Questions with Teens and Pregnancies?
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i was a teen parent back in the seventies and i still can't under stand what makes us not understand the consequences of having babies while we are so young and still green.i suppose none of us enjoy bringing up kids while we are still kids ourselves but whatever parents say it never seems to make any difference to us.just do your best in what ever way you feel possible to put your daughter off getting pregnant maybe by even suggesting that she will miss out on things like singles hollidays and such things...
we have four daughters and two sons two of our daughters have been young mums...fourteen and sixteen but both are doing very well financially
tell her that you made a mistake and that you don't want her to do the same thing so yes you would be disappointed because you wanted better for her then you had for yourself.
Tell her that it was a diffcult road having a child at such a young age. That you want her to learn from your experience rather then recreating it. My daughter is 13 y/o .. I'm 28. Yeap had mine at 15 y/o. We have had the what if conversations as well. If you need someone to talk to plz feel free to IM me on yahoo midnightmoet is my handle. We always hope for our kids to surpass whatever we accomplish in life. Good luck
Toughie this one...
Some girls manage to bring up a baby quite well from 14 upwards but it would take away most of her childhood. At 14, you know yourself, the commitment you have to make to bring up a youngster and all the things you will miss out on...
The difficult part is saying it is a mistake... your daughter might take this the wrong way and think you never really wanted her... so be careful how you speak to her about it...
Also, you could tell her that when you were 14 you wer very lucky in having plenty of support but you still missed out on all the things most teenagers take for granted.
What you want to point her at is all the things she can enjoy while she is growing up and how there will be plenty of time for children when she is older.
Good luck, BTW I have 3 daughters of my own, the oldest ones 21, the next 17, then 9 then 7 so I do have experience of this. The two older ones have no plans in having children in the near future and the oldest always enjoys nights out with her friends...
Babies are great but it is so much better to babysit to get a feel of what it is about before rushing into one of your own. A few nights of a friends screaming baby will soon make her think twice... ;o)
Charlie Boy...
you should sit her down and explain to her your daughter will feel as if your treating her like a adult and respect your answer...
Tell her that yes that is true, however you would like more for her and that you wouldn't want her to have to struggle like you did. Don't tell her that you made a mistake because she may wind up resenting you for that. Make sure that she knows that you are there for her to talk to in any situation...and if she has aleady started her cycle then maybe put her on birth control to help control her
with her "regulating". If she is asking questions like this she may be already thinking about having sex. Protect her and keep her close so that she will always talk to you. Good LUck sweetie and I hope that this helps out a little bit !
a hard subject just tell her the responsibility and the money she wont have for herself..tell her wait till she has the money to support the baby..condoms are cheaper than children
It could just be that she is curious about pregnancy and as you had her at a young age wants to know what it was like for you. I was curious at that age but it dosn't mean i wanted to get pregnant. Just tell her ull always be there to support her and if she ever wants to talk about boys then she can come to you.
you should tell her that it was a massive mistake you made and advise her not to do the same. also tell her that although you may be fine now.life wasn't easy coping before. explain how difficult it was raising a kid at the age of 14.
good luck xx
DO NOT SAY YOURS WAS AN ACCIDENT! Alot of teens are doing it not because they want to but because all there friends are so they feel that if they dont then there gunna be left out of talks, jokes, and the conversations. and ppls will think there not cool. Just talk to her, tell her your happy that yoiu have her and that she isnt a mistake but life is hard in the teen years and you want it to be as easy as it can be and if she finishes out high school then it will be. Also tell her that if shes going to have sex you want her to be preotected from STD's and pregnancy,
i would show her ppls with STD's, cuz there not happy sites and she'll see its not fun. Also tell her if she gets pregnant it will make her big and it will be painful.
here is a couple teen sites:
http://www.teenpregnancy.org/america/sta...
http://www.sen.ca.gov/sor/reports/report...
tell her how tough it was for you, and thats why yopu certainly dont want her to go down that road , crikey even in 2 yrs her body is still forming , gracious
i dont think your daughters planning on getting pregnant but has been getting personal and social development lessons ( sex education) at school. I was shocked that my daughter suddenly started asking similar questions and talking bout things i didnt know she knew about but when i asked her where she was getting all the info from she told me. Im just glad that she feels that she can talk to me about that kind of thing, just wish id realised how grown up she was sooner.
Just tell her as much as you loved having her at 14, if the situation had of been different you would have travelled the world, got a great job etc etc!! Tell her its more difficult nowadays and that she should be going out and enjoying herself instead of worrying about becoming pregnant. She may only be 12 but I would be worried might even consider putting her on contraceptives if she is having sex.
perhaps try and get her involved or intrested in something else.
does she have any idea what she wants to do when she leaves school? if so try to encourage it.
i think maybe a lot of teen pregnancys could be down to they don't know what opptunitys are out there. my careers adviser at school was rubbish when i told him what i wanted to do he said "you can't do that" no help.
or another thing if you have any friends with babys get them to bring them round and tell her to look after him, feeding/ changing maybe that will put her off!
i had my first child at 19 and i do feel sometimes now i missed out on so much don't get me wrong i would not change her for the world, but i could of followed my dreams, traveled all sorts!
when i was pregnant i had rose tinted specs on! i thought when this baby is born everything will go back to normal. having my baby was the biggest slap round the face in my life i was frightend i had no idea what to do, you do get the hang of it but it is no walk in the park.
now if any of what i said helps great!
i was like you daughter and i became pregnant at 15. All you can do is tell her how hard it is and that once your a mom theres no going back and when her friends are going out she will be at home with the baby and tell her the truth about sleepless nights ect. The reasdon i wanted a baby was because i always felt lonely even though i had a good relation ship with my family.Also start doing things with her swimming, cinamas or somthing you will both enjoy show her there is more to life then having kids. Good luck i really feel for you.
I hope for her sake she's just being curious and that she's not pregnant, I have a mate who was 15 having her 1st child and although she says she never regrets it she missed out on loads of things. Talk to her in a general way and tell her that if she thinks she may be pregnant that you wont be annoyed with her. She needs to know that you will be there for her whatever happens. The main thing is though you need to find out if she's sexually active if so, talk to her about contraception.
There is a charity called LIFE UK which specialses in helping teenagers cope with pregnancies and deal with the terrible after effects of abortion. They have an excellent web-site and a free-phone advice line.
They also have education officers wo can be invited to speak at your daughters school about issues like these.
I would recommend contacting them.
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