16 and pregnant?
Answer:
Look, SH!T happens...
I know your situation isn't what your parents planed for, and it may not even be what you planed for yourself. I know some parent will flip out and disown you or give you cr@p every chance they get but you have to move forward. Your a mother now (unless you choose to abort the child). If this was a mistake then you HAVE to learn from the experience. Make sure this does not happen again, use condoms, get on birth control or abstain from sex. But regardless your mother will have to get over it because your child will be here in 9 months or less and you have to prepare yourself for another life that YOU (not you mother) will have to support. That could mean you don't get to go out-of-state for college, you may have to go to a community college, but you made a grown woman choice so you have to make some grown woman decisions.
JMO
i don't think there's an easy way.
if she is a great mom she will take care of you,
i'd like to be a fly on the wall when you tell her. go to your gp and explain it to them and ask your mother to go with you so you don't have to face telling her on your own
You are just going to have to be honest with her. Just tell her that you made a terrible mistake and than tell her what it was. Good Luck!!
I really feel for you !
There is no easy way to tell your mom, but
you have to. It will take a load off your shoulders.
You aren't the 1st one and you won't be the last.
Good Luck and God Bless.
Just tell her the truth.
well i know how u feel because i was 14 and pregnant with my first child and my mom was the same way the only i hated the most is i let her find out from other people. instead of telling her myself i think you should write your mom a note or find an adult you feel comfortable with and have them tell her just remember no matter what happens god still loves you regard less of what anyone says
p.s it your decision to decide what you want to do with this pregnancy nobody Else's
I don't think that it will be being pregnant that will be the hardest thing to tell her, I think that telling her it was just some "randomer" who is the father that will be the hardest. Do you know who the father is? That would at least help with the blow of someone random. It's never easy for a mom or dad to hear their daughter is pregnant. I'm sure they will be disappointed and wonder what you are going to do. If you have plans on which you want to follow, such as finishing school...going to college..etc let them know you will still do these things. Tell them you know that it is a big disappointment and that you are sorry that you hurt them, but that it isn't the end of the world. Your future is not ruined, although it won't be easy, you will succeed.
If your chose to act like an adult by having sex, you need to step up and be an adult when you tell her. Of course it is going to suck, but you have to tell her for the benefit of you and your unborn baby. If you sneak around and don't tell her you and your baby will not get the medical attention you need and you will put that baby at risk. You and that baby already have all the odds against you, try to increase the odds of having a healthy baby and tell your mom what's going on NOW. I'm 36 and I just had twins four months ago and they were in the NICU at the hospital for two months after they were bornbecause they couldn't grow large enough inside of me. They were born two months early and I did everything right. There was a14 year old girl that had a baby in the same NICU. The baby was born 2 pounds 4 ounces and she though the baby was cute! The baby wasn't cute, it was very sick and on the road to death. Teenagers need help when it comes to having baby's. When you are too old and or too young to have a baby, the baby's are the ones that suffer. Don't bring your baby any extra harm by not telling your mom about this. You will need to go to the doctor a lot to ensure this baby has the best chances of being born healthy. No she's not going to be happy but she will get over it and make sure she takes care of you. You need to get your life on track very quickly and get ready for this baby. A baby is going to change your life forever. Please do the right thing and tell your mom today.
did you not think of the possible outcome before you jumpped in to bed???
not really an easy way of telling her but good luck!x
Honestly...TELL HER! I know it is easier said then done!, but no matter what she is your mother and she loves you very much! I got pregnant my senior year of high school and I was scared to death to tell my parents, but to my surprise they where truly amazing...a lil shocked and upset at first, but truly amazing through out my pregnancy! and now they have a beautiful granddaughter (who is 8 now) who they love and adore! Just remember what does not kill us only makes us stronger! Hang in there!! Everything will be O.K.!
