Should a man have to pay child support for kids that were concieved deceptively?
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I don't think that is right. The poor guy is having his life being torn apart because the woman couldn't be honest with him, and now he's the one paying for it. Set the man free!
no, but it will be hard to prove
yes
Personally I don't think the States should get involved in a domestic situation.
If she goes on TANF he will pay Child Support, even if he is in prison in some states.
He should have used a condom after the first time.
Look at my previous questions about unplanned pregnancies and Child Support.
i understand what your saying and it truly is an unfair situation for the guy but i still think that he should pay child support for the sake of these innocent children who never asked for any of this.
If he put his willy in there, then there's always a chance for conception, as that is the biological purpose for sex. So yes, he should have to pay. However, the prison part is a separate issue, and she just sounds like a whack job to me.
Too bad, it was his responsibility to use a condom, if he doesn't want children. Yes he should have to pay child support.
Well, the guy is responsible for birth control, too. He could have insisted on a condom (better anyways for hygienic purposes). So, yes, he should have to pay child support. It was totally wrong of her, but everyone knows when you have sex, you run the risk of pregnancy and/or STDs. If he is old enough to get it up and use it, he is old enough to use it responsibly and deal with the consequences of it. :)
PS I know several women who have done this. I would think a guy would probably know of this possibility, but was just too horny to really care. ;)
I dont think you should be her friend.
You would think this guy would have learned his lesson the first time she pulled that stunt on him??It's a shitty situation,but there's nothing that could be done about it!!
yes he should pay for child support.... it's too bad she did this, but he is still the father and still responsible. these kids need to be taken care of and that means support.
You play you pay!!!
I think that they both made the decision to have sex. The man should have considered all of the possibilities before doing this. Like you said, birth control is not 100% and she still could have gotten pregnant. He should pay support.
fool me once shame on you , fool me twice shame on me
did she poke holes in his condoms?? then i don;t think he was tricked he knew there was risks any girl can lie and every guy knows that
I believe that he should. First time deception, second time his stupidity. Women aren't the only ones responsible for birth control, men too are responsible for conception and prevention. Its his semen, he's in charge of where it goes.
when you have sex you are taking responsability for your actions. everyone knows that if you have sex there is a chance you could have a child.
your friend fell for the woman's lies more than once. after the first time i feel that he is definitely to blame.
we also must remember that there are ALWAYS two sides to every story. i am sure that she isn't the only one at fault.
the fact is that these are your friends children, plotted, planned, or whatever! they deserve to be taken care of and they deserve a mother and father that love them.
hope everything works out for the best interest of the children.
take care,
SD
*** honestly...if I was a guy I wouldn't be lettin any chick control the whole birth control thing. there's too many women out there who've lied about taking the pill when they're not. unless i was willing to have a kid i'd be using condoms all the way. say what u will but unless i wanted someone else deciding my life for me i'd take the precautions necessary.
Yes I think he should just for the simple fact that you know if you have sex that the end result could be a child. I don't think it is right for someone to lie about birth control but the kids still need to be taken care of and after all the is the most important thing is the children.
absolutely. the child support is for the children. if he doesn't pay for them--who will? (that's a rhetorical question, btw ... i guess it would be up to the taxpayers if he won't support them). life's not fair but those kids shouldn't have to pay for their father and mother's stupidity.
The child is still there no matter how it was conceived and it still needs support. By disallowing support you punish the child, not the mother.
I would suggest he get DNA tests done on both children, then proceed with child support. If she gets him sent to prison, she will receive the bare minimum of support from the state.
Unfortunately, there are a lot of women out there who have been raised to take advantage of men. The best defense a man has is to keep his pants zipped.
This question gets at the core of trust and deception and whether or not you should have sex (or at the very least unprotected sex) with someone who you do not trust or think is trustworthy. The bottom line is if you are not sure, wear some protection. If you did the deed and are the genetic father, you are morally and legally responsible. If there is legitimate or deliberate deception, there may be legal recourse for the father, but if the sex is consensual, daddy gotta pay!
An unfair situation but if the children are his yes he will have to pay child support and it something he should have really expected seeing as he was married, unfortunately this is a problem that will always exist, I can see the child support claims in Oz on the increase with the Federal Government offering $4000 per baby we have now, it is a system that was introduced last year to encourage Australians to have children and the minister actually said on national t.v. 'one for mum, one for dad and one for the country' so there has already been a slight baby boom, young girls and even women my age are suddenly having babies now.
I don't believev he should. I have strong feeling on teh child support issues. When a man isn't ready for a child whether he expressed his feelings or not he has to pay for everything. When a woman finds out that sh eis pregnant she can have an abortion even if teh man is ready.Why is it okay if they want to keep it on their own he still has to pay, but if he want sit she can kill it? It is her body they say. Well untill abortion is illegal it will always be unfair. My male friend went through a lot of pain when a girl had an abortion with his child and he wanted nothing more than to have the child. Give it to me he pleaded, but no sh ehad one anyways. Why do we as a society act like men have no feelings in this matter. We act like all dads are dead beat and in divorces ect.. the women should get the child or children. We can sure mak emen pay, but we can't give them equal rights? Yaeh there are dead beat dads, but also a lot of dead beat moms. What are we teaching our children. Daddy pays me for you, but he can't see you beacsue in teh last court date they raised his support and he has to work more. Than we he does have time to see you, he doesn't have any money to do anything with you. Maybe we should be making tehm spend time instead of paying money. any treal parent who sees their child will see what teh child needs and make sure the child gets. Its all you hear when a women gets mad at a man. Then here comes teh child support issue. a lot of men pay because teh woman is on welfare. He can pay his part but what is she doing? Collecting and thats it. She usually gets housing assistance and anyother kind of assistance available. So its like only the man has to be responsible. All women have to do is have children and they are set. The man doesn't even get to claim the children on his taxes, even though he has to pay every month to support teh children or he goes to jail.
One sometimes men need to understand women lie... its not uncommon and so a male shouldn't take a women's word on being on birth control. If i was a guy i would always wear a rubber. Yes i think he should have to pay. He needs to be a responsible adult in this situation too. I don't understand how she is sending him to prison for something he didn't do. usually you need proof to do this. besides one witness. everyone knows one witness can't get you in jail. You need more proof. being her husband.. wouldn't he know if she is taking her pills or not. I usually took mine in front of my husband b/c my dumb butt always forgot to take them.. that is why my husband would remind me each night. Sorry about your friend.. he should have been more responsible though... atleast in my opinion anyways.
Yes definitely, he should pay, pay her back! Somehow, somewhere, and some special way he should pay her a stealthy visit and then have full custody of the innocent children. Maybe a DNA is in order here also because she sounds like the type that would cross that line also. Lots of luck!
yes, he was deceived once and should have known better on the second one.
No...
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