Would it be better to tell him I don't want the baby or tell him I had a miscarriage?
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the best way is to be honest. if you have an abortion and tell him you miscarried later when you to grieve together he might sense that your grievance is fake and might think that you are cold hearted and didn't care that you miscarried. i suggest that you just sit down and have a honest conversation about what you fell it is the best way because the truth seem to always seep it's way out in the end.
He deserves to know the truth!!
tell him the truth
if you dont want the baby still tell him and he might want the baby or if you both deside you dont want the baby give it up for adoption, dont be a retard and kill the baby
I know you are trying to protect him, but tell the truth, it will be a lot better.
yeah lie about KILLING an innocent lil baby...murderer.
HOW ABOUT TAKING SOME RESPONSIBLITY FOR YOUR ACTIONS...
that and keep your legs closed if you cant handle the consequences from your actions...
seriously how can you live with yourself?
i know how u really don't wnat to lie to him and be honest. but i mean if its best for the relationship tell him misscarrage. but most people already know that when u have a misscarrage that its really painful and u bleed alot, plus most people go to the hospital . and if u don't go to the hospital he might know somethings up.
I was in a similar situation, I decided to go and have a medical abortion, it causes a miscarriage, and is done at home, and is a lot less stressfull, I knew I couldnt go through with the surgical procedure, and he was there the whole time, and it was a good decision we made, he didn't agree but supported me, like your bf.. Hope this helps
Be honest with him. If your relationship is built around a lie that could come back to haunt you in the future.
You can't be dishonest with him about his own baby.
Just because it's inside you doesn't mean he is any less responsible for it than you are.
And I don't think you should have an abortion if he doesn't want you to.
Should've thought about the chance of pregnancy before you had sex.
the truth
the lies will come back to haunt u. whatever is in the dark will come to light
If you've already discussed not keeping the baby with him, he is always going to suspect that you had an abortion no matter what you tell him, so it's best to be honest.
Wow what's with all these sick abortion questions?
You're in a loving relationship, theres no reason for you to abort other then the fact that you don't want to be responsible for your actions.
I don actually care what you do, I just hope that you have no regrets.
Be up front. It's your body, but it's his baby, too. Sit down and talk about the financial social items that lay ahead and get his inside. But if you don't want to carry the baby to term, and he wants you to, then your relationship isn't going to get any better no matter what you do.
As a man and father I'd want to know whatever you decide to do.
Just be up front and honest. If you have thought about everything, and talked about it, just tell him. The worst that is going ot happen is that he'll leave...but at least you were honest with him, and you won't hate yourself for lying.
You have to be honest with him. Can you imagine trying to keep up with that lie? If he ever found out, would he/could he forgive you then?
I can't help but wonder also (at the risk of sounding like a b#@%h), will it make it easier for you to deal with also by lying about it to him? (don't get me wrong, I am totally pro-choice and believe it is YOUR body and YOU make your own choices!) I know, I have been there, it is not an easy decision to make especially if you are in a good relationship. (If you don't believe me, check my answers to other ??'s)
Good luck.
If you have this baby you may or may not be making a mistake either way you can do something to deal with it (adoption) if you kill this baby you will not be able to take it back. Just be true to yourself and have the baby and be glad that your parents didn't abort you.some day you will look into this baby's face and be soooo glad that you had him/her especially at CHRISTMAS time.
ppl like u dont deserve to be pregnant.. dont be a coward tell him the truth... abortion aint the answer its murder.. theres many people out there who would give anythin for a child and theres u thinkin bout killin it... keep ur legs closed if u cant accept responsibility
Please do not lie to your partner. He already knows how you feel about the pregnancy. There are so many people out in this world that want children more than anything and are unable to become pregnant. And then there are people like you that get pregnant and don't want the child. Maybe next time you should consider birth control, or if your bc failed maybe you should consider permanent birth control. Your reasons for not having a child are yours and nobody else's, but don't lie.
Go to PreistsforLife.org and see the photos of aborted babies. I cannot believe anyone would want to do that.
This beating heart within you did not ask to be conceived, YOU made that choice! Do you have any idea how many happily devoted couples cry at night because they cannot conceive, then here you are throwing a perfect baby in the garbage!! Shame on you!
At least have to decency to give that baby a chance, even with another family.
I've seen clips of how an abortion is performed. The doctor pokes a sharp instrument into your uterus and proceeds to un-attach the baby and poke it to shreds, then sucks it out with a vaccuum type thing. In the clip I saw, the baby actually re-coiled in pain and tried to get away from the sharp device. The baby's heartbeat also accelerated during the procedure until it was killed. The baby in the clip was 14weeks. The head was big enough that the doctor had to bludgeon it and suck out the insides to make it fit out through the womans cervix.
If you're mature enough to have um-protected sex, then DEAL WITH THE CONSEQUENCES. This is why God's plan was for couples to first marry, be happy, then have SEX...when things happen backwards like this, you get people with STD's and unwanted pregnancies.
Please re-think your choice. You'll only be pregnant for 9mo, then you can "wash your hands of him/her" and allow an infertile couple the blessing of a child. Or, are you afraid that you might want to keep the baby.gee.
YOU KNOW WHAT LADY, YOU NEED TO KNOW WHAT YOU'RE DOING TO YOUR UNBORN CHILD. IT'S NOT LIKE THE DOCTOR GENTLY REMOVES THE BABY AND PLACES HIM/HER ONTO A BED OF FEATHERS..THEY ARE STABBED TO DEATH AND SUCKED FROM YOUR BODY. YEAH, THE TRUTH HURTS EH, YOU CAN'T HANDLE KNOWING WHAT IS ACTUALLY DONE AND CHOOSE TO BE IGNORANT OF THE PRECEDURE SO YOU GET ALL MAD AND DEFENSIVE.
TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTION, TELL YOUR BOYFRIEND THE TRUTH. IF YOU FEEL LIKE YOU NEED TO LIE, THEN DEEP DOWN YOU'RE OBVIOUSLY NOT THAT CONFIDENT OF YOUR CHOICE TO ABORT YOUR BABY..WHICH YOU ARE TRYING TO DEFEND THAT YOU ARE.
YOU ARE SICK, YOU NEED MENTAL HELP. KILLING BABIES ISN'T THE ANSWER. I SAVED MY SISTER FROM AN ALMOST 2ND ABORTION, SHE NOW HAS A BEAUTIFUL 4MO BABY GIRL THAT HAS MADE HER SINGLE LIFE AMAZING.
Lying certainly won't solve it, b/c some way or another he's bound to find out the truth. Just tell him you don't want the baby, why, and that ultimately it's your decision (sorry guys, but the law kinda HAS screwed you over, hasn't it?). Are you two still together? If so, you both have the long-term implications of this to consider. If he says he will support you either way, then he needs to be prepared to live up to that. If he THINKS he can get over it, he'd better do some serious soul searching to make sure.
I know a guy that was in your partner's shoes. His marriage wasn't going so well, but somehow they ended up pregnant. She knew she didn't want the baby and she knew the marriage was over, so she put her foot down and said "this is my decision." He drove her to the clinic to abort the pregnancy, telling her the same thing...2 years later they're divorced and he still can't forgive himself for just driving her down there.
If you are not honest with him then you will ruin an otherwise good relationship. No good relationship can be based on a lie. How do you think he would feel later if he found out that you had killed his baby and lied to him about it?
the truth even if it hurts. Also you will need support when you go for the abortion and it would be great if it was him
Be honest. If you cannot tell him the truth, or if he cannot take it, it's not a good relationship.
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