Is anyone adopted or a parent who put their child up for adoption?
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I am adopted & I have been searching for my parents for 19 years but to no avail. Everybody tells me there is two sides to a blade, so to speak. I need to find my parents for myself & for health reasons, but mostly because I need to know who I really am!
I am really encouraged that you shared your story. It is nice to see relationships succeed; especially under such highly emotional circumstances.
Yeah for you and your mother (cousin, lol:)!
Wow, what a neat ending to your adoption story! I am adopted and don't know my birth-parents. I have been looking for them for years and years, but haven't found them yet. I can't imagine what it must be like to have known her all this time and not have known she gave birth to you. Just let yourself have time to adjust and remember that whatever new relationship you form is not going to happen overnight. If you have questions, ask them. It is better to know then to speculate. Some things may be hard for her to talk about, and if she asks you for a little time before she tells you, then you should respect her wishes to make things as smooth as you can.
I do hope things work out well for you. I would advise you to stay away from online adoption support groups. Your situation sounds very promising and different then the traditional 'finding your brithfamily story' and I am afraid if you go to the online groups, you will be overwhelmed with negativity and it will make you insecure. If you need to talk to someone like a counselor (which is more then understandable in your situation) be sure and tell your mom and dad.
Congratulations on finding her, and I do have such high hopes for you to have a great relationship with her down the road. Take it day by day. Good Luck.
I have given my Daughter up for adoption when she was 4 years old...It was more for protection for her than anything else. I have a friend that knows how to get a hold of her and I sent her a letter for my daughter. I sent the letter last year. My daughter now is 24 years old.
To this date I have not heard from her. Maybe she is too busy with her own life of feels she isn't ready to meet me yet. What ever the reason may be, I hope she don't wait till I am totally blind or that my health gets too bad that I can't enjoy meeting her again.
Congrats on finding your real mother...I hope that you will cherish every moment you spend with her and your adopted parents as well. Both holds a special meaning in your life and upbringing.
Good Luck for the future!
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