I'm not religious but I dont believe that teens should have children either. The majority of people would agree with me. I would go talk to a counselor at planned parenthood first.
dont tell her
umm the only way you can tell her is to just tell her, and if she doesn't want to be supportive of her own daughter then it is fine with you.
im sorry to say this but i envy you i wish i was pregnant so much right now. but yeah as every 1 has said it will not be easy i would suggest writing a letter and when you know your mum will read it make shaw your out of the house give her a while to cool off. But no matter what you do unless you want to do not let her force you to get an abortion this is your baby your body your choice. this may sound stupid but i would gladly talk to you mum my email is hunnybee182@hotmail.com and my mob is 0431168721 feel free for you or your mum to call or email me. i work with young mothers most of them younger then you.
good luck sweet
Pray! You need to sit her down and tell her. Expect the worse, you never know what will happen. Hope it all works out!
Carefully and the sooner the better. No amount of waiting is going to make that conversation easier. The sooner she knows the sooner she can start coming to terms with it.
it's not going to be easy, please tell her, and very, very soon, don't wait till you start showing.
Good luck, any probs talk to somebody, friends, or just e-mail me.
well your in a sticky situation but just say that you were off your head and it just happened and say please forgive me after lets hope she's in the forgiving mood
you need support and so I suggest that you go and see your doctor asap, they can confirm your pregnancy and go through your optiond with you. I realise that it will be hard for you to tell your mum and thats understandable but I think that she would be more hurt the longer you keep this from her. Yes she has her own beliefs and she is entitled to that but your her daughter and she loves you so am sure that she will come round in time. If you chat to your doctor then maybe they can call your mum with your consent and explain things to her, or make an appointment with your doctor and bring your mum with you so you all talk about it together. You say that the babies daddy is a 'random' however you must know who you have slept with and who the possible dad or dads are and so this is very important, your baby deserves to know his or her dad and equally the dad has a right to know that your expecting or might be expecting his baby. You are young but if you want this baby then I am sur you will be a good mum, dont give up on your education set an example to people and stick in with school and study, you have your babies future to think of, get support from doctors, midwifes and friends and see about financial support from the social security until your able to work and provide for you and your baby. good luck
as a man, who is dealing with someone else's child because my fiancee got pregnant when she was 17...i highly suggest you get an abortion.i dont detest the child at all..but let me tell you, life would be 1000 times easier without the kid...sure you can think i am some kind of ***...but what man really wants to care for someone else's problem.and that man you think you love and loves you...well your never going to make it..lets be real here!
she wil understand if you tell her, shes your mum and she loves you unconditionally it is hard cause you feel you have let them down in some way, but you do need someone to confide in.
.. >_> First off, why didn't you use a condom?
And just tell her..that you DID it and ur pregnant, if she loves you, she'll understand
Just say mam we need to talk and sit her down at the table.Tell her its canny bad and she will automatically think the worst. Start crying and she will either show you her support of blow up. Give her a few days afterwards to let the news sink in. Thats how me and my sis did it...gud luk x
Well she did not give you sex ed like what Im going to post below...
id bet thats right.
You will just have to tell her you got pregnant as you did not know how to use contraception properly and now what do you do as you need her support... if her god really is about love and caring
So its her fault as she should know teenagers will have sex...
Also if she mentions morals throw back in her face things like child abuse in kids homes and how Africa is full of AIDS due to nuns banning condoms, and witch burning, inquisitions and the IRA bombings...
what you mum should have told you
www.ruthinking.org.uk
www.childline.org.uk
www.4yp.co.uk
www.fpa.org.uk
www.brook.org.uk
www.drugscope.org.uk
www.lifeline.org.uk
www.talktofrank.com
Ask those whose job it is to answer these things ho tell you the truth.
Not your mates or any tom dick or Harry here.
That’s like asking a Hairdresser how to fix you cars breaks
Ie can a girl get pregnant during her period?
Truth is yes especially if you are a teenager whose cycles may not have stabilised. Though most guys would be like euuuuw
Sperm stays around for a week inside you and sometimes especially teen girls have multiple ovulations or varying cycles.
