I'm twelve and I know I'm gay. I want to come out to my friend.?
He often jokingly calls me a the G-poof and such.
Every part of my heart wants to tell him but what if he'll hate me?
I tell him most my secrets, like one time I dreamt I'd kissed the lead singer of this band (a guy) and he didn't seem that shocked.
Should, How or when should I tell him?
P.S. I haven't told anyone else.
P.P.S. As a friend, I really love him.
Answer:
What a dillemma.can i just say,dont listen to these idiots who say you dont know what you want at age 12.of course you do.You come to terms with it and accept it,its just the ignorant people in the world who cant.its hard coming out to the people you love for obvious reasons.but they love you for you.they might find it hard to come around to the idea at first,but they will.and those who dont,are not worth having in your life.my brother is gay.he was the most misserable boy growing up,trying to hide/fight his sexuality [although most people knew anyway..but as you say,it cant be helped.its who YOU are.when he finally 'came out',he was a changed boy.so happy.he's only 15.he's lost friends and family since coming out,but he's gained loads too.at the end of the day,the ones you lose are not worth knowing.you and your friend sound close and i doubt he will be phased.he probably already knows deep down.i wish you all the best and i admire you.good luck.
IS HE A TRUE FRIEND THOUGH AND NOT SOMEONE WHO.LL USE IT TO TALK ABOUT AND MAKE YOUR LIFE HELL,ONLY YOU CAN DECIDE IF YOU ARE GONNA TELL HIM AND WHEN THE TIME IS RIGHT!!
If he is really your friend he will be your friend. However, as a straight person, and one who does believe that a persons chooses to be gay I have to say that life will not be easy when you tell ANYONE. So be prepared. Unfortunately it is the way of the world. I do wish that your friend will stay that way. This has happened to me before and depending on the maturity level he may not be able to handle it. I mean most adults cannot either. Good luck and I hope that your friendship remains in tact. Tell him.
I dont think that will upset your friendship. Sounds like you have a great one and unless he is a shallow and close minded then there shouldn't be a problem. He probably knows and just doesn't want to offend you by asking you, in case hes wrong. Good luck! I'm sure it will be fine! :)
I think you should tell him.
if he isa true friend he will respect you for who you are. no matter what. like my friend jenny. she is gay and she likes me but she is still my friend.
Hi, This is a tricky question to answer, because if your friend dosent understand he could make your life hard, but on the other hand he could be fine with it. You would find out if he is a true friend or not and that would be hard for you if the person you trusted to tell turned on you. Wait until the time is right dont just blurt it out, sound him out first, he sounds as if he has an idea you are gay. I have a few friends that are gay and i love them just as much as my straight friends so enjoy your life, be happy and remember you are what you are an individual.
how on earth AT TWELVE do u say your gay, at twelve u dont know what u want
well think about it this way.. if u know he will be shocked/angry/not be ur friend then is it really worth ur friendship to tell him.. i'm sure u'll find some1 else.. good luck...
Just tell him, you silly little Brit. If he's really your friend, he'll accept you (although he may not know what to make of your feelings for him, any more than you probably do yet). Just please don't take the gay thing too seriously just yet, OK? You have some surprises in store for you over the next few years, physical and emotional, that may affect how you feel about a lot of things. But having someone you trust to talk to and confide in is worth more than all the gold in the world. As young as you both are, if you trust him, then share with him. It's better than bottling it up, then, isn't it?
You should tell him.
That's what friends are for.
If he's really your friend, he won't judge your or assume things about you. Friendship is about loyalty and trust. And from the sound of it, he really is a true friend.
So just tell him. You'll feel so much better, and no one else has to know but him, if that's what you want.
=D
If he is your friend, he wouldn't mind it at all
First, you have to know you can't trust anyone but yourself. He should really earn your trust becuase someday, an arguement will break out on you guys and you guys will stop talking to eachother and he might tell someone for the kick of it. But at the same time, be proud of who you are. Don't care what anyone else says. That's a huge decision to make that you might regret later in the future. Usually kids around your age don't act as mature and maybe he would spill the beans. Just wait to tell him untill your confindent enough. Or just don't if you feel uncomfortable.
if i was gay i would find a group of gay friends that know what i'm going through to hang out with & support me before i came out. also, 12 is a little young, people are often confused about their sexuality and don't know if they're gay or straight until they are older, even adults sometimes. but it's fine if you already know 100% that you are gay; go ahead and do it. take it slowly, only come out to people you know will be supportive until you get more comfortable.
tell him you know someone who is gay and see how he reacts
if he is cool with it then tell him youre gay after a day or two
You have made a bad lifestyle choice. I suggest you become a healthy male and date girls. It is very wrong to be gay & you will go to hell for it! May God have mercy on your soul!
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First off, you should make sure you can trust him.
I know I would want to know if one of my friends was gay, but that's just my opinion.
It is true that things will change if you tell him. He may think of you differently, and he may become distant, but I think you should tell him.
This will be one of the hardest things you will ever do, and if you need further help, or more advice, I'm always there to listen.
