At Christmas, my brother and dad argued with me because I don't want to circumsize this baby. Your opinion?
-it is not natural
-it hurts him and is mean
-I work in a hospital and cleaning them is no big deal, I myself have cleaned many
-as for HIV, condoms and cleaning
-taking off all those nerve endings decreases sexual pleasue as an adult
Those are my reasons
What do you think?
Answer:
Your reasons are your reasons and whether I agree with them or not is NOT the problem. It is none of their business, unless you want it to be. If you feel compelled to discuss YOUR decision with them, then ALL of YOUR reasons will not matter. And for that matter, ANY problem with your child you may have in the future that you feel you need their opinion on will challenge your opinions. Now do you want that?
You clearly have YOUR OWN opinions, so stick with them, and don't stress yourself out in the future getting their opinions (or anybody elses, fo that matter). If they are the type that don't need special invitation to giving opinions, then do what I have had to do: Say "That is something I will not discuss" Sounds "mean", but with family always under your skin giving opinions that counter yours, don't you think that is the BEST and most PEACEFUL solution?
It is your choice.
well you can always cut if off reguardless of age..so if your baby decides later on to take if off he can...but you can't have it put back on..
I agree with You 110% and for all the same reasons. If your son decides to be circumsized, he can do it when he's older. Do what you think is best.
I think it's your baby and they should butt out. It's none of their business.
The AAP recommends AGAINST routine infant circumcision.
The circ rate in the USA is approaching 50/50.
My hubby is circ'd but we did NOT circ our son.
ETA:
Research on AIDS in Africa where AIDS is still in epidemic proportions, condoms are not readily available and there is cultural objection to using condoms and rape is rampant in areas of civil unrest is NOT APPLICABLE to a developed nation like the USA where protection is available and there is no cultural objection to condom use. NOT TO MENTION..why does the USA have BOTH the highest circ rate AND the highest AIDS rate of all DEVELOPED nations???
I think this is totally your choice as a parent. Those reasons are the best ones there are, and no one should be telling you what to do.
YOUR BABY.YOUR CHOICE!!!
the Emperor has spoken.
i think he is going to have some trouble getting laid when he is older.
It is your choice. Talk to you Dr or a peditrician and make sure your points are valid and then tell them you have made up your mind. But please be informed before you decide.
I agree with you. It will be an argument I will have to deal with when I have a son. I have read the good and the bad and I think that it is silly to continue this mutilation of boys.
Unless you are Jewish, there is no reason to have your baby boy circumsized.
Ask your dad and brother to mind their own business!
It is up to you and you only. You need not justify your ideas regarding your children if you are not harming them. In this case tell them to buzz off.
you're the momma...do what's right for you.
i had my son "circumsized" and it was the choice of my husband and me, not anyone else.
so, take care and have fun with the baby. don't let anyone else tarnish your special time:)
well just because you know how to clean it dont mean when he gets older and cleans himself he will do it right my stepson had to be circumsized a t 16 years old and it was painful so i would do it when he is a newborn so he wont have problems later in life also most women want a circumsized man but it is your baby so do what you wont to but i would do it
Yea hes your baby if you don't wonna you don't wonna. Personal i would but your the mother so be a mum and decide what you want to do, its really up too you.
Your going to be the childs mother, do what you feel is best.
You are correct and I believe it's becoming more acceptable
Your Dad and brother are stuck in the past, unless your Jewish then it's a religious topic and that would be a whole other conversation
Ask men who have not been circumcised, they'll tell you the truth. All I ever hear is how they wish they would have been. No female should answer this question.
Recent research in Africa showed that there is 50% less chance of catching HIV if a person is circumsized.
Best of luck for your baby
My son was circumsized but that was our preference. If you do not want to do it, that is your decision. Who cares what other people think. He is your baby. I did have a friend that did not have the procedure done and when he got older (8-9) he ended up having to have it done due to constant infections and because he couldn't handle being teased by boys at his school. You sound like you know how to care for it and will teach him how to care for it. Just do what you feel is right.
When you think about it, circumcision is a very strange thing to do. Although I am not against it, I don't see how it is necessary. As a parent, it is your right to make the decision with the father of the baby, not your family's. What do they care? Besides, if your son decides later in his life that he would like to be circumcised, he can. More and more Americans are opting to leave the little wieners alone. You should feel comfortable with your decision.
I think you could do what ever you want to do its your baby and if you don't want to have a circumcise then don't. Not everyone has it done. some people do it for religious reasons and some do it because they feel it will help with infections and stuff like that.
Its your choice but think it about all the pros and cons maybe it will help with a good decision
It is a VERY bad idea not to cirumcise your child. Uncirumcised males are more prone to urinary infections, and also if you're thinking into the future you should consider how he'll be teased in school when he showers after gym...kids always make sure of anyone who's different, and most males today are circumcised. Also, the nerve endings aren't removed...the skin is just cut and slid back, not cut off. The nerve endings will still be intact. That's why men enjoy having their penis touched around the head...that's where they have the most sensation.
you are well informed, intelligent and
100% correct!
It's your child - and your decision to make. Circumcision is becoming less the 'thing to do', I think. It's not usually medically necessary. I had always thought if I had a son that I would want him to be the same as his Dad (ie circumcised or not), and thankfully my husband is not, so that makes my decision easier if our baby is a boy! If there are religious reasons your family wants the baby circumcised, they may never change their minds, but hopefully it won't affect how they feel about your son.
well, right now it's your choice. when he gets older, he can get circumsized if that's what he wants to do.
don't let people argue with you about it. if they're just gonna argue, then stop talking to them for a while. you don't need the stress.
and wow, i had no idea that if you weren't circumsized you were at greater risk for HIV...sounds kinda far fetched to me...
Go with your instinct, if you feel it's best not to circumsize your baby...don't. Your father and brother can give you their opinion but shouldn't argue with you about what's best for your child. You are the parent so it's totally your decision.
It's a personal decision and you definitely have good reasons. I think that you should just do what you know is best for YOUR child it's not your dad's baby or your brother's you shouldn't care what they think. I think you shouldn't circumsize him if I had a boy when I had my daughter I wouldn't have circumsized him either. You shouldn't put pain upon your child that isn't necessary.
I think it's your kid, your choice and no one else should have a say about it. You seem very well-informed about the procedure and its consequences so it's not as if you are making the decision blindly. Do what you want!!
I think that they should let you decide he is your child. You are very right on somethings.Although my cousin wasn't circumcised and by the age of 3 he had to get it done because it was closing on him and it hurt to go to the bathroom. If you keep it clean and make sure that no hair gets wrapped around it then everything will be fine. Remember that this is YOUR child. They may be mad at you for doing it but they will get over it eventually.
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