Whilst at it
You can also get pregnant is the guy pulls out as
A) Guys in teens come in seconds with no control, be even if they *** over your vagina it still works (see below)
B) Willies as soon as still leak drops of sperm to moisturise and lubricate the willy... Guy can't feel them but each drop contains millions of sperm, one will do the trick. When he comes its billions instead that’s all.
2) You can’t get pregnant from a BJ unless you spit it out onto you fingers or other item which touches you down there
3) Anything oil based i.e. chocolate or ice cream makes tiny holes in condom rubber like acid that sperm can get through in seconds. (Polyurethane ones like Durex Avanti are immune to them)
4) IMPORTANT
ANY way ANY sperm get on, in or near you vagina can get you pregnant... sperm swims in wet environments and can swim across your thigh and into your vagina. If it’s wet its alive outside the body. If the guy spills drops, drips, humps your leg and cums near, on you belly and it dribbles down on you butt even in it and it dribbles out and down between you legs, is wiped,
You sit on a 'wet patch' he comes on you panties and it goes through the material (well are they rubber? if water gets through so does ***).
Or on fingers say when he took the condom off and got some on fingers and did not wash his hands or willy after.
ALL can get you pregnant... So it’s smart to get on the patch, injection or implants... Follow the instructions i.e. certain drugs, medicines, vitamins like antibiotics or St Johns worth will stop it working temporarily.
But won’t stop STDs which you can get from oral sex if cuts or ulcers in mouth (likewise herpies from cold sores) or eye contact say touching eyes.
And as blood borne say STDs can come from first aid or open wounds say in sports or an accident.
So still wear condoms as well.
And practice using them as it’s not as easy as it sounds. One **** up and life fucked up.
No extra lives.
And practice getting morning after pills ie where to go so you know and on a sunday or say xmas day.
AND IF ANYTHING GOES WRONG AND YOU THINK THERE IS A-N-Y DANGER OF GETTING PREGNANT YOU DO N-O-T WASTE TIME ASKING SILLY QUESTIONS HERE OR WITH YOUR MATES OR THINK WE'LL BE OK...
YOU
GET
YOU
BUTT
TO
GET
A MORNING AFTER PILL
95% gonner work if taken within 24 hours (so don’t wait and ask questions here and on a Sunday or say xmas day go to hospital) that’s 5% you going to get pregnant
25-48 hours (two days and nights)
Its only 85% efficets that’s 15 % chance you will get pregnant
After 2 days its only 58% effective (much like flipping a coin)
You may be able to get a IUD coil as well.
IN OTHER WORDS NO QUERSTIONS ON COULD I BE PREGNANT… GO AND GET THE DAMN PILL OR BETTER STILL HAVE SOME IN THE HOUSE JUST IN CASE… BUT ITS FOR EMERGENCIES…
Proper contraception is better ie depro injections AND condoms.
THAT NIGHT OF FOLLOWING MORNING EVEN IF BUNKING OFF SCHOOL OR WORK... TRUST ME BRING PROOF AND THEY WILL THINK YOU DID THE RIGHT THING.
EVERY HOUR COUNTS...
i think you just need to tell her your pregant i know she mite get mad but she is your mother dont just bulrted out though.or maybe you can start bringing the babys father around and then after like 2 months tell her but i think just telling her rite now is the best way
If she is religious she will believe in forgiveness and not judging people, so she will be fine..she may well be shocked, and angry to begin with,,but the best thing to do is tell her, coz soon enough you wont be able to hide a bump!
If you were old enough,and responsible enough,to have sex,you're old enough to grow up and just tell your Mother. Face the consequences. Nobody is going to tell her for you,and you should've thought about all of this BEFORE you started sleeping around. You're about to find out that telling your Mother is the least of your worries.
Next time,use birth control.
just tell her... and why did u have sex w/ some random guy.. u did what u did and u need to take the consequences...
You tell her. . . straight out. She will be upset, but if she is a Christian she will forgive you and get you some help, because you are going to need it.
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