Is the desire to have biological children primitive?

As in other recent posts on this subject; I am struggling with my wife's decision to deny me having bio kids. I know it’s selfish, but I want blood children. There are thousands of needy children, the world is over-populated, I will love my adopted children and wonder how I lived without them… but part of me craves my own. I look at pics of my gdprents, my gt-gdprents & my whole family tree, what they have done, how they worked hard for our family and I am so proud that I came from them. I love that I hv the same curly hair as my uncles and my dad, I love that my aunt and I are both so pathetically sentimental, I love that I am stubborn like my dad and that my mom and I dance jigs in the kitchen while the rest of the family stares at us. There is something about being related in blood and finding those roots, connections!
Is this a primitive survival instinct? Should I just get over it? I know adopting children will be a beautiful, rewarding, life-changing event, but i can't kick this.

Answer:
NO, it is a normal instinct that both men and women have(at least most men and women). Adopting is a great jesture but I am wondering why your wife wants to adopt if she can have her own. Why not have your own and adopt one to have your family. Where is the compromise here from your wife? Just wondering. Good luck
Wow thats deep.what are your wives reasons for not wanting Biological children?Is it her age maybe or some women are just totally scared of childbirth and wrecking their bodies.I know first hand cause my Sister N law is that way.So women feel a greater fufillment having rescued a child.I dont exactally know her reasons but i do know that if this is that important to you then you need to deal with it or you will eventually resent her.I think you should talk to someone.I truely believe that your requests are not primitive yet they are reasonable.I know when I look at my children and notice we have the same toes or my yougest daughter has my husbands temper or his blue eyes it fills me with a sense of accomplishment like if anything were to happen to his I have a piece of him that will grow and continue to evolve.
Instinctual, maybe, but certainly not primitive. Desires are more than drives precisely because of the emotional component attached to them; that we, as a species, have evolved beyond the point of functioning purely on instinct to include how we feel when making decisions. There is nothing primitive about wanting children that look like your grandfather because his genes are in there.

You truly have my sympathy; I hope you and your wife can work past such a fundamental incompatibility to work toward a compromise.

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