Don't let other people scare you into being strait. You are loved the way you are, so just keep being yourself.
Hey mate it is a very hard thing to do but if he is really your friend he will understand. But maybe you are just going through a phase, i'm not just saying it. It happens when young males start to become men. But if you are sure then you should do it, tell him but make sure it fells right. But be prepared for a strange and not so good reaction, it sometimes happens but if he is truely your friend he will accept you for being yourself and his friend. Three of my friends are gay and when i heard it was strange for about a day, but then when i thought about it i was being unfair. They are happy and they aren't hurting anyone so i was happy for them. I still hang out with them and go out on saturday nights for drink with them.
But be prepared for some rednecks giving you hassle if the whole world knows. Most people in the world today will not have a problem but a small few will, They don't matter.
I wish you luck and th very best
Please do not make that decision. You are only 12. you hopefully have at least 60 years left of life!
When I was 14 I came out to my best friend and now she is my girlfriend.
Cool
few things you may want to mention when telling your mate...
Gays tend to have lots of girl mates... you could introduce them
Like guys wanting to 'convert lesbians' may girls want to try and convert gays and try really hard maybe teaming up with another girl, giving the guy lap dances etc.
You could coach a mate on how to pretend to be gay but not sure as confused... maybe if they were really hot and let the guy feel them all over (as gay) he may be converted.
Whilst the lads may not want someone gay in the shower... equally many girls dont mind stripping infront of a agy guy or inviting him to their pyjamam parties...
Maybe you could smuggle in a camera for the boys...
You see the lines of thought?
Plus gays tend to be creative, good with things like hair (help mates to pull) and often get jobs in the media... good for back stage passes and meeting models...
Maybe assist in the girls changing room.
Thats if they are nice and gay guys are often good at jokes etc.
As for morality...
Who burnts alive all the witches, started relgious wars, do terrorisim, the godfearing types or the gays?
Ever hear of a gay war?
As for unnatural...
How may guys are like check out the lesbians snogging?
into lesbo porn... (note gays tend to know lesbians who you could introduce to the boys)
And how many guys want to give a girl one up the butt?
Sounds like your mate is cool with gays... (dont mention you love him unless he is gay) so maybe say you know how you call me g poof? think your right...
Also learn self defence to deal with the assholes.
Oh and another one...
Post peados are straight, into girls, and often priests.
As for no kids...
if everyone was a builder who would grow the food, if everyone was a farmer who would heal the sick, if everyone was straight how much harder would it to be to buy a house and how much more packed would trains be.?
Given how camp kids presenters are it appears gays make good baby sitters in the group... thats a purpose making it natural plus entertaining
if hes the great friend that you say he is, then he should be accepting of it and get over it soon. make sure that if you only want him to know, that he knows not to tell anybody. and, youre still young. you havent experienced girls yet, so how do you know your really for sure gay? maybe as you get older, and so do the girls around you, you'll find that maybe you arent gay. you never know. but if you feel comfortable telling your friend, then tell him, just make sure that he knows that you dont look at him any more than a friend, and he wont freak out so much. Good luck!
DON'T TELL HIM - not yet anyway.
You might well be sure of your feelings, but at 12yrs old most boys will be far too immature for this information. If you tell him I'm afraid your going to be in for a rough ride - Its not right but unfortunately its true.
I really hope you can keep this to yourself a little while longer, for your sake.
Also 12 is very young to know tour 100% gay, you haven't gone through puberty yet or your just starting to now. A lot of things change and there are so many hormones flying around!
Just wait a couple of yrs either way.
Good luck
Although you may feel that you are 100% gay & adult enough, your friend may not be so mature. 12 is a very uncomfortable age for any teenager, male or female & our hormones really are up the creek. I would leave it for a while to see how both you & your friend develop. No-one needs to get heavy at this age but we all need good friends at any age. Friends are a lot more important than sexual experiences, believe me!!
What you need to keep in mind is that this is your friend and as a friend he should accept you as you are and unfortunately if he doesn't then he was never a true friend to begin with.
I'm sure though he'll respect your openness and to be honest if he calls you the 'G-poof' and you've told him you dreamt of kissing a guy then I can't see it being a total shock to him and it sounds like he's already cool with it.
Don't make a big deal of it just drop something into a conversation and see what he says after all you have nothing to be ashamed about and like I said if he has a problem with it you're probably better off without him anyway.
I think you should cool it for awhile until you are sure about your feelings.
Well, you should say the truth. However, I heard that lots of people have a homosexual moment and go straight again within a few years.
i actually think he already knows
so i think you can trust him,
i mean he didnt tell about the dream thing
he sounds nice so he probably wont hate you
i think it doesnt matter how you tell him, its basically getting the message through (which i think you kinda did but just to make sure)
Can you be sure he won't reject you and/or tell everybody? If you do tell him, let him know you're not after him as he may be uncomfortable thinking this. Good luck :-)
tell him or her.. because a true friend will stand by your side no matter what
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