Can an adult answer this question?!?! please help me, i dont understand?
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I am sorry that you have to put up with that kind of treatment.Ispeak to a counsellor about your home situation and see if there is some else you can live.Your grandparents were brought up in the era where spanking was normal if a child was naughty.Your grandparents may be dealing with health issues such as dementia.Tell the counsellor that you want to live with your mother as you can no longer live with your grandparents.
I wish I could help you but I think they really don't know what they are doing or saying, maybe you can live with another relative. or ask for help at school talk to a counsler and let her know whats going on, maybe someone there can help. when your home try to stay away from them. go to your room and study. good luck.
Sounds like you got yourself a pretty horrible set of grandparents. If you are close to the age of being able to move out and live on your own I would just stick it out and try to stay under the radar until you can leave. If you got a while left you can tell just about anyone and be removed from the home if the abuse is more than you can take. A teacher, a doctor, school counselor, police officer or a friends parent can all help you.
Can I ask where you are living? And how old are you??
I am wanting to help you.
Belinda
First of all thats abuse either way you look at it, you need to get the h*** out of that environment, isn't there anywhere else you can live? I hope so, because the fact that they put on an act for others outside the home pretending to care, and actually treating you like that, it makes me question were they come from. They need help, i think that they are sick in the head!
I knew a kid like that once and his grandparents finally sent him to live w/ other relatives.(his mom was extremely messed up,didn't know his real dad) Some grandparents dont' understand the pressures of the world today. They had issues back then ,but different ones,so its difficult for them to relate.Since I don't know you or the rest of the fam.,maybe you could talk w/ a school counselor,or even a favorite teacher.
Good luck!
They obviously have some serious issues. You do NOT deserve to be treated like that. Like someone above said, talk to a counselor at school and tell them what is happening. You need a healthy environment, with love. You do NOT need to be abused like you are. Do you have any other family members around you? You need to NOT be living where you are. Trust me.
It's very wrong but you have to understand that these people lived in the olden days. This is probably how their parents raised them and how they raised their children. They are not going to change. They have been this way all their life. If I was you I would go to a children's service or police station and see what they can do about moving you to a different place. You need to be honest and tell them exactly what's happening. You don't deserve to be treated this way. Good luck with your future and remain positive.
Okay, here's some guesses.
1. Maybe they resent having to be "parents" again at their age, and were hoping to enjoy their retirement years.
2. Maybe one or both of them has age-related mental health issues (dementia, etc).
3. Maybe they're just abusive asses but sometimes remember they have a responsibility to you.
You need to talk to a counselor at school about your home life. There are some big problems here that need to be addressed.
If you don't listen to anything else though, listen to this: You're obviously not stupid. You're worth more than the treatment you're getting. Please, talk to a counselor.
P.S. You are taking PHYSICAL ABUSE to stay there. This is unacceptable. I understand the desire to stay with the known, but you DESERVE MORE THAN THIS.
I was raised by my grandparents and went through the same thing. I think it's because they love you so much and that's why they are so hard on you. They probably know that you are really smart and just want you to succeed. I know it's confusing, but they need you around and want you around that's why they call the police on you when you leave. I think they want you to want to be there. Sometimes it's easier to just agree with them even when you know they're wrong just to keep the peace. Just don't forget that they do love you and hang in there.
I'll do even better. I'll explain to you how to get the help that you and they need.
You are being abused, physically, emotionally and verbally. Start by talking with any one of your teachers. Chose any one of them, it doesn't matter. Your teacher will be obligated to call the police and child services, and I mean obligated both morally and legally. In most places, your teacher would be breaking the law by not reporting this.
I'm not certain that they know where they're coming from, but by doing what I've said above, you will giving yourself the best possible chance to be safe, and that's the most important part of this.
Your age is important, but the rest of your additional details are not. YOU ARE IMPORTANT, and that means involving social services. Do not argue with this. If they are hitting you, how do you know that they won't go too far and beat you to death? It happens far too often. And make it clear to social services that you want to live with your mother. If they find her to be a fit mother, that is precisely where you will go.
You know my heart goes out to you. I can't believe that you are making those kind of grades and they are doing the flip flop on you. Have you thought about talking to a counselor? If not I would recommend some king of counseling for the whole family because that can lead to mental depression or anything. Please find a professional to talk to even if its someone at school. Good Luck to you. And if nothing else always send up prayers he's listening.
wow...all i can say is tell someone... tell your friends or a teacher.thats child abuse.you can most definitly report that.. or just runaway to somewhere you know they wont find you at.. or just runaway to your bestfriends house.. and stay there for a while...your grandparents may have anger issues or they may have mental issues (not saying that to be funny.. i'm saying that cuz it might be true)
are they going senile or do they have alzheimers?? that would be my first thought.
well i don't know but since you don't wanta call services then your stuck there til you get money
god bless
good luck
Even though you don't want to you need to call social services. You can request that you live with your Mom if you want or with other family members, but you do not need this kind of treatment and obviously they do not know how to raise children. You could go to a friend and talk with them, this might help ease the pain a bit, but in the end there really is only one thing you can do. I am sorry I can be any better help.
This is a legal matter if your grandparents have custody of you. You are still a minor and the court would have to decide what is best for you. At your age though, they might let you decide to live with your Mom but only if they think she is a fit parent.
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