Question about circumcision?
What I am trying to figure out is how many people out there have not circumsized their boys. I just donlt want me son to be the odd ball if he is the only boy that is not circumsized.
Answer:
I would encourage you to think about what your son would want. No person would want a very important choice about their sex organ like circumcision to be made by someone other than them. It's as simple as that. No adult man who contemplates circumcision gets on the phone and waits for his mother and father to decide for him. I know men who were circumcised at birth and just RAGE is a pretty good word to describe the way they feel about someone having made this very personal private decision about their penis for them in the hopes that they would be all right with it. If your son wants to be circumcised later in life he can get circumcised when he's old enough and fully informed. But until then, to strap him to a board and say "Hey we don't know whether you want this AND WE DON'T CARE" is just not a nice thing to do to someone. It's not respectful. Non-consensual genital modification. It sounds to me like a crime.
I am and think it is an awefull thing to do... it was started because they wanted to stop boys from masterbating... (it didn't work)... now it is just a silly tradition...
it is equivalent to cutting off part of your clitoris... doesn't sound fun does it...
Don't do it... and how often will he be walking around with out hanging out where people will be comparing it to others anyways ;-)
I did have all three of my boys circumcised right after they were born. When I was pregnant with my first I knew 3 adult men that had to have it done. I know there are millions of men who live their whole live with no problems but I did not want to risk it.
Hey there is nothingw rong with being circumsized, to be honest i rather date a guy whow as hate the fore skin it sucks lol
Do it! It is much nicer looking, more common, and also from a hygiene standpoint, much cleaner. It is less likely to get infected. Plus, once your son reaches that age in gym class or sports where he has to be with all the guys, he will realize if he's not circumsized that he is in the small minority. I think a baby won't even remember the pain. Plus, the head of the penis is a very sensitive area, and this allows it to be exposed. It is NOT like cutting off your clitoris by any means.
Circumcising is done to prevent infection. Bacteria and other types of infection gather underneath the skin. It is purely up to the parents but you definitely have to take the extra time to clean underneath the skin.
We did with our son. Reasons: one we didn't want him to feel bad during gym class years from now, two his dad is the same way and finally there are a number of studies saying that it's more sanitary? <-not sure though...
My background is Spanish, my friends that are spanish that live in the states didn't get their sons circum. It'll only hurt for a little, so I don't think that you should take that into considertation when making your decision. Good Luck ;)
It was written in the bible that all men should be circumcised for one reason or another. Look it up. It wasn't started as a tradition or anything like that. It's just a biblical thing.
You know what's best for your family. I'm pregnant with a boy and will have him circumsized. All the men I know have been circumsized.
My husband and I never really talked about it, it was just something that we already knew we were going to do. I am 35 weeks and I cant make up my child mind for him but I think when he gets older he will thank us!! I think he will want to look more like daddy anyways! Good luck with your decision!!
Check out a video on how they circumcise a baby... you'll change your mind pretty quickly.
Aren't we supposed to teach our children to love themselves, the way they are? What does it say when you permanently deform your child?
Times are changing... circumcision was done a generation or two before us, but it has now been proven to be completely unnessecary!! In my prenatal class we were told that... of the 1400 boys born in our city in 2005, only 14 boys were circumcised! And, there is only one doctor who will perform the surgery in our City. I was always led to believe that most guys were circumcised, it wasn't until I was an adult that I found out that only about half of them were.
The other thing I never understood is the attitude that they won't remember the pain. maybe they won't remember the pain... but they're still in an intense amount of pain. You would be too if someone cut off a piece of your flesh and then covered it up with a diaper, and allowed to to pee and poo all over your wound. sounds like torture to me.
If your son ever decides he is 'different' (which he is not) he can chose for himself to get cut. That way he can control the pain, and tell you if something dosn't feel right.
The male foreskin has been shown to tie-in with their immune system, it also is no harder to keep the penis clean than a circumcised penis. There are many reasons why people have been circumcised, and many why they weren't. I have a son, and my partner at the time insisted that 'his son' get cut. I wish that I hadn't been so out of it that I let it go through. Almost all circumcisions are done without anesthetics. It is painful, (it's a myth that they baby doesn't have full feeling there yet) and it is COSMETIC SURGERY. That is what it boils down to, the foreskin is removed to make it look like an erection all the time. My feelings on the matter is to not do it, if I have another boy I am going to leave him intact, boys have been born that way for all our history, why change a good thing.
