What is wrong with kids these days? Why are they trying to grow up so fast?
What is wrong with kids these days? Although I am seventeen, I remember I did not care about stupid stuff like that three or four years ago (or even now). When I was a preteen, I was always riding on my bike or playing around outside. Heck, I did not even know what stretch marks were. Even now the only thing that I am concerned with is getting into college and getting good grades (oh, and shopping). What is going on here? Could it be the media? It breaks my heart that kids are just so ~*weird*~ nowadays.
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I don't think that 13 or 12 is really extremely too young to be concerned about some things that young adults are. I know as a young teen I was definitely concerned with my appearance, however I just think that kids are more comericalized and exposed to mass media marketing today than ever before. They have more expendable income than I did as a child and are as a result targeted at a young age by people looking to make money off of them. Like other's have also said Hollywood and the record industry plays a big role in negative trends with our youth today, specifically regarding over sexualization. These people really don't care about the youth, because these industries are filled with incredibly perverted people who are only concerned about one thing, Money!! and they will exploit and warp to aquire money anyway they can.
Parents are also to blame, as many modern parents are more concerned with their social lives and their careers than instilling good positive values in their kids. They use Hollywood as a baby sitter. It is really no surprise that parents today have messed up kids. A good deal of them were raised by boomers who were a messed up generation.
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i agree
It's nice to see that there are some teens who have their priorities straigt. Keep up the good work
i agree, I'm 20 and I STILL don't care about some of that stuff, I was reading one question yesterday about a 13 year old trying to talk her parents into letting her go to Japan ALONE wtf? It must be the media these days.
it's the informational age nowadays.
im sorry but i really do. if it matters to you that much i can send you a picture. ok? i dont really care about my appearance that much. i only wear makeup on special occasions. so dont assume that im "trying to grow up too fast"
Yeah, it's all these shows like Oprah and magazines that tell you all of these ways to screw up your life as a child. = ( My kids are 11 and 8 and they both are planning what car they want to get, what they want to be, (In specific detail such as a marine biologist in California) and even what type of car they will drive! They should be worrying about how many licks it takes to get to the tootsie in a tootsie pop! Hehe, I aggre.
Parents and other adult authorities in childrens life are always telling children that they need to grow up, or giving them responsibilities that are beyond their age abiltiy, so children are always thinking that they need to be older so that they can please adult figures.
THAT I DO NOT KNOW YOU GIVE THEM A INCH THEY WANT A YARD AND THE STORES ALL GAME BOXES LIKE GAME CUBE IF YOU DO NOT GET IT ARE CAN NOT AFFORD IT THEY GO OUT AND STILL IT FROM WHERE EVER THEY CAN GET IT FROM KEEP YPUR EYS ON THEM AS A PARENT WHEN YOU MEAN NO SAY NO AND DO NOT GIVE IN PUT YOUR FOOT DOWN AND KNOW THERE FRIENDS THEY HANG WITH OK IF YOU DO NOT LIKE THEM JUST KEEP A WATCH OUT
Media plays alarge role in the lives of teens and preteens. Fortunately my daughter is 12 and all she wants to do is to play on the playstation play with her friends and spend time with me during the holidays. Then again my daughter is not girlie so she wants to enjoy the last year of her childhood. She is also determined to study hard to get good grades so that she can work with animals. It all depends on their upbringing as well.I agree it is sadthat girls want to grow up too fast.
Amen to that! I see girls my Daughters age (13) that look 16,17 with all that make-up on their faces. I did'nt wear it till I was 16 myself. It's crazy!
Yeah, I know what you're talking about.
I'm 16. A Junior in high school.
My Mom's an elementary school teacher. Sometimes I'll go to some little event or something at the school to help out. I can't believe what those kids are talking about!
It's all "Who's dating who" and "Listen to this (hardcore) rap/pop-punk" and "Support Our Troops".
I think it's clear they're just mimicking what they see on T.V. and such. They're just trying to adhere to the status quo and be 'cool' and grown up in the eyes of their parents and peers.
But, yeah. When I was in the third, fourth, fifth grade (which really wasn't all that long ago) we NEVER were concerned with that stuff. Even as a pre-teen, it's wasn't as bad as it is now.
It kinda seems like the high school kids are getting more mature and the behavior that was once meant for older kids is spreading down to kids younger and younger.
Sad, really.
Again, they just want to grow up because they have nothing better to do. I'm reminded of a song by Switchfoot, "Gone". Go read the lyrics, it kinda explains things hah.
Peace.
I REALLY DO THINK IT IS THE TV. I'M 20 SOON TO BE 21 AND I DON'T LIKE TO WATCH TV . I HATE TV. WITH MY JOB IT IS FROM SUN UP TO SUN DOWN. I CARE HOW I LOOK BUT IT IS NOT THAT SERIOUS (I WEAR MAKE-UP, AND I THINK I LOOK BEAUTIFUL WITH IT ON BUT I HATE PUTTING IT ON ) AT MY HOUSE WE HAVE 3 TV MY ROOM ONLY HAS A RADIO. ALOT OF KIDS SEE THEIR CELEBS OR OLDER KIDS ON TV AND LOOK UP TO THE THINGS THEY SAY, DO ,PREFER AND SUGGEST. I LOOKED UP TO MY MOM AND SISTER AS A KID AND STILL TO THIS DAY. THEY ARE BEAUTIFUL INSIDE NEVER WORE MAKE-UP AND THEY ARE NOT 120 POUNDS. THEY COULD BE ROCKET SCIENTIST (AND I WOULD PUT MY LIFE ON IT). I LOOK AT A LOT OF THEIR FRIENDS AND THEY WORSHIP THESE 2 WOMEN
i dont no my sister is 12 and wears makeup and some of my friends (13 yrs) do i dunno why
You think this is sad try being 2o something and see it.
