Should i say somthing to the dad?
Answer:
It is your home and you are providing a service to him. Next time, speak directly to the boys and tell them they must stop. Also, hand over the baby directly to the father and politely let him know that you have other things to do, that you wish you could sit and converse with him but at the moment you have other things to do. Gently urge him towards the door.
I would tell him that next time he comes over that his kids need to respect you house and to behave while they were there. Any parent should of stopped there kids and not let them destroy someone Else's house
Yeah you should say something. Otherwise you'll be used as a sap.
Okay I can understand your dilemma, however, you have got to stick up for yourself. If they don't let you watch the little girl that is unfortunate but its better than being abused by this guy.
What to say: Tell the children, very firmly, "Don't touch anything, this is not your home and I don't allow that behavior". If the father tells you not to tell his kids what to or he pays you so you have take whatever he wants. You tell" As long as they are in my home they do as I say and I am not being paid to take care of them, and would not if you asked me." When he trys to sit down in and rest. You tell him "This is not your home and you need to leave." If you don't feel comfortable with this you can just have the little girl ready when they get there go outside lock the door and give him the little girl. Act like you have someplace to go and get your money and go for a short walk then come home.
Next time keep track of the time it took you to straighten everything out (including the time the washing machine runs) and charge him for it. He disrupts your life for services, but there si no reason for it to also disrupt your life when they are not around. He owes you for your time.
A good idea would be to draw up a contract that any excessive messes created by anyone associated with him that walk past your door will incur in additional charges. Make him sign and date it. Sign and date the same document yourself, and give him a copy. KEEP THE ORIGINAL IN A SEALED AND DATED ENVELOPE. Should he decide not to pay you, you could take him to small claims court for unpaid wages. That will make him think twice about letting his kids go bananas in your home.
If he refuses to sign, then tell him you will no longer provide your services. You can find someone else to babysit, and make them sign the same document before they leave the child in your care.
Next time, before they arrive, make sure you have everything for the baby ready to go. I would actually even put the baby in the car seat and wait by the door. Put away everything, particularly food. Move the recliner to the far end of the room or the different room. When the dad comes with the boys, tell the dad that the baby is ready to go. Don't give him a chance to come in and roam. Buy a lollipop (or something else that will keep the boys busy), and tell them you will give to them if they help dad with the baby. You don't need to talk about the previous visit. You just have to establish a routine and you need to do it the second time or it will not happen.
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