likes to say "i'd rather have 15 16 yr old boys over my house and know where they all are then not know where my kid is". that to me is a cool mom
um... don't try to be cool, then you'll be cool
You can't be. . . you're MOM. You are supposed to be the parent. Parents are NOT cool. Parents provide structure, discipline, boundaries, and guidance. Teens expect it and whether they believe it or not demand it. You can be cool when you are there for them, protect them, and help them keep their nose (and everything else clean). If you DON'T provide parenting you will be SCUM because anything that happens to them that you didn't give them definite rules and guidelines for will be your fault (whether it is or isn't). Don't try to be cool. . . be MOM, the parent.
I don't neccesarily think you should be worried about being a "cool" mom, but be more worried about being a "GOOD" mom. My mom tried to be the "cool" one and all it got her was resentment from me. When my friends were around, she would tell them stories about when dhe was young, or worse yet, when I was young. She made me feel stupid. I love my mom very much, but from expierence, she was a better mother than a friend. If you want to be a cool mom, don't try and dress like your children or talk like them, but instead, help them be more in touch with what's in style. Take them shopping for the latest hip clothes. Take your daughter to get her hair done in the latest style, or get her nails done like every other teenage girl. Even if you just drive your children to the mall or movies to hang out with friends, that's more "cool" to them than you know.
Well, I'm seventeen years old and my mother and I are pretty close, but she will always be my "mom". However one thing that she does that i commend her for is that she always "trusts" me until I mess that up. So that could be a tip, trust your kids and let them do things even if you arent a 100 % okay with it, and if they mess up then thats when you become more strict.
You want to be a good mom, not a cool mom, and it's impossible to do both. And if you are worried enough about your kids to try to be a cool mom, then you are probably a good mom.
hmm my mom's pretty cool.. tell them too do their chores and homework before the weekend starts, and have some family time with your teenage kids and have a lottt oof fun, and dont have a mean attitude with them
You can't be. My wife tried that. Not did our daughter end up in a LOT of trouble but it almost cost us our marriage. Being the good mom is WAY more important!
r u kidding. thats about impossible! it is completely based on situations. and how you react, how u communicate. dont be over bering but make it clear u are not to be under estimated. dont stand and lecture or try to sit at the table and lecture. sit down on the floor and b.s. with them. they need to know you are "human" that u have feelings and are flawed and that so are they and its ok to make mistakes as long as they are learned from. try not to be hypocritical. try not to patronize. listen more than talk. make them sit down and have dinner atleast once a week with you. dont be afraid to ask what they did at school how their friends are. do not accept "i dont know, ok, fine," for answers. play "uno" with them and their freinds. bull crap. its time to understand that in a couple years they will be adults and you will not be able to control their lives any more. you must get to know them to guide them. being kewl isnt important. "BEING THERE" is. most of all when you get them comfortable and they do trust you and they start to talk to you. "DONT FLIP OUT" when u hear things u dont like. remember, u should be glad u r finding out. guide them through give them perspective. educate them, punishment is not the idea here, they are not 5. they understand already that there are good and bad consequences to every action.
give them freedom but make sure they know how the boss is dont nag
I think that you need to be their mom not their friend, although they might not like it now but they will thank you later.
You can still be a cool mom, just be yourself, show them that you care, and that you expect them to be successful, decent, etc.
Be there for them, listen to their problems, and give lots of love, even if they don't show it but they really need all the love and caring.
Good luck it's not easy to be a mom
I'm 34 w/ 1 teenager and 2 future teens . . .I highly recommend the book "Yes, Your Teen Is Crazy" - great read, helped a lot.
Bottom line: You are only cool in small amounts. You'll be cool when they are grown up, have their own jobs and kids.
dont just be cool...be a good parent too
Be a mom not a friend,but be an all-knowing,open minded,open hearted,mom.Don't try to act "in" but be interested in your daughters life.Be open!
don't put up huge barriers on everything set limits on a lot of stuff but not everything. a cool mom is a mom that is responsible and caring but doesn't make her kids' lives hell on purpose. you can let them do fun safe stuff a lot and don't use your power badly use it for good not evil. compromise. instead of saying you can't go simply go with them they may reconsider. don't be the embarrassing mom that wipes kid's face in public. give them freedom with limits trust they won't respect you unless you respect them. be easy at first and tighten the reins after they screw up so you have an excuse
be a cool mom..but be the mom first. A cool mom is fun but she enforces rules when needed..with love and kindness. a cool mom demands repect from her children. you need to understand what there level is but bring them up to yours and then they can learn lifes lessons. get them involved in your interests but get invoved in your childrens interest as well. Be funny and open while showing them how to respect others and show compassion to others. Let them know they have expections and goals to achieve. Laugh together. Find common ground. Just dont try to be one of them. They need friends but they need a mother most of all. show concern and use your proplem solving abilitites on their behalf. show them quiet dignity, grace and composure fix most dilemas in a mature way. They need to hear your approval and no mushiness, they need to hear that you approve. so tell them with a smile and a hug. be an example for them to follow, they are watching all the time. so do good things and one day you will be so proud when they do it for themselves. I have six children, 4 are adults and 2 still at home. I wish i knew then what i know now. Dont talk down to then when they have done something wrong..talk as it is a problem that you both will need to solve. They will tell you things you might not have heard and even come up with their own punishments. and realize their action hurt the people the love. but they need a mom to be the constant that will handle the difficulties and solve the problems with kindness and concern..never yelling. Good communication skills with out drama that comes so easy to teenagers. Sounds cool to me.
Be an understanding mom. That's cool enough
your kids have lots of cool friends they don't need a cool mom they just need you to be the best mom you can be while remaining in control..setting mom boundaries..the best mom's in the world have to make uncool decisions sometimes and when they are grown that's what they will love and respect and remember you for...just be a mom the best you can be and everything else will be fine...
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