My daughter's boy friend is adopted and been told he can not contact his real parents until age18true or not?
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I heard that also, that he can't contact or get any documents about them until he is of age. Even then, it's difficult.
It all depends on the biological parents. They probably requested that he shouldn't contact them until he's old enough or to that age limit set of 18. I have a friend and she was adopted. She talked to her real mom at age 16 so I guess it all depends on the request.
no thats a lie
This is not true. There is no law that says that. His parents just don't want to take the risk of losing their adopted son. I say take him to meet his real parents and just think of a lie to tell his foster parents. Everybody should be able to see their biological parents.
Well I am not so sure that is true. In my own personal opinion, I would find out where he was adopted from, then contact that agency and see what the paper work says. I would take it from there. If you are unable to get any info from the agency, maybe you could ask them where you could go from there in getting any help. Best of Luck to you:)
I can only speak from experience. Our daughters were unable to meet their birth mom until the oldest was 18. We contacted her through the adoption agency and on the day of her 18th birthday we took her back to New York and she met her birth grandmother and a few days later her birth mom.
Some states do not allow these meetings until the child is age 18. Only the agency can tell him for sure. He needs to discuss this with his parents and work with them to secure the information he needs. Then at 18 he can work on meeting his birth parents. He needs to understand that some adoptive parents are very unsure of this step as they question whether or not they have been good parents to him. These issues MUST be discussed BEFORE he meets his birth parents. They may or may NOT (and probably the latter) be what he expects or has fantasized about.
I am adopted too. And yes it is true, by law he dosen't have the right to contact them until he is 18. Sucks, huh.
My guess is that his adoptive parents have made the choice that they will not give him any information they may have about his biological parents until he is 18. There may be a good reason for that - many people dream of meeting their biological parents only to be bitterly disappointed because their biological parents refuse to meet or talk to them or there are SERIOUS problems in the biological family - parent(s) in prison, rape situation, etc. You may want to talk to him about the possibility of it not being the "happy" reunion he is dreaming of before he really begins his search. Good luck!
Some adoptive parents make this stipulation when the put their children up for adoption. I wish him luck in finding them when he is able.
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