Have any parents ever dealt with molestation to a child by another child?
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I work in the field of child abuse prevention. It could be that this child was playing doctor or it could be something more serious. I would go with your gut. The children should be supervised when together. I am a little concerned, like you, that the little boy told her to keep it a secret. I don't think he is an awful child by any means but he learned somewhere that this type of touching should be secret and that concerns me. There is a hotline that is completely anonymous and you could ask them. They are professional counselors. They will not ask your name or any identifying information. However, they can provide you with resources or you can bounce it off people who have lots of experience in this area. The number is 1-800-422-4453 (also 1-800-4-A-CHILD). I think you handled the situation great. I just wanted to give you that number in case you wanted to bounce the idea off of a professional in a "safe" way.
This happened to my 3 yr old daughter at daycare. She told me right away as we had had the good touch bad touch talk already, and we consistently reinforce it. She is a clothes shedder as well, only at home though. I took her to the doctor to check for more severe signs of abuse and her ped. agreed that it was just a case of curious kids. I did however remove her from the daycare and report them to the common entry point because in my opinion, the supervision was lacking in that home.
At that age it isn't considered molestation because theoretically they are too young to fully understand what they are doing. Molestation charges are brought on people over the age of twelve. If he knew what he was doing was wrong there might have been something that someone else had done to him, and told him not to tell. There are signs of children who have been touched such as a sudden change in their behavior, bed wetting, but only if they didn't have the bed wetting problem in the first place. Also if they play with their fecal manner. If he hasn't shown any signs then you shouldn't worry too much about it. It's great that you taught your daughter about good touch and bad touch. Alot of parents also teach their children to avoid strangers, but some parents do not think about telling their kids to tell them about people touching them that they may know. Most molestations occur with someone the child already knows.
I wouldn't actually call that molestation because of the age of the child involved. I actually wouldn't over dramatize concern over the incident other than letting her know not to take pants off in front of anyone. If you make too much of a fuss over it it WILL cause long term negative effects.
Most kids "play doctor" at one point or another. I wouldn't conclude that they have "been stripped of their innocence" at all.
The boy may have seen or heard some inappropriate things on tv or in his home.
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