I was going to have a baby shower before the baby arrives...?
Should I do it afterwards or before, I can't decide, and my fiancee is no help, he says its up to you.
Answer:
I think that is a wonderful and thoughtful idea to include her into your plans. There is nothing wrong with having a baby shower after the baby arrives. Good for you for thinking of others!Congrats on your new bundle!
you could always do both-- but, it is up to you-- if you dont really care too much about it, wait
you could have the baby shower before, so you will be ready for baby and also that will give his mom more time with the baby without people there wanting to hold the baby also!
Why not have both. Let your close friends give you a shower now, for friends. Then when Mom comes from Georgia, have a get acquainted/baby shower party for family members. Why not have the best of both worlds.
Who says you can' t have two parties one with your friends and one with the family after the baby is born
I would have it before. You will be so busy with the new baby, and getting to know your fiancee's mother it might be to crazy then.
Do both! Have the regular babyshower while still pregant. This is really the most fun for everyone. Then just have a little luncheon at your place (catered of course.. heck I wouldn't want to throw a party just after giving birth!)
Just go ahead and have your shower. There's tons of things you'll need before the baby comes and that way you'll grandma will have a better idea of what the baby still needs when she comes. Trust me, I know women like her and she's going to spend spend spend on that baby. You won't want to have a big shower after baby his here ~ to much commotion and you'll be tired. Just go ahead with it and let grandman do the spoiling when she gets there.
Good luck with your upcomming marrige and your new baby!!
this may not be exactly the responce your looking for but...
MY ADVISE IS WAIT UNTIL THE BABY IS BORN. I HAD MY SHOWER BEFORE BIRTH. MY OB TOLD US IT WAS A GIRL..WE WENT NUTS ON PINK GIRLY STUFF.WE HAD A BOY!!!!
YOU MAY TRY CALLING YOUR MOTHER IN LAW AND ASK HER IF SHE WANTS YOU TO WAIT TO HAVE THE SHOWER UNTIL SHE GETS THERE.
IF YOU WANT HER TO MEET YOUR FAMILY AT THE SHOWER.IT MAY BE EASIER TO COORDINATE A MEETING FOR EVERYONE RATHER THAN A BABYSHOWER. SINCE YOU'RE SO BUSY / TIRED WITH YOUR NEW BABY!
HOPE THIS HELPS.
CHARITY
Generally..people don't throw themselves a shower so I don't know what to say. It's like demanding gifts and that's tacky. People who are close to you will end up giving a gift anyway after the baby arrives.
either way sounds ok.. but did you say he was with a man for 9 years before you? Good luck with the new baby and the family meeting each other
Good to include her in your plans, and you will get more clothes for the baby afterwards...BUT the bonus of having the shower before the baby comes is you'll get the bare necessities before baby arrives! Wipes, diapers, vaseline, sleepers, receiving blankets, etc.
This is your decision. You can always just have a family get together after the baby is born too, that way both families can meet and mingle.
I don't believe in baby showers before th baby is boen. I would wait till after, so that everyone can meet your new bundle of joy. It makes sense after for youalso because your finacess mother will be there from out of town.
We had a baby shower all set up for a friend of ours, but her baby decided she wanted to be there and came a couple weeks early. We cleared it w/ the mom and had kind of a coming out party for the baby. Of course the mom didn't get much of the attention (like she would have at a baby shower). But it was nice anyway.
Since it's a non-gift-giving party and you don't have any major necessities people will be filling, I'd wait and do the party afterward - a chance to meet your new bundle of joy and your mother-in-law. Congrats and all the best!
If you want to wait until your fiancees mother can come, then do that. Otherwise, have two, or just make it a special time with her when she comes. I had two showers before my baby arrived, and one after (3 different sides of my family). But if you have one afterwards, make sure you wait a while- don't plan it too far in advanced and too close to after you have your baby. I ended up in a c-section after 19hrs of labor... so it was unexpected, and I was in a great deal of pain for a couple of months. so we waited maybe 2 months before having the shower after my son was born.
Either way, enjoy it :) Good luck and congrats!
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