Oh, and for when he grows up, an intact man feels more sensation than a cut man. It has also been shown that their partner gets an added bonus of a closer bond, and not having to use artificial lubricants, and it is easier for a condom to stay on an intact penis. And there is the added bonus of the fact the foreskin PROTECTS the penis from things like frostbite. What we now know as circumcision is not the same as it was when the people of Jewish faith started it BTW, at first it was only the very tip of the foreskin that was removed, (this was to be able to tell them apart from the other people of different faith) now they go down behind the gland or 'head' and break the seal there. Exposing the gland in that manner actually takes away about 68% of the sensation, and the gland then grows callused and loses even more sensation. Oh the amount of skin that comes off? the size of a 3 by 5 index card. There have been numerous cases of botched circumcisions, which means your boy is now a girl, or the lesser evil is that slightly too much skin is cut off and the boy will suffer with painful erections later in life.
To make an informed decision about this I recommend that you do some google searches and find out the pros and cons of it. For me, I can't wait until my son gets a little bigger and I can see about non-invasive foreskin regrowth.
So that it looks better to some people is a poor excuse to maim your child.
This is a hot topic...we did have my son circumsized for the health aspect. I think that you will find that its 50/50 that people are doing it. I researched it and went to a Dr that speacializes in pain free circumsion and scalpless vasectomies. It was pain free...my son didn't even cry. The only time he wimpered was when he took his first pee after the procedure.
Why interfer with what God created, leave it natural, they only done it many years ago to stop infections at the war where they could not wash every day. Have you seen how they do it. Its absolute cruelty. Dont try and tell me that babies cannot feel it. They scream out in excrusiating pain. I would not let someone hurt my child like that.
i did it to my son i really left it up to my hubby
but my brother had to have this done at 13 it was a major thing and he took 2-3 weeks to recover he was not dirty or anything i think his skin just wouldn't pull back or sumthing (didn't ask too many Qs it my little brother) but it was very embaressing for him he had to take time off school and lie to his friends and i think he's probably pretty self concious about it it was a pain for my son the first couple days its a bit scary but i think it cute hes liked daddy too
you might want to take into consideration when he sees his dads and his and wonders why they are different you'll have to come up with a reason
We just asked our doctor that same quesrion. We don't think we want to do it, but we didn't want him to be the "oddball" in the locker room. Our doctor told us that it's about 50/50 these days nationally, and in her office (she's a midwife doctor) it's more like 70% who DON'T do it.
People say it's good to do for cleanliness, but our doctor laughed at this too, saying that an uncircumcised penis is still easier to clean than a vagina. if you can learn to clean your ears and your teeth, you can clean a penis! Flossing is WAY more complicated!
We were made this way for a reason, and the foreskin's purpose it to protect the penis's mucous membranes. Choosing to do it doesn't make you a bad parent by any means, but why mess with nature's plan?
First off I am a surgical tech in the OR and assist in these procedures on a daily basis so yes I have seen them done and not on some video tape but in real life. People simply have no clue what goes on during this procedure and the idiotic answers that have been posted just prove it. People need to really get actual facts about something some where other than an internet site before they go spouting off at the mouth about something they obviously are just copying off some website they read. It is true that they are usually performed without anesthetic but anesthetic will be used upon the mothers request usually by a topical analgesic. Anyone who know the anatomy of the penis would know that in an infant there are no nerve endings yet formed, which means they do not feel anything but a mere tugging and pulling. I assist in these and stand right over the top of them while it is being done and I very rarely ever see a baby cry out in pain. Way to try and scare people but you are wrong. They cry more when having their shots. Most of them that are crying start before the procedure is even started. Most of them start after being taken out of their nice warm blanket and sprawled out on the circ table. They usually stop once the light is turned on. Bottom line is usually they are crying for reasons other than the procedure. I just wonder where all you people get your facts from that say it is so painful, and it is your own fault if you were concerned about anesthesia because like I said it is available and will be used upon the mother's request so you have yourself to blame for that one. The foreskin protects the penis from frostbite?? Yeah, I guess if you plan on letting your child run around outside in the winter with his penis hanging out.
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