14 y.o. and still sleeping in parents bed?
how do i encourage her that it is ok to sleep by her self. i want to tell her to grow up but i dont want to be rude. please help! and last night she went home at like 1 am cuz she said she couldnt sleep. please help me find a way to tell her that she needs to grow up with out being rude?
Give any advice you have! i will give u 10 points.
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Be supportive, but don't push her too hard. Encouragement will work better. Something may have happened in her life that has made her afraid to be alone. Don't push too hard. You sound like a good friend. I know you will handle things well! Good luck.
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Sleep with her then.
Tell her to become more mature.
this sounds creepy
Invite her over for a sleepover. Show her without making fun of her that its normal to sleep alone. Make a fun night out of it.
some people just feel comfortable sleeping beside their parents. theres nothing wrong with it.
give her some time..she'll grow out of it.
Tell her there is nothing to worry about; she will get over it.
how about talk to her parents privately about it
I would let her know (in a kind way) that its just not right. Teens are so influenced by peers and a little embarrassment may motivate her to grow up.
well if i were you i would tell her to grow up because that's what she needs to hear because shes not getting it from any one else so i were you i would just tell her to grow plan and simple ^^ happy new year
Not normal at all...she needs professional help.
Offer her personal suggestions. Like yeah, when I first slept by myself, I kept my lights on. Tell her to give it a try. It is kind of lame that she is still sleeping with her mother. Encourage her to first go to sleep with a light on [like a regular lamp] then after she gets used to that, have her ask her parents to tuck her in, turn on a night light and turn OFF the regular lamp. Pretty soon, she'll be sleeping on her own.
As long as Dad isn't in the same bed .. it sounds like she has a lot of issues with seperation from her Mom. It isn't about "growing up". Maybe it will get better .. if not .. then counseling. I would keep my nose out of it though, if I were you. Leave it be. Good Luck ! :)
give her suggestions on how to sleep like count sheep just search the easiest ways you can go to sleep...for me i just put eyedrops when i cant sleep and because it kinda stings i just close my eyes and then before i know it im sleeping...
just be like ur the only 14 year old i know that still sleeps with her parent si think u need 2 @least try sleeping by yourself for a week b/c its not cute anymore and tell her that...b/4 shes knows it she'll being goin off 2 college and then what happen?..idk make her think...her mother needs 2 tell her 2 get the HELL OUT
Maybe you can have a sleepover at your house and talk to her about it. Fourteen is still a tender age and being close to her mother is a good thing. Maybe she has had a bad experience and wants to be close to her mom. Whatever it is if she is a true friend be by her side and support this change.
It sounds like your friend has a serious issue with separation anxiety. Her mother has done her a huge disservice by allowing this to take place. I am not a doctor-but anyone can see the girl and the mother need help.
I would tell her as a friend that it is time to grow up and let her know other people find this strange. I would also report this mother to child protective services-what else is going on??
these sleeping problems may have escalated out of control ova something silly that may have happened to her when she was little e.g scary movie ect. or mabe not. u need to be there for her as a friend and try and encourage her to see a doctor who may be able to help with some form of medication or therapy for her sleeping probs. this may also have a detrimental effect on her health.
seriously, i think you should tell her how it is. she 14 for heaven's sake! WAY to old. tell her how her mom and dad might feel. don't you think they want some privacy now and then?? there really is no nice way to say it: She needs to GROW UP!
What is your friend gonna do when she gets a boyfriend and wants 2 get laid ? Sleep with mommy and ask 4 advice while getting boned ? Your friend and her mom sound like sick puppies.Sound's like they both need 2 go c a quack doctor .
Well I for one am glad you aren't being mean or harsh to her because of this predicament. Now, as for a way to resolve this, I have not personally experience this but maybe doing something such as having her take a picture of her mom and having it sit on a nightstand might be something to try. I know of one kid who would sleep by holding on to a picture of his parents in a album.. this would hopefully help her relax, just seeing that picture.
I also fully agree with the bunkbed idea. People are different. Everyone has different emotions and characteristics. Some would say this is 'Mommy's girl' or other cynical response, i merely tell those kinds of people to STFU..
Also, using a same technique, maybe a personal belonging of her mothers would allow her to sleep in different areas and also feeling secure. A necklace she can wear with a locket with her mom's picture could work.
Hope this helped somewhat. And keep supporting her, no need to pressure her into feeling bad about this habit. I'm sure this will blow over and later you guys can all have a good laugh (a good laugh, not a bad laugh)
Good Luck and Happy New Year!
Um, there's not "polite" way to say "grow up". As a friend, what you need to be able to say is "you can do this". I recently went through this with a six year old boy who was still sleeping with his mother.
(Before you all jump up to tell me that's ok, how would it go over if I was sleeping with my six-year old daughter.)
Be suppotive. Don't give her too much grief about going home in the middle of the night because she can't sleep. Just wait a while and invite her back to try it again. At your age, my solution for this would have been to invent games to play all night...by morning she'll drop from exhaustion and sleep just fine. :)
explain to her that one day she will move out and not be able to sleep with her mom.
also her mom is right there if she wakes up she can just go check to see if her mom is there
she might need anxiety meds. she might be thinking that her mom could die or something can happen.
she needs someone to trust and talk to from deep down.
she may also need sleeping pills
It's likely that she is like this because her mother never discouraged her from sleeping in her bed while she was getting older. Her mother must be unmarried because most fathers or step-fathers discourage this type of behavior. In some cultures, it is perfectly normal for everyone in the family to sleep in the same bed. But our culture rewards independence. You might want to point out to her that eventually she will need to learn to sleep alone unless she plans on living with her mother forever and never leaving home, going to college, getting married, etc.
She more than likely will grow out of this on her own even without any encouragement, but it doesn't hurt to encourage her to step outside of her comfort zone to become more independent.
this is not your issue this was permitted by her parents and they should do something about it
Tell her some ways that she can get herself to sleep like reading a book before she goes to bed. I'm not much of a reader but if I want to make myself sleepy, then I read. If that doesn't work, tell her to put a pillow next to her when she's sleeping so she won't feel alone. If she needs to, she can spray it with her mom's perfume or something so it feels like she's there. It might sound weird but it works. Hope it works for her.
my 12 year old sister who i have to share a room with does the same thing. she gets up in the morning and goes to my parents room. so i ashed her why she does that. she said cause she is scared of aliens coming to get her/ i just told her to get a grip and grow up they have not got you yet so there not. i have 7 brothers and sisters and we have all done that once you know. but my oldest brother slept with my parents til he was 13. then hi9s friends found out and well he did not anymore.
try tellig her ways that might help her sleep alone like listening to music. or reading, or even leaving the light on for a while.
Put your food down and say no. Kids HAVE to sleep in their own room. Can't sleep, just an excuse. She'll get used to it after a while but sleeping with parents is a no-no. Even my month old grand daughter always sleeps by herself!
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