How do you stop a 12yr old from calling her mom names?
other times she'll call be stupid or idiot.
I don't know how to handle this, I've been
trying to ignore it but it's starting to get to me.
What should I do?
Answer:
Get yourself an attitude! "You will NOT speak to me that way. If you continue to be rude you will have a LOT of privileges stopped with the next nasty thing out of your mouth. Are we CLEAR on this subject?"
Tell her she,s adopted
stop being american
If you're not punishing her for this type of behavior, then she has a point.
i use to call my mother all that till she slap me in the face.
if i ever answered my mother back, never mind call her names, i'd get a nice smack in the mouth. but then again, that isnt allowed anymore!
Wow... Your daugter disrespects you too? Wellwhen I was growing up, one of my friends you to curse out her mom, and one day the mom just beat her up, and she stopped calling ehr names. That's what I would do. Stand up and show her whose boss, or she'll keep crushing u like the little bug u seem to be to her.
She's just repeating what she's heard whether it's at school on TV or where ever...at this age she's too old to spank. If she continues to be disrespectful then start taking away privileges until she gets the clue.
You should have spanked that azz when she was 3,now you're reaping your rewards !!
Have her put a dime in a jar for every time she says any of those things to you, or start taking away her computer and TV privileges. I remember I did that to my mom at about the same age and she just stopped talking to me if I was going to tell her to shut up anyway; it that was effective but it made me very sad.
Ground her. Take away privileges. sit her down and explain to her that she will be punished for getting mouthy and disrespecting you. Ground her just long enough to get her "cabin-feverish." A week works with my 12 year old. Then, if she's anything like mine, a simple "you must not like _______" (fill in something she misses while being grounded or a privilege you've taken away in the past) gets her back on track.
You don't ignore it.
You sit down with her right this minute and tell her there are going to be some changes. You will be addressed with respect, or she will pay a price.
One day of grounding for the first "shut up."
Two days for the next
Four days for the next
Eight days...
Seeing as ten would take her up to 1024 days, she';d be wise to learn her lesson quickly.
Tell her that if she can not respect you than all the extra stuff you provide her with will not exist until she can change her behavior. That means computer,phone, going to friends etc
Do you call her names? She had to learn it somewhere. If so, then stop immediately.
When my son was that age I used two major forms of punishment.
Setting limits and then following through. I would take away his stuff until he stopped the offending behavior.
Also, I used dish soap, but that was when he was little, by the age of 12 he knew he would be in deep trouble for those actions and so he didn't ever mouth back. (at least not to my face).
First is to find out where she is hearing these things from... then address it.
Ignoring it is what's causing it to continue. Keep telling her that you Love her, and the things she says to you hurt you and are not nice to say to you or anyone. If it continues maybe have her speak to a child psychologist, and maybe she'll tell them why she is acting that way..
Ignoring bad behavior does not make it go away. You have to be assertive with your children or they will run all over you like your daughter is doing. By ignoring her when she demeans you, you are reinforcing her bad behavior. Take a stand. Tell her what the consequences of her actions will be and always follow through with them.
Slap her in the face. I don't hit my kids. But I did slap her once for calling me a b*tch and pushing me. If she thinks that my house is going to become one of those teen run homes on Maury Pauvich - she's crazy. I slapped her once across the face. She look of shock and disbelief was priceless. I felt a little bad about it later but the truth is - there is a line of respect that you don't cross unless you're paying the rent. I didn't do that when I was younger because my a** would have been beaten and then threw out in the street. I don't agree with the way I was raised and I work hard to be a better mother. But I don't think that means that my kids should be allowed to run me or my house. My daughter hasn't offered to disrespect me again by the way. It's a challenge to your parental authority. If you lose it now, it will be almost impossible to get it back!
Have a talk to her about being respectful towards her parents and elders. As it has been said----Speak softly and carry a big stick. Don't spare the rod!
pick a punishment (a swipe, or squirt of dish soap in her mouth) and stick to it. everytime she says any of the sassy things to you, punish her. you are the MOM, not her friend. she's acting out for what ever reason, and you have to nip it in the bud. if you are out in public, take something away from her. (say you are in macy's, and she smarts off to you, leave the store, and take away phone time -12 yr olds LOVE the phone...) when she was a baby, and "messed" her diaper, you took her to the bathroom, or to the car to change it right?...the same goes here...when she has a "potty mouth" take her to the bathroom, or to the car. you "owe" her a roof over her head, three meals, and some clothes (if you want to be that generous), you do not, however, owe he a t.v., cell phone, name brand clothes, etc. make this a "working" relationship.if you talked to your "boss" like that you would be fired! you are the boss!
try discipline. Sounds like it might be a new idea for you.
bust that behind and she wont .thats probably why she calls you names because you ignore it.
tell her to shut up and that she is an idiot.or just send her to her room and not allow her to watch tv ect.
A good spanking usually does the trick.
You should so something that you should of done years ago.
Put her across your knee and give her a well deserved spanking.
my sister ALWAYS does that my mom punishes her and takes away her favorite things wheneven she calls my mom names my mom doesn't let her do fun things. remember u r incharge ur the mom not her freind
you need to teach your daughter some respect. she is at the age now where if you do not keep a tight leash on her, she is going to get to the point where she is going to be doing a lot worse things like having sex, drinking, and other things. if you have to, confine her to the house with nothing to do but go to school and come home. keep on doing this to her and see if it helps. i am sorry to say but if this doesn't help, then the next thing i would do is have her spend a day or two in juvenile detention to give her a first hand view of how her life is going to be if she continues down the road she is on. i know that this sounds a little extreme but that may be the best thing that you could ever to for her. it may even save her life depending on how bad she gets. i hope this helps you out. good luck with this. i'm pulling for you.
tell her your name 'mum'
My stepdaughter did this to my husband. We will not tolerate that behavior. Take everything out of her room the next time she disrespects you except for her bed and dresser. She will need to earn each item and privilege back. Why would you ignore that disrespectful behavior from a child? Privileges like TV, computer, video games, time with friends, phone use, cell phone have to be earned. She should not be allowed any of these things until she cleans up her act.
Punish her.
You need to sit down and have a firm talking with her about showing you respect and lay down some rules and punishment if this occurs still.You are the parent here and need to take on responsibility.
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