Im TrYinG To DeCiDe If I WaNT To HavE A BabY?
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I’m also 18 and my husband (24) and I are expecting our first child in Feb, we had decided that after our first yr wedding anniversary we would start trying for a baby and well lo and behold I conceived with in the week of our 1st anniversary. We weren’t expecting it to happen so soon as we had just moved to another country and our doctor said it would probably take 6months or so b4 we would conceive. We were ecstatic and can’t wait to add to our lil family.
My advice is that if you unsure then don’t do it, just wait a while till you really feel that ur ready to take that kind of reasonability because it certainly changes your life dramatically.
go ahead and have it . it will change the course of ur life and u will feel motivated.
pLeASe DoN'T dO iT.
If your typing skills are any indication of your parenting skills, then no.
1. If you have to ask, you are not ready
2. No one is EVER ready to be a parent
3. What's the hurry? Enjoy your youth
4. What's the hurry? Enjoy your youth
5 What's the hurry? Enjoy your youth
wait - you WONT regret waiting, but you might regret it if you dont wait...what if you DO split up - it is NOT FAIR to the child to have it when there is even a chance you could split up. I think wait a bit - there is no hurry! enjoy your youth with your bf, just enjoy each other instead of having all the responsibility.
well i don't think you should have a baby based on your pros and cons list because if they're equal then your not ready, your pros should out weigh your cons! on top of many other simple reasons. your still young, enjoy life to the fullest and then make time for the best.
Just reading what you've written I'd say NO, you are not ready for a baby. One of the biggest things with a baby is your life is finished for the next 18 years minimum. This is not in keeping that you now must provide for this baby. Food, clothing shelter, MEDICAL. It doesn't sound like you have a job that offers medical. You have a baby you need medical. You don't say what your boyfriend does for a job. Does he have medical? These need to be addressed as well. If you can't afford it then again I'd say NO.
Hello! You will be EVEN MORE MATURE at YOUR AGE WHEN YOU TURN 27!
Get MARRIED and ENJOY THE COMMITMENT OF YOUR LIFE!
Order your private world...
You're EIGHTEEN. You apparently can't even handle the responsibilities of typing and speaking English properly, there's no way you can take care of another human being.
You think you are mature? Look at how you spelled your first alleged sentence. Sweetie I have a clue for you. You are no where near ready to be a mother.
~You are both too young, it doesn't matter how mature you think you are.
You still have college, so you can get decent jobs. If you aren't serious enough about each other to get married, what makes you think you're serious enough to have a baby together? Besides, if you are only "trying to decide", I can tell you that you are definitely NOT ready.
You're already talking about being a single parent, do you have any idea how hard that would be on you, especially the baby, having to go back and forth between the two people that child considers to be his/her whole world? That baby won't be a baby for long, they grow up fast, and trust me, the older they get, like in the teens, the harder it gets. You are still a teenager, would you want your daughter to behave the way you have?
You have no idea how hard it is to take care of a baby properly until you've done it. I was 28 when I did it and it was still hard. I cannot imagine ever having to do that and worry about money at the same time.
Even the doctors told me I was at the perfect age for starting a family, please wait until you're really ready.~
Well, I would have to go wiith the Nays..I think you should prepare yourself and do it the right way..
Don't try to place the horse before the carriage..
You must think about what you have to offer the child... you are about to bring him/her into this big cruel world.. and children cost alot of money and take up alot of time..So, ask yourself this..Am I ready to tackle this all by myself without getting anyone involved?..What do I mean by that..well, don't go and expect for someone else to take care of him or her like for instance your mom or his mom or other relatives..because they can tell you ...yeah no problem, I can take care of him/her I will take care of it but, soon they will start to make comments like ..you should of thought of this before you had this child..I know I was there..and believe me its no fun..and especially when WE had to move in with my parents because we couldnt make it...NOT FUN! I am sorry but children are a grand responsibilty...and it doesn't stop there... it just gets worse cause it starts getting more and more expensive with school supplies dressing them and sending them to college and please make sure you make them a college fund because it going to get worse to send them to college because of the steep prices that keep going up.. and I know soon a high school diploma will be worth not hardly anything... you are going to have a college degree to get a great job..So, please think about it..tell your bf lets get marrried and lets plan out our lives and see what we need to do, get good paying jobs ..have a dependable transportation for work ...have a stable home life..prepare a place for them their own room..a yard..or a place ner a park where they can go play..and have a good job where you can take off and say today I will take them to the museum..just understand to make a layout of your life its the best way..Oh and please remember SPELLING and WRITING very important for him/her to learn.so that means no more immature writings because remember you all will set the example..and he/she will follow suit..Remember the saying. "dont do as I do... do as I say".. Ok well good luck..
I was 28 when I got pregnant with my first child - and I am very very glad that I waited. Being a GOOD mom is a lot of work. I also have 2 very good friends that had children when they were 19. They are both still married to their baby's fathers. It just depends on the kind of person you are. I would not have been a good mom at that age. A lot of times men have the best intentions and say that no matter what they would still be in their child's life - that tends to change if they have a new woman in their life or if you have a new man. Just the fact that you are thinking "if we are separated" is something to consider. Also, are you financially ready? What if your child has special needs like asthma or another condition? Do you have medical insurance? There are tons of things to consider that maybe you have not listed on your pros and cons. Nobody can tell you what to do - you know the answer in your heart.
i had my first son when i was 21. it was really hard to take care of him. it comes with alot of responsibilities! you need to care for them, feed them, love them, play with them, its hard work. i wasnt married but a year later we got married. its hard work but if you think you can handle it you should do what you want. you have to have the time to work. and care at the same time. if you dont think your ready know then dont worry, wait a couple years.
Finish your education and then get married before you even think about having a baby.
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