My friend is 15 years old and pregnant should I convince her to get an abortion so she don't get picked on
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no, dont kill an inoccent child just because you are afraid of her getting picked on... first off, she should have thought about all this before she had sex..so now she has to deal with it... 2nd, its her child, you cant convince her to do anything. its 100% up to her. do you really know how bad abortion is?... look, go to this website and watch this viedo.. it might not change your veiws, but it sure as hell changed mine when i first saw it. http://www.prolifetraining.com/qt/aborti...
my best friend is about 7 weeks pregnant right now. she is turning 15 in february. so i know, that it is hard, seeing your friend being pregnant, at such a young age, and you are scared for her, and just want the best for her... but the best you can give her, is to be there for her throughout the pregnany, and just support her. dont care what other kids think of her. in a couple of years, you'll never see those kids again.most of them are assholes anyways.
she can go to a local planned parenthood, and they can help her with aboslutley everything. but please, dont push her towards an abortion.
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First of all, don't call her a whore. A real friend wouldn't do that. Also, a real friend wouldn't try to convince her to have an abortion OR to carry the child. A real friend simply supports the decision made. I'm not jumping your butt or anything, don't misinterpret what I'm saying, I just mean be a friend and support whatever decision she makes. It's her life.
hell no u fukin stupid or wut the **** is your freking problem
If she is sleeping around, I would mostly be concerned about the diseases that she will pass on to the child.
She sounds way too irresponsible and young to have a child. I would discuss all the options with her, and encourage her to make the best decision considering her circumstances
Abortion isn't always the answer. maybe your friend should consider adoption, there are lots of loving families out there that would love to have a baby. Maybe you should convince your friend to confide in a school teacher counsleor or someone she looks up to. Is the father of the baby going to help her, does her parents know. I think she should really confide in someone and figure out what she needs to do that is best for herself and not anyone else!!
i have a friend who was like that in school. well, not that bad, but she ended up pregnant at 15 with her boyfriend of 2 years. her father forced an abortion on her. she's now 27 and still deals with it every day. she says if she had known what it would do to her mental and emotional state, she wouldn't have done it. so, you have to take that into consideration too, not just her being picked on for being preggie, but being called a baby killer for having an abortion, as well as dealing with the fact that she killed her own baby. be her friend and support whatever decision SHE makes, not the one you think she should.
There are other ways around instead of abortion. I believe abortion is wrong. If this girl sleeps around. It's her own fault she got pregnant! There are lots of people out there trying to have children and can't. Then little kids go out mess around and then destroy a child by abortion. There is adoption out there. Who cares what other people say if she carries the baby, she should carry it! It can't hurt her ego any more! SHE MADE HER BED NOW SHE CAN LIE IN IT!
I wouldnt ever convince a friend to get an abortion. That is none of your buisness. That is a stupid reason to kill her baby anyways...
Well I think that abortion is wrong. But if you really do want to convince her, dont be rude and yell at her if she dosent listen. First you should listen to her side of the story. Maybe she dosen like abortion. Than you definatley should NOT even think of convincing her, because she will be hurt and feel not cared about. If she wants the kid DO NOT tell her to get an abortion. Otherwise you should tell her everything will be alright and tell her options. If she dosent mind getting picked on, leave her be. But just remember to always keep her options open! And if she gets called a whore-just SUPPORT HER! if she "spreads her legs for any guy" tell her its wrong. Make sure she knows that, and if she wants to ruin her life by sleeping around and she wont listen to you? Than let her be and Warn her.
Your friend must be lacking parental guidance to be sexually active and pregnant at 15. The best interest of the baby would be to give it up for adoption. The baby is entitled to a two parent home, the baby didn't ask to be brought in to this world and to kill it because it isn't convienient is wrong. Your friend needs to talk to a counselor about getting picked on. If your friend will try to kill herself because she is picked on says that she is not a stable individual and needs immediate attention to a counselor or parent or even a teacher or better yet your mother. Seriously sit down and tell your mom and let her help you through this. She is older and has more wisdom than teenagers.
well although im sure you mean well as a friend, you should not convince her to murder her child so she wont get picked on. That is not a desicion you can decide. What if someone convinced your mom that when she was pregnant? Im not saying in anyway that your mom was like your best friend. just saying its not the baby's fault. so dont kill the baby. maybe talk to your friend about making healthier decisions.
