Why do people feel the need to justify their name choices with complete strangers?
I guess I just don't get it. My husband and I picked out names for our baby and said, "This is it." Our parents like the name we have for our daughter, good for them. My extended family is more on the side of "Alrighty then," and my opinion on that is "Too bad for you, it's my kid."
To all who ask: Name your child what YOU want--it's YOUR child.
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I agree, to an extent.
I doubt many people are _really_ naming their baby off FeelBaby.com, but in some cases, I hope they do. People considering "Nevaeh St'arr AnGel" need to be told they're nuts.
And now and then -- not often, but -- I'm thrown by seeing what I think of as a normal name get thirty people going "Ick, it reminds me of (some negative pop culture association)! NO!" I might balk at an otherwise decent name if half the country was going to immediately think of something dreadful.
Somebody threw out MY quite uncommon name -- 1st and last -- on here a while ago for comments. I forwarded it to my mother, who was a bit surprised at all this, pointing out that she just farmed it out to family members before settling on it. You know: "Back in my day..."
Anyway, I was pretty relieved that most people answering liked it.
(Until I thought of the tastes of many people here, but that's another story...)
It's a good way to ferret out bad associations, interesting associations, and, sadly, for a lot of people, really bad ideas. Spelling errors abound on here, it seems.
What _mystifies_ me are the "Do you know any good boys' names?" posts. Often without even a "I like short, classic, masculine names." They just want "good" names. What -- you've never met a boy before?
I dunno. Hey, my wife wants to name our next child Brick if it's a boy...what do you think?
Why do people actually feel the need to write such long quiestions? Do people actually read this ****!
I agree with you for the most part.
But some parents come up with some pretty ridiculous made-up names. That honestly if I were their child, I would save up money and change it as soon as I turned 18.
As for the people that tell me my future son's name should be a middle name and not his first. I tell them " I like it the way it is."
I just want to say thank you cause we decided to name our baby boy soon to come Seamus and all my mother can say is please don't name him that he will get made fun of. They will tell him he is a shame and other crap. And when i tell her oh well to her thoughts that is what we want she actually gets mad locks herself in her room and won't talk to me. Whatever my child my name if he wants to change it later then fine. Thank you again.
My parents didn't like the name Nash that we chose for our son. It was my fault for asking them when I was pregnant. However, after he was born, it seemed like (to them) that it was the perfect name for him.
I also have a son named Noah. My grandmother always made the mistake of calling him Moses. When I would correct her she'd always say "He's going to grow up hateing that name!"
As a parent of 4 boys, I always feel like the names that I chose for my babies is the one ment for them. Their names seem to suit their personality and I wouldn't care what other people thought about it.
There was one question on here where the womans last name was Brown and had a list of names she liked. James was one of the names she was thinking of. I had to honestly tell her that James Brown really would get the little guy picked on later. Who knows if she'll end up nameing her son after the king of soul ~ it's not my kid.
I do like seeing what some people are thinking of nameing their kids. It sort of tells me what NOT to name mine. Some of those names are really funky.
People are just looking for the opinions of the general public. Sometimes it's nice to have some name ideas that you haven't thought of yourself too.
I'm with you on that one because who cares what they think about "your" baby's name. you the one that gave that have to live with him/her.
Because the child will one day have to be going to school & living out in the public & will meet these "strangers" who will inevitibly judge them partially based on their name. You stick the child with some radical, made-up or hard-to-pronounce name and it will be your CHILD not you who is having to deal with it all their life. You're right it's YOUR child but it's the CHILD's name & the child's life you have to consider. Why would you intentionally stick a horrendous name on this little person you supposedly love? Life is hard enough and will present enough obstacles for your child to get over without having the added burden of a laughable name.
I agree for the most part with your comment. You are a strong, confident woman. But some people are not like that. They need the reassurance of others in affirming their choice of names.They don't feel secure enough to make that final decision without the approval of others. So, they come here, where they can get almost any answer they want and they pick the one that suits their needs. I don't think that is a bad thing, it is just human nature for some people to need that reassurance.