I have a 7 year old girl and we went to get clothes for Christmas in the mall. The particular store we went in to had sparkly bra's and panties for her age. WTF!! You can hardly find anything that doesn't yell "I FEEL LIKE A GROWN UP IN THIS, DO I LOOK LIKE ONE" or how about the hoochy momma clothes they sell for children.
Everything is so superficial these days and everywhere you look these little kids are dressed like little hoes most of the time.
My child told me that she wanted to dress like Brittany Spear's when she was 4. She wanted to wear a short shirt and show her stomach like her. Of course I said no!
I went to school with a girl, back in the day, that would not leave her house if she didn't have make-up on. She was in the 5th grade.That is ridiculous.
So, I'm pretty sure allot of it has to do with the media, and other kids doing it. Some parents just don't care, while others don't pay
attention.
It's a sad sad world out there.
And you know what gets me the most? Parent's who wonder why their child got raped when they left the house with their butt hanging out and only a fourth of a shirt on.
im with ya all the way!! they should enjoy life, enjoy being a teen, live life to the max!!
because they want to find out if sex is really a good thing
media, the times are changing and the media is portraying what "real teens" in to with television and the kids watching the shows think thats what real life is like and thats the stuff they need to be in to. i dont neccisarily think its that we're trying to grow up fast, we just are influenced.
I guess maybe they try to be more mature.Its either peer pressure, self-image,self confidence,BLAH!Im twelve and people say that i dont act my age.They say im childish.Well i guess i am.Im just afraid that maybe when i grow up i wont be able to do these things anymore because of work, etc.Im just really bothered that my friends act as if they are 15.Im pity them cause after pretending to be A TEEN at a young age,they will just regret it when they have wrinkles on their face.
Like you , i just like ride my bike,play basketball(seriously,girls say that i shouldnt play outside cause ill just get darker).Children like my friends pretend to be older.They try to grow up so fast.What they dont know is that time can never be changed and when the time comes they will just regret it.So yeah,I agree with you.
Well, they see the world a little differently than we do. They see it as a scary place. Looking around they see people with wrinkles, people who are overweight, they see the blind, the deaf, the mute, and the not so pretty people.
They fear to be like that. I'm your age, and I still remember doing stuff like that. Now, all I hear out of my younger brothers mouth is *****
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Then again, all of his friends are doing it to. It is absolutley ridiculous.
Kids need to stop growing up so fast and try to live the life all kids should live. They need to ride their bikes, and go down to the creek to catch fish. Even just go and pretend that they are great hunters. (Idk)
Media has a huge effect on it, because all they tell kids to do is grow up. No matter how much we try, they are going to listen to the media more than they are us.
It's the media that influences kids this way. I'm 14, but I dislike the current state the media is in.
The media, Hollywood, music videos, movies. Really, it's those things and also their friends to can be a bad influence.
I know i wasn't worried about that at 13 years old, i was playing outside!! Now a days it's real different!
THANK YOU. i am only 18, im still young but your right. Kids these days need to just have fun and be kids cause when its time to enter the real world.your gonna wish to acting like a kid when you had the chances. O and girls your beautiful the way you are DONT WORRY SO MUCH :)
Its partly the media's fault. Older siblings, cousins, and parents.
No offence to anyone. I am 15 myself, people say i act and look older than i am. Well, i don't try, it's how i was brought up, i guess. To be halfway responsible, to care how i look and act around other people, whether they are my age, or 3 times my age. When i was a preteen [12-ish] i had already had a serious boyfriend, was wearing LIGHT makeup, and could care less about riding around on a bike. I did, however, go skating and to the movies with my friends. I've always been able to hold a serious conversations with adults, ever since i could talk [according to my parents.]. People are always complaining about why kids grow up so fast, did you think that they want to? Did you think about the media having an affect? Did you think of even their parents having an affect on this?
Hope this helps.
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the hollywood life, everyone, particualy the teens, are pressured to be perfect, and the only way to be perfect is to have and eating disorder, have tons of money, have the best clothes and act like a ho, saddly thats whats perfect in our time
Its a part of life.. we all grow up!
well there's a lot of pressure you know that's what it is i'm 15 but idc lol . alot of kids act on what they see there parents doing also.have a merry christmas.
I really hate the current role models. Amazingly, many teen (or preteen who think they're teen) girls admire people like Paris Hilton, Brittany Spears and Nicole Ritchie, to name a few. It's really sick that they send this message to young girls and they suddenly think that it's fine to wear belly-bearing tops, too-heavy makeup, and no underwear, thongs, etc. I hate that teens are dating at young ages, and using social networking sites like myspace. It's kind of lousy that the kids who don't do these things are on the outs. I agree with you wholeheartedly.
Well I'm 16 and I agree kids are trying to grow up too fast... but when I was 13 I wore tons of makeup and I dressed way to sexy for my age (I was going to bars and stuff and hardly ever got ID'd)... Its kinda normal around here (in BC Canada)... I was anorexic by 9, drinking by the age of 11, doing drugs by 13... Its just a way of life... But I do agree with you now that I've matured some...
Kids are growing up to fast because the parents let them grow up to fast.
Parents control what their children watch on TV, what type of music they listen to, what clothes they buy from the store for the child to wear, how much makeup their allowed, etc...
So in my opinion, its the parents that's the problem not the kids.
P.S. Not all kids are "growing up to fast".
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