I would honestly use a nicer way to describe your friends lifestyle. I would not try to convince her of anything. All she needs is your support in the decision she makes. She is going to have to live with the decision she makes for the rest of her life. I know in Florida, we have an organization called planned parenthood. I would help your friend check to see if there is an organization in your area. They provide counseling, support and help her weigh out her options. This is not going to be easy for her. She will need your support more than you know. I know because my sister got pregnant at 16. Just try not to judge her or try to persuade her in any way. I wish you and your friend the best of luck.
first of all why would you call your friend a whore there are nicer ways of putting it.
at the end of the day you cant force her into doing anything its her decsion and if she gets picked on then she gets picked on.
an abortion is murder in my eyes and only in certain circumstances would i agree with it.
your friend should face up to her consequences if she think shes old enough to sleep around with every tom,dick and harry then she should be old enough to accept the consequences.
i lost my virginity while at school but i always practised save sex and it was always wwith a guy who i was in a relationship with.
if your friend does decide to have an abortion then thats her choice but i wisely advise her to keep her legs closed next time and learn to respect her body.
sorry if i sound harsh but a having a abortion is not a form of contreceptive it is a lil babys life.
I agree with the first post. You should be supporting her in these decisions abortion is a huge decision and something she would have to live with consciously for the rest of her life and a child will be something she will have to support and take care the rest of that child's life. She has big decisions on her mind, she needs you there for her to help her through this. Remember it's what she the father and her parents think would be in her best interest.
Please don't. Abortion is murder. Years from now she might just want to kill herself when she realizes what she has done to her child. Also, I know someone who had an abortion when they were young, and now every time she gets pregnant, she has a miscarriage. Having a baby is sometimes one of those things you didn't know you wanted until it happened. Even if she doesn't want to keep the baby, it would consider adoption. At least it gives the child a chance at life--perhaps a decent one.
I donotknow the full situation. It is not up to you or me orother Yahoo users to make a decision about abortion. This is a very delicate situation. She needs the help of her parents or family members and a counsellor to sort this situation out Also the person who made your friend pregnant needs to be involved because it his baby as well.
it sounds like your friend is very insecure with herself, she is trying to fill an empty place in her by turning to guys to find whats lacking. if your a good friend of course your going to support her no matter what she decides but she does have a decision to make so my advice is this, abortion may not be the best decision first i would advise her to talk to her doctor about the options she has. she can choose to abort of course but she can also look into adoption choices. there are really good families out there looking to adopt babies and she could still be in the childs life if she chose to be. she has choices that should be made very clear to her before she does anything!!!! she is not alone either. there are lots of girls in her situation so be there for her and help her as much as she needs. also please advise her to get counseling either through her school or through another place but she WILL need it. no matter what she chooses to do she needs someone to talk to!.
It depends on what an individual believes. Myself, i do not believe in abortions. That simple fact is, if she is old enough to do the deed she should know what some of the consequences are in doing so. Try to get her to talk to a counsellor, or someone she trusts. Second of all, get her to decide whether or not she is responsible enough to care for a child. Even if she herself can not care for a child there are thousands of couples who aren't so lucky to be able to conceive, 1 option is to put the child up for adoption. It would make 1 couple very happy and the child would be loved and cared for.
But ultimately the decision is for your friend to decide. As for the teasing, all i can say is to try ignore them, they must not have anything better to do with themselves, so that says a lot for them. So try a counsellor, support from family and friends and she should be able to make the right decision.
Whatever her choice is, i wish her luck and hope she does not make a decision she will regret later on in life. Children are precious and should not be taken for granted.
It is not up to you to tell her to get an abortion. Now that she has a baby maybe she'll quit doing bad stuff.
no thats murder if ur mother was preg at age 12 and she would abortion you then you will even be alive have the baby and after baby move to new school! go with her.
Leave her alone.Its not your baby.
A friend is supportive of whatever choices the female makes concerning HER body.
ok lemme tell u--NEVER EVER EVER call ur friend a whore...secondly, abortion is NEVER the answer. if u open ur legs for anybody, then its ur responsibility to at least carry the baby..what u do after that is up to u, but my perspective on abortion is that if ur mature enough to have sex, then ur mature enough to carry a child. i mean, what did this innocent baby ever do to u? yeah i know its gonna "ruin ur life" well get over it and suck it up! and btw dont persuade someone to kill another human being, because thats how i see abortion--is murder.
Your friend may be too far along for an abortion. However, a real friend wouldn't be looking for answers from a bunch of strangers. Why don't you try supporting your friend and ask her what she feels or wants to do.
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