12yr son bad grades??
I've taken PS2 and he cannot play afterschool, don't know what else to do?
Answer:
It is probably the kids he is hanging out with. I would talk to him..mother to son.
Give him incentives to get good grades. Kind of a bribe but both parties work out!
make him study where a parent can observe. Never let him study in his room
maybe if you take away what he likes and tell him he will only get it back if he is at least a c averge or plan something eciteing and tell him the only way he will get to do it is if he gets at least all c
Something's going on. He's troubled about something. Any major changes in the home?
Could be puberty and hormones, could be something more.
You do need to talk to him. If you don't have an open relationship with him, find the adult who does.
like tha otha person said 'talk to him 1 on 1'. If that doesn't work, then consider getting him a tutorer
There is something more going on with him. You really need to sit down with him and find out what has changed in his life. New friends, lost friends, loved one passed away recently. It could be a number of things. Let him know that you are here for him and that you want to help him and to understand why he is getting bad grades all of a sudden and try to listen to him and hear him out. :O)
Talk with his counselor at school!!!!!!
help him!
tell him that for every a he get's, you will get him something or if he gets straight a's he'll get a new computer or something and if gets a's and b's he will get his ps2 back
My thirteen year-old came home with his first F. 5th grade it was straight A's. I was so upset. For one, he didn't tell me he was having trouble in his class. And two, he wasn't turning in some assignments either. Like he had a choice. I did the same as you. I took away games and outside time until he brought his grades back up. I gave him a firm talk about decisions and not doing his work was not a good one at all. Stay on him and start going up to the school; they hate that. If they see that you have a relationship with teachers and that you can get phone calls anytime it'll probably get better. Mine did. Write back when changes are made.
Talk to your son there's a good chance that he is bored and not being challenged enough. I'm assuming he goes to public school but maybe another option would be better . . . altenative schools, private schools, even home schooling. Playing to his intrests and abilities will probably help too offer "rewards" for good grades. Tickets to games or concerts . . . sports equitment, games . . .whatever on a sliding scale.
If your child is getting bad grades then you should let his teachers know so he can get help on what he doesn't understand. Tell him that's the best thing he could do is ask for help and it will totally turn him around. What i think you should is make sure that he does him homework b4 fun. And getting the proper rest like getting sleep has a;ot to do with it to. And amke sure he's stressed out. And when you have test and quizzes study days b4 and not the night b4. Well i hope helped out.
It sounds like your son is going through puberty. Go ahead and cry now because it is that bad. He needs several things. Be firm in telling him what you expect. He is not a child anymore so stop treating him like one. Make him become more responsible and give him chores that he hates if he wants to act out. Monitor who his friends are it is very likely that he is following an example of someone he is close to. Sit at the school with him if you have to. Let him know that you will not tolerate his unappropriate behavior. When he does something good make sure you over praise him. Make him feel awesome. Finally, if that doesn't work sit him in church 3 times a week and call the psychologist he may be going through something a little bigger than you can handle. Be strong and I hope all turns out well.
If you're able, sit in on his classes unexpectedly. Tell him you're 12 yrs old and want to be treated like an adult, then act like one.
Set strict pick up times and enforce them. Do not let him participate in sporting events or even watch them until his grades improve. Get him a tutor. Go with him to the tutor to see where you can help. I worked two jobs and sat 4hrs a nite w/my son to force him to focus. Don't allow him to weaken you, don't lose your temper, show him you are prepared to rough-it-out with him,
NO MATTER WHAT. If friends are the problem- reinforce: You are guilty by association. Even if you are doing nothing wrong and the friends you chose to hang out with are, you "look" guilty and even teachers treat you accordingly - (even though it's not supposed 'to be'.) Never show impatience - Call his cell phone often to check-in and know where and who he's with.
Teach respect and good language skills. will get him FAR.
Lots of please, thank you and excuse me's.
p.s.: I got the biggest and most beautiful flower bed dug. I let my son think of a punishment or I would. His idea of one day without televison wasn't good enough. LET HIM KNOW YOU MEAN BUSINESS AND YOU'LL ALWAYS BE THERE FOR HIM.
say: I WANT YOU TO SUCCEED. Eat breakfast before school.
Listen lady he's 12 he's almost a teenager get him tutoring dont think its the end of the world. Because im 13 and i was like that when i was at the age of 11 and 12, but now that im in 8th grade i got my first report card for the school year and i got all A's and B's. So dont worry about it calm down and just get him tutoring its a teenager thing.
If he can type his alphabet and use the library's SRA program, phonics's are of only any good if they can already read presumably Dr Seus. With SRA they should be reading at a 101/2 th grade now and be ready for basic geometry and early algebra. Don't worry about phonics's though till there using the dictionary. And maybe try music instead of languages
I honestly think it is just the age. My son was also an honor roll student and within the past year, my son is doing those same things. They have so many things going on in their minds at that age that they are just discovering (whether we want them to or not). This does not mean to let him get away with it scot free, but I truly don't think it is a health issue or anything abnormal. Of course, I do not have a PHD attached to my name, but I AM a mother and a good one, if I do say so. Keep using discipline at your discretion, because you want him to know that you disapprove, but don't write him off just yet. Be patient, and even if there is not an instant improvement, in the long run he will appreciate your efforts, whereas if you just let it go b/c of (insert excuse - health, family life, etc.), being a child the age that he is, he will learn to make excuses and will naturally learn to use that to his advantage and no parent wants that for their child. By all means, talk privately with his doctor and have him give you a clean bill of health next checkup just to give you peace of mind, because you would hate for this to be related to the diabetes, but once he says your son is fine, I think you can probably chalk it up to age group and the hormone and puberty rush! Good luck!
come on diabetes and things like that at that age can cause depression... im at his age and a bit overweight and it sucks for me. I dont like to talk unless its on the internet . Myt friends are 5th graders and cool ( really funny to) i only seem to be happy when n my computer , in my room ( ALONE ) or at school.One on one talks suck, its not fun to have one with parents its almost shameful
He needs a little therapy. Diabetes is a life changing illness. And my guess very difficult for a child to handle.
Tell him it's not the end of the world. Don't be to hard on him. He needs time to adjust.
And don't go overboard and giving him everything he wants.
Well what you can do is beat his azz. When i get bad grades my mom beats my azz. C's arent that bad atleast hes passing but if its a D then kick his azz. Just make sure he gets a C or higher in each class.
Dear Parent
i think their is a special way to communicate with 12 yrs old boys, they get encouraged when they hear the words you are a winner.
explain to him when u turn your assignments on time you a winner, getting good grades and promote good behavior is also for winners only.
Boys need lots of attention and love, when they don't care about their grades its 2 things one he cares less about making his parents proud or impressing his parents or two he has trouble education issues that requires your attention.
12 yrs old boys all they think about is play play play, its awesome because you can easily bribe them into doing any thing for you, every time he asks to play or etc.. tell him, SURE just finish your homework and show to me, or empty the dishwasher, take out the trash if he doesn't have any homework. important thing is always have the child to do something before he goes for FUN activities.
If your child is not use to these types of requirements from before, please start him with little time consuming chores
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