Miscarriage?
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just be the best neighbor you can be..offer to help out around the house and just be there for her...its difficult when you loose a baby...just see if she needs any help around the house or even just someone to talk to and a shoulder to cry on
Just be supportive, don't make them talk about it, and bring over some flowers or food and tell them you're very sorry for their loss.
All you can do is pray.. let them know if they need anything to ket you know
They will want to be by themselves to grieve their sad loss. What a neighbor can do to show them they care is bring them over something like a cassarole. I'm sure this will be welcomed and not turned down. :)
Really there is nothing you can do.
but like if they have other children ask to watch them so she can have some time alone to grive a little.
just offer your support and sympathy.
just be a good friend, let them know that if they want to talk ,your there for them. sometimes that is all you can do, they will appreciate the mere fact that you care.
Just sympathize, and most importantly, LISTEN if they need to talk. Some people, though well-meaning, assume that since a woman wasn't very far along, she doesn't need to grieve. However, often a woman AND her spouse/partner need to go through the process of grieving; they have lost plans and hopes, even though the woman may have only been in the early stages of pregnancy.
I've had three miscarriages and they don't get any easier. Everyone reacts in a different way to these things according to personality and their beliefs of when a child becomes real to them. I would go over, let her know that you heard what happened and are willing to do whatever you can to help. Just tell her, "I don't know what you need, so tell me. If you want time alone, just let me know. If you want some support, I'm here. Depending on her answer maybe check back the next day. Now, if she just found out she's misccarying she may not have actually passed the baby yet. Depending on how far along she is, depends on how dramatic this will be. I miscarried at 4 weeks and it was a heavy period. My two at 11 weeks were very crampy. I literally laid in the bath for hours covered in blood (I always wondered if I was bleeding too much!) Eventually she will pass a large clot which will most likely be the fetus. One of mine I could actually make out my little one with fingers and toes, the body no bigger than a penny. If she is farther along and has not passed the baby yet (most dctrs will send you home to do this and bring you back for an ultrasound to see if it is complete or you need a D&C where they surgically go in and remove the rest - I've had two of those) Anyway, if this is a possibility let her know that you are available all hours of the night, if she needs some support. I never wanted to do this alone - emotionally or just for the possiblity of bleeding too much, there's someone there for emergencies. Or, if she has other kids and just needs some babysitting. There's no black and white right thing to do, just go on your instincts based on what you know about her personlality and she will appreciate your concern. Best of Luck! Here's what I wrote after one of my miscarriages. I've had a lot of friends request it in this situation. Feel free to share if you think it would be appropriate.
All I need to know, I know
I'm waiting for that day,
The day I can look into their souls.
I know they are protected
In ways that are impossible for me.
I can still feel the apprehension
When holding that stick with not one, but two lines.
and the excitement that grows
As each week passes on.
We had so many plans for these children,
But God's plan is always perfect.
I don't know why God takes them home,
But all I need to know, I know.
God picked me up by my shoulders,
and sat me in his lap.
He pressed my head against his chest,
and lovingly caressed my hair.
He sat me up and looked into my eyes
in a way that only a Father can,
He said, "Child trust me."
For months I wanted more.
"You take my child and all you have to say is "Trust Me"?
I wanted to know when. . . where. . . and why. . .
God had given me everything, and yet I felt that He had taken everything.
Praise God for understanding, patience and forgiveness.
My children went straight from the protection of my womb
to the protection of God's hands.
How selfish can I be?
I don't yet know how big my family will be;
How many children I will have the opportunity to raise;
Or how many I will meet
For the first time in Heaven.
But all I need to know, I know.
"Child Trust Me!"
It once was not enough, and still at times I beg for more.
But praise God for understanding, patience and forgiveness,
Because all I need to know I know.
I went through a miscarriage last year and I had to do it alone cuz my bf at the time wasn't there for me at all. What I wanted was someone to just give me and hug and let me know that they were thinking about me and if I needed to talk at all to just give them a call.
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