I have custody?
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He is 17,almost a man.Let him do what he wants.He is old enough to decide what is important to him and what's not.
You can't force him to do his homework...Besides at his age his homework is HIS responsibility and if he doesn't want to do it that's it. He is 17, at this time his homework is pretty much a moot point at best.
if he's passing his classes why are you worried ?
try making it fun for him ,,,maybe his never had no one show him love before ,,
Make him learn by mistakes.
To really help him you have to let him see where is work ethic got him. And, if it's failing him let him learn that lesson. Your best bet is to stay out of his schoolwork area. Anything you do or say to push him will only cause him to rebel further.
Have a talk with him and tell him you know what a responsible young man he is. And, that you are entrusting his future to him. This includes his school work.
If he's 17 you won't be able to budge him much at this age so you can't exactly force him to do his homework..but sit an talk with him an say.."Sure you're smart enough to get by with passing grades without doing homework, but why do you want to just 'get by'". (Listen for an answer) Then let him know that " " just "getting by" is the same as living paycheck to paycheck working a job that you don't like and not advancing to bigger and better things" Then ask him what does he want to do? Who does he want to be? What are his dreams? (listen for an answer) Then say to get there it takes small consistent successes everyday to get toward your goals. The best way to do that is to do your best and take pride in the work you do and strive to be great. Or you could just "get by" and not give yourself the opportunities to be able to achieve your goals.
Its just a matter of making him realize that the effort (or lack of effort) he makes now has a big role in how easy it will be to accomplish things later.
Sit down and talk to him, like a friend. Don't get onto him, don't rebuke him, don't lecture him. Ask him what he wants to do in life, and ask him how he's going to get there, and then give some advice on how to get there, and add in there, wherever it feels comfortable, that he needs to do his homework to get through and do what it is he wants to do with his life. Also remind him, not in a chastising way, that when he gets a job he's going to have "homework" there too, and if he doesn't do it now, he might not do it then, and lose his job.
What does his grade card look like. There are several things you can do. You can make a required study time... same time, same amount of time every day and not allow free time until he has studied so long every day. You can also offer a reward system such as when the grade card comes in he gets so much money for A's and B's C's are nutetural and D's and F's he owes you. And honor rolls were extra money. When I was growing up if I brought a C home I had to bring the book home. If it was only one subject I had to have an hour of study time. If it was more than one subject it was a half an hour per book. And for my parents to be sure I studied, they would ask questions from the book if I got the majority right then I earned my free time. Compromise! Reward! and Give and Let them suffer consequences of actions, because in the real world... being irresponsible could cost a lot. Unfortunately we can't save them from themselves and when we try we suffer for not allowing them to carry their own napsack. If you need any other ideas feel free to e-mail me. Sometimes teens need immediate gratification so have daily rewards prepared and don't be afraid to talk to teachers to find out if he is doing his homework, perhaps an assignment book and each teacher signs off when work is done or informs you if not. You can't force him, but there is proper motivation and there is also discouragement from the ladder. Infom him what he doesn't do now, he'll end up having to do later. some employers do look at GPA's. And if he has any ambition to go to college his homework is a large part of his grade. If he doesn't have the grades for scholarships then it is out of pocket will he then waste money by not putting forth the effort. Hope this helps. Happy holidays!
If he is getting good grades on the tests while not doing the homework, he is bored. I had the same problem, talk to his teachers, they need to give him classwork that will actually challenge him.
Take off your belt and tell him youre going to beat his *** lol jk:P
Whats the big deal about homework? If he's passing then it doesn't really matter... If you think its that big of a deal that its not getting done get him a block of learning assistance, all you do in an LA block is homework and then at least some of it will get done...
But really, teachers dont expect homework to be done anymore, so its kinda like just going for the bonus-try-hard-marks...
Your nephew is going through a hard time. I am not sure as to what his circumstances were or why you have custody, but it must have been traumatic for him. Give him a break. He probably needs some counseling. As to his schooling, stress to him the importance of effort in all areas, which colleges look at. The best thing you could do for him is to give him love and support and let him know you are there for him no matter what.
Kids love to have control...so give him a choice. Try rewards for good grades on homework. There are so many things to try, just need to experiment which best fits your child. It is wonderful that he is doing better in your home.
Have you thought about hiring a tutor for him? Is he planning on going to college? Those are questions to pose to him, his grades have to get better or no college will want to look at him as a potential student. Has he been in counseling, has he been to his guidance counselor? There are many different ways to get your nephew on the right path. He sounds like a very smart individual, and will go a long way in life. It sounds like he just needs some directions.
I would suggest that you call a teacher and counselor meeting. Perhaps since he's had a rough time he just doesn't understand the opportunities before him (like college). The teachers/counselors can explain the importance of homework and why he should do it. Perhaps they can show some math examples (i.e. homework equals 40% of your grade so 40% of zero is a zero!).
I also think that you have some opportunity here to sit him down, tell him how lucky he is to have a spot, and tell him that you expect him to listen to you and act on what you say. Does he get an allowance from you? Perhaps you could give him a financial incentive to improve his grades by doing homework.
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