Really bad sibling issues.PLEASE HELP!?
My older sis has also done thimgs like this in the past, once she even offered her vodka. I don't want this to keep happening to my little sis, but when i tell my mom, she won't believe me! what can i do to protect my little sister?
Answer:
Hello sweetheart. This situation sounds bad. The best advise that I can give you is to hang out with your little sister as much as possible. I know that you are 14 and she is 10 and it is not the "coolest" thing to do but it is best for your sister. She needs a positive influence. Because she has two older sisters she is looking up to both of you. By spending more time with her, you will have a greater influence. Teach her positive things and even more so emphasize on the negative things for girls her age(sex, drugs, bad grades, etc.) and how these things will harm her. As a child the negatives I was taught in my life stuck out more therefore; I did not participate in those things. As for your older sister, you can influence her too. By leading a healthy lifestyle, although she is older, she my begin to follow some of your lead. Stay positive and caring!
Kandice
Make sure you stick up for your younger sister and keep telling your mother and other adult relatives.
I'm sorry you're going through this.
talk to your sister
Just make sure you tell your little sister that her big(gest) sister is doing things to make her look foolish...
You big sister is almost an adult. it's time she grew-up!!
kick your big sister a*s*s and then go tell your mom why you did it if she acts sounds like she is jealous of your lil sister and truely wants to ruin her life talk to your lil sister about the wrong and rights and let her know that you love her and to be accepted she dont have to act the way the older sister acts gl
As bad as it is to say this because of what might happen.if your mom won't believe you go to someone else. A School counselor or someone. This can not be allowed to go on. Alcohol could kill your little sister and having things like condoms could cause people to get the wrong idea about what your little sister wants. Someone has to stop this and it sounds like you are the only one who cares to, unfortunately. Talk to someone, anyone, everyone that you can get to listen until you find someone to help you.
You might try catching her in the act of doing these things. You could try carrying a tape recorder in your pocket and when she is around turn it on then show it to your mother so that she can see that you are telling the truth.
Try talking to your school councilor and also try talking to your little sister. Take her under your wing. Be the better bigger sister if you know what I mean. Treat her with respect, and watch over her like a mom would do. Sorry to say, your mom seems like she is a little to wrapped up in her own world to even notice what your older sister is doing. Your older sister is going to find herself in trouble soon enough. Unfortunately you might have to wait for it to happen before you mom gets the picture on what has been going on. In the mean time be the best you can be, keep your grades up and take care of your little sister. Good luck hun.
I am a middle child as well and can relate. I have an older brother and a younger sister. I am 32 and am still struggling with some of these issues. I am learning that even though it can be difficult to be honest with family by not dealing with it now will only create worse problems in the future. I realize you probably don't want to ruin your relationship with your older sister but it sounds like she isn't being a good older sister - for now.
You can approach your parent(s) again and simply state that you want to be able to talk them honestly and that if they want to maintain some honest lines of communication (which all parents want) that they should seriously consider listening to what you are trying to say. Your other options are to speak with your younger sister about things. My older brother and my younger sister have always had a tenuous relationship and I have always been the one to keep a buffer between the two.
Remember, that every one has conflict and you can only avoid it for so long. More importantly it is how you deal with that conflict that will prove to be most important. I applaud the fact that you aare wanting to deal with this rather than sweep it under the rug. Good luck!
You have to look every second what your big sister doing to your
little sister.If not .you have to scare your older sister with an adult.
good luck
my older brother isnt mean and hes 17 to but he has done things to so once i recorded him and show my parents and it worked but he wasnt to happy lol:)
WOAH! that tough your big sister is rilly bad!! im not 14 yet but im 12 and i am in middle to but if i was you id try and just talk to your lil sis about the stuff u big sister does and let her know she dont have to do mess up stuff to be cool. im sorry ur mom dont believe you maybe if you can show her sometime what your big sister does she will do something cos that is really sad!! Im glad she got cool sister like you to help her though!! if it was me id pray about it 4 sure to.
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