That's why we don't tell people our name choices. Even names that are on our list, we don't share. We don't want opinions. We just want to name our baby the name we pick out without others influencing us. And it's not easy to ignore bad comments on names, so it's not like most people can just share, hear bad comments about the name they chose, and just stick with it.
I don't think that it's a matter of Y/A posters making that big of an impact on the names they choose. But more of the idea that they want to have an idea of what other people think and what other people are naming their children. Kind of like a community feeling. I mean, do you ever ask the opinions of other people in your life about other topics? Do you change your mind about the decisions you make b/c someone told you they didn't like it? Or did you just ask b/c you were curious and wondered what someone else thought? That's similar to what people do on Y/A, they're not asking for your negativity anymore than they need the a**holes that make snide comments.
I feel the same way you do, however I think sometimes you get feedback about a name you never thought of, like probable nicknames or weird associations, and it can be useful. Someone may not be able to see the "whole picture" on a name they thought of, and the public may point something out. I agree that you can't name you kid based on popularity polls, but getting opinions and thoughts is OK. If someone is on the fence about a name it may help sway them one way or another, you know? I do agree though - not everyone likes my sons name (Indiana) but we don't care!!
No matter what people say everyone cares what other people think. Why do you think there is a category for names? If you don't like it don't read those questions!
I agree with you. People on here aren't ever going to be seeing your child so who cares what they think. If YOU and your mate are happy with the name you have picked out .. then don't ask people online what they think. WHO CARES!!
I am curious...what did you name your kids?
Are you so opinionated because people make fun of their names?
I am not trying to be mean, honestly!
I was just wondering why you are so opinionated about why people ask others' opinions.
i like to ask to get others views on what NOT no name my child. If i ask a question and i constantly see a name being typed in... ill stay away from that cause it is being used alot alot. I dont want my kids going to school with 10 other kids with the same name even if they all are spelt different. Also i like to hear others point of views on different names, maybe they are aware of something im not. any way... over all it dont matter what anyone says or thinks, its my child ill name him what ever i want. God Bless u
I don't know this drives me crazy too in a way. Because if you have already named your kid what ya gonna do now change because online people don't like it, tuff!
I mean if you are debating a couple of names fine but still the choice is yours find a name you love and it will be fine.
It also drives me crazy when people make up there own names and then get offended when other have no idea what it is. If you are going to get mad because I can't read it or say it then name your kid Sue or Johnny and sit down.
why are you even on here if you don't like it we aren't asking people to name our children we are asking for opinions
It's important to get some different perspectives when you name a child. It may be YOUR child, but it is NOT YOUR name. The child will be encountering strangers his or her entire life and having to deal with their reactions to his or her name. They won't be able to choose their own name until they are old enough to deal with the legal system, and they are trusting you with an important choice that will influence their self-image and how people perceive them. So, I think it's a great idea to get some unbiased opinions on name choices before they are finalized. Good for you parents who do some "market testing" on the names they choose for their children.
Justify, no, gather outside opinions, Yes! It is the outside world your child will spend most of their lives in after all. Besides it can help avoid some simple mistakes. If my mom had gathered outside opinions she probably would have realized the very simple to pick at Polyester from Pauline Esther and perhaps she would have realized that Samantha Ophelia B____ had some undesirable initials for my sister. Even my other sister got Corrie Anne which is easily made into Coriander! Outside opinions don't necessarily make or break a name but they can be useful. Even on here some one asked about a name William Hillcrest and someone pointed out how easily Hill Billy would be used. There are also times that people can get stuck on certain names and close out others. Then when those names are brought to their attention, it turns out they really like them. I have found many names I like but never thought of when I was naming my kids. It is a useful tool to be able to get unbiased, honest opinions from outsiders. Then there are some who are just really excited and just want to share it.
People are usually excited to be pregnant and want to share. That's all. It has nothing to do with wanting the approval of people you'll never meet. They're just happy and like to talk about their baby, and that includes what name they will choose. Lighten up.
maybe they want honest opinions of strangers. A family memeber sometimes will lie not to hurt the pregnant woman's feelings. or they want to know if the name would be made fun of.
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