The baby was born early this morning?
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hon if he loves you it will all work out. but dont try to separate him from his son. it may cause him to leave you. dont listen to the particular judgementals thatsay you shouldnt be with a man who left a pregnant woman. based on the fact that he is so happy about his baby, there was definatly another reason the guy left his sons mother. that particular is just a brainless person who plays with cats for a living.
I totally understand you the same thing happend to me execpt we found out 2yrs later the baby wasn't his get a dna test and if you accidently get pg will he even know it was on purpose hint hint if you realtionship is stable stop taking your pills act like you are and find out with an ovulation kit if you are ovulating do this in 2 mos so its not so close to when his first was born and have sex when your ovulating ( are you sure this kid is his would she use the baby just so he can come over all the time? if she does are you sure nothings going on?? good luck
You are not beeing selfish, my friend, you are reacting normally. The person you love has had this morning a wonderful surprise, indeed, and you worry because it wasn't you who gave him that.
You were supportive, judging from what you said, and went with him seeing his baby... that is a proof that you love him and that u are willing to accept his new "condition". Talk to him, tell him about your fears and I am sure he'll understand your point of view and support you too.
Who knows if the coming of this baby won't make him anxious to have one with you, if you have conditions to do it? :)
My advice would be to talk to him.
This is a difficult situation and the question is "Can you handle this?" You are going to have to, to be with him!! This situation will make or break you both as a couple!!!!!!!! I could not be in this situation! I would not be able to handle it! If he loves you as much as you do him, this will work out!!!!!Give this time!!!!!!!!! Good luck and I am sorry you feel so bad!!!!!!!!!
Hun, this is avery normal reaction. I was in somewhat of the same situation. Of course you are gonna be happy for him because that is the man that you love but als o are gonna feel sad, and maybe even jealous because that is the greatest thing two people whom love each other can experience and because u two are in love (not your guy and the ex) you wish it was you. Please know that all of your feelings are legit. Be sure to discuss with him(maybe not right this moment) that you do wish to have children with him. you never know if he'll agree to having a child ssoner with you unless you discuss it. Don't get discouraged about maybe not having kids with him. many women have children past 30. Just know that if it was destined for you guys to have children together it will be. But feeling jealous/ sefish/upset/or sad sbout this new baby is totally normal. Not really good feelings to have but totally normal. It will get easier as time goes by and you begin to interact with him and his child. Please stay positive and try not to stress too much.!!!
you are in the same position as many women around the country, you partner is experiencing the joy of becoming a father and i expect you feel neglected, he invited you to the hospital which means he wants you in his babys life.
you say you may not have children because he wont be ready until your past 30, but have you told him you worry about this? i know a swoman at wiork in her late 30's who is pregnant and i also know people younger who are infertile, life is a lottery where babies are concerned, men cant read minds as much as we wish they could and you need to discuss your fears with him, he may surprise you and suggest trying for a child.
i wish you well xxxx
A VERY similar situation like this happened to me. Talk to your boyfriend about how you feel (if you're comfortable doing this) and just give him and the situation time. It will get better a lot sooner than you think and you will grow to love the baby too. I wouldn;t suggest doing what the first poster said and trying to get pregnant on purpose because that is just stupid. Babies are not and should not be used as leverage, and if you were to do that then you would end up looking exactly like the type of person that poster suggested the other girl was.
Oh sweetie, I can almost imagine the despair and heartache you must feel at the moment...
When I met my husband, he had a two year old son to his ex-girlfriend. They had a very strained relationship but he did absolutely everything for his son. I felt very threatened by this. I hated that he had to see so much of his ex and it almost tore us apart. After we had been together for 6 months we reached breaking point. I couldn't take anymore, my jealousy was eating away at me. I saw his son as a threat. He was a reason for him and his ex to still be together, it was a bond they shared that I would never be a part of. His family you used to talk about her and it used to make me scream inside. It was an awful 6 months. We used to have his son stay with us all wkend every wkend and one day through wk which was hard for a new relationship. Then there were the times like on my birthday when we were out shopping and she'd phone and say she needed medicine for him...
Then, after 6 months it came to a head, we were ready to say our good-byes to a relationship that just didn't work because of his ex and his son. So for a wkend we separated. I went to stay with my parents who lived 40 miles away and got some space. But something amazing happened. In that wkend, I missed his son like mad. I cried at the thought of never seeing him again!! He was an adorable little boy, and I would never get to be a part of his life because I couldn't deal with his mum. Then I realised that the reason why we were separating were all wrong, I loved him like mad and I finally admitted to myself how much I loved his son.
So... we decided to give it another go, and we have never ever looked back! 6 months later he proposed and a year later we were married and I am now so lucky to have a gorgeous step-son! My step-son adores me, and that is the best feeling in the world. He comes to our house and he is happy, he loves being with us! I'm his super-cool step-mum, and he tells all his friends that! We go to all his school concerts (much to his mums dismay), we support everything he does, we take him on holiday, but most of all we have so much love in our home, and so much fun! When my partner has to speak to his ex I'm made aware of what's been said, I understand that he needs to see her for his son, I encourage him to go to every parents evening, doctors appt's if necessary, and be as involved as poss in his son's life. When we first got together I would never ever have imagined feeling that way! My husband and I are now trying to conceive ourself and my step-son keeps asking when he's going to get a brother! :) Don't look negatively at this, just think how much of a super cool step-mum you can be... It's too easy to be jealous, i was, and I nearly destroyed the best thing that had ever happened to me...
If you ever need to talk anymore about anything just mail me...
Good luck, keep smiling xxxx
Oh hon, I wish I could reach through the screen and give you a hug!
Your feelings toward all of this is completely normal, and your actions are completely selfless. It took a lot of strength and courage to do what you did. In the future, use this as a foot-hold to remind yourself of how much of a mature, strong woman you are. It proves, greatly, how much you love your man.
I'm going to go along with everyone elses advice: talk to your man about your feelings. If he truly loves you, he'll understand and want to accommodate your needs.
I may just not be family or a friend, and I don't even live up north, but honey, if you ever need anyone to talk to, please feel free to drop me an e-mail. I know how difficult this must be.
All the luck in the world to you! *hugs*
first of all is the baby his if so why did he want you to go with him. that isn't fair. did you know she was pregnant before you went out with him?
What a hard situation to be in you sound like a very strong person and i dont balme you for not being bale to see the baby, why dont you try telling him that it is crazy but you feel vulnerbale and worried and that it has made y you think about your body clock rea assure him that you are pleased for him and just want to know that there will always be a place for you, after all she is an ex for a reason !"!!
Aww hun I no its hard. Please try not to get to upset about it. And talk to your partner tell him how you feel. xx
well . i was going to have a baby with my ex bf , and to be honest with you i wound not want my ex new gf to see my baby . i cant explain it but it was her wright not yours .
get rid honey find a man who will have kids with you, you deserve better than a manwho leaves his ex while pregnant to be with another woman, find a new man who will want kids with you.
ah darling can you feel me yet? I'm reaching out to give you a big hug. what a mess eh? well just sit down and try to talk to your bloke he will understand and don't forget it is you he loves not his ex even though she is the mother of his baby. this should never come between you two as a couple good luck hun
take care
thinking about you xx
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