At what age should a child be informed that he or she is adopted?
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I was adopted at birth, actually, it was arranged even before I was born. My adoptive parents took me home from the hosiptal.
Anyway, I always knew I was adopted. I don't even remember when I was told...probably as soon as I was old enough to understand the concept...two or three, maybe.
Because my parents were loving and involved in my life, I never felt that I was missing anything at all. When my parents passed away (I was 34) I discovered that they had saved all of the adoption information including my birth mother's name and address and phone number, just in case I ever asked. I didn't.
I have since had a reunion with my birth mother and her family which has worked out great; but I was never really curios about her for 34 years even though I knew I was adopted.
Don't conceal the information...it won't make anyone feel better.
Good luck.
At the age of 4.
Whisper it softly with mother love into his ear from the very beginning as a sweet nothing. You, the baby and his birth story should all swirl together in an honest way that bonds you naturally. Honor your baby always with the truth about everything. RN
Today most Scientists & Adoption Agents are of the opinion that parents should inform their adopted children as soon as possible about their status. The issue should be discussed at various points in time to give the child a chance to grasp their special status and the opportunity to ask questions.
Only an early introduction to the subject will give parents and children a chance to develop an open and trusting relationship between each other.
As early as possible. You see, the longer the child is in your care, the more he would be under the belief that you are his parents. If you reveal it to him at a young age, he would accept the fact better than when he is perhaps 12.
I was adopted when i was 7 years old
bye some good parents; me with disabilities i was loved
very much, thy told me the sooner the better
mom said no more lies,;;;; i was home
i would say 4 or5 that thay get use to it.
dave ashbaugh
thats up to you, why tell it at all
I wasn't told until I was 19 years old, pregnant with my first child. I was so mad at my parents for not telling me sooner. They only told me because one of my cousins let something slip to one of my youngest sisters, and they had to say something to me before my sister worked it out what my cousin had meant. I was so angry for them not telling me sooner, they had 19 years! Like my mother said though, when is the time ever right? They wanted to tell me, but could never find the right time to say something. I met my biological father and have some sort of relationship with him, not father and daughter, it never will be. But my 'dad' is the best in the world.. I think you should tell the child when you think he/she is old enough to understand and handle it. Imagine being the age I was and finding out, it was very hard. Some people find out when they are older than what I was and I can't even imagine how hard it would be for them.
I wouldn't tell them until they are over 10 years old. you need to know that they are capable of handling the news and have tons of supprot.
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