He didn't visit my daughter right away?
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I think your daughter is better off without him. He is by law required to help support his living child and you should seek child support. I was a single mom for 12 yrs my ex husband never wanted to see our daughter and she is not missing a thing. A child needs someone they can look up to as a male role model not someone that will run from their responsibilities. Also you can not force him to interact with the child because it may cause him to resent the little girl. Best of luck to you
Sounds like you are on your own...sorry.
Are you sure your sister told him? Knowing that he has hurt you, she might be protecting you from having to see him again?
Also, someone as unpredictable as him- do you really want someone like that around?
He obviously doesn't really care. Go after him for child support then he might feel like seeing her.
Good luck to you and congrats on the baby girl
he's probably afraid you're about to take him to court for child support - which you should.
You don't need him. Have him sign a paper giving up all rights to her. He doesn't care about either of you so don't even bother with child support. Its not worth the heart ache. Raise her right and don't speak of him.
i don't know how old you are but alot of men "freak-out" and don't know exactly what to do..Hopefully you can keep getting information to him and he will grow-up enough to step-up and be a man...I think it is important for a child to have his father in his life and know who his father is..Maybe this will happen for you maybe not.All you can really do at this point is take care of yourself and your baby the best way you know how.If he doesn't come around maybe your better off and you can find a REAL man who will take on that roll in your child's life...Good Luck.And CONGRATS!
I am so sorry to hear that. What a jerk! I think he really doesn't care about you or the baby. I think he is trying to ignore the fact that you had his child. If he comes to see her then reality will set in that he is a father and has responsibilities to take care of and that is something he is not ready to handle. I think you should be the adult of this situation, call him and say "I just wanted to let you know I gave birth to a beautiful and healthy girl named ? If you would like to come and see her that will be fine with me and if you don't I will also accept that too" If you go after him for child support in a nasty way then he will resent you and the baby and treat her like crap. Try to make and arrangement between the two of you personally and advise him that you are willing to work this out without going to court, however if he keeps ignoring you, you will have to take matters into you own hands and file for child support. Also, I don't know where you live, but i live in Florida and when I applied for Medicaid for my daughter they made me file child support before they gave her health insurance.
Sounds like a loser...I would be filing the papers for child support. He has to pay by law till your daughter is 18. Both of you would be better off without him.
The same things happened to me with my first son and please believe me when I tell you he will probably stay an absent father. My son is now 5.5 and his father has seen him maybe 10 times since birth and that was with me pushing the issue the last time he seen his dad was 3 years ago and he is so much better off. I know how hard it is to be a single mom but it is so much easier doing it alone then adding him to your stress.
Good Luck I wish you both all the best!
for your daughter it may be best. My oldest is 5 and her dad was not involved in the pregnancy or birth and didn't even claim her as his. The first time they met she was 11 months old and he was ok with her she was not ok with him she cried and flared her arms at him in the face so I think she knew what was going on. So as a mom that has been there it was hard to imagine him not being there for her but i was also thankful.
You need to notify your ex personally. Don't send messages, even when the message is sent through someone you trust. It only leaves the door open for him to passably lie later saying no one ever told him. If you tell him yourself he can not deny the fact he was aware of his child. This may only be for your peace of mind but he won't be able to cast a doubt in your mind that he didn't know. When to talk to him offer visitation if that works for you try to get as much out in the open as you can. He may just hang up on you. But at least you have told him about the baby. If your ex already knows he probably has not told his new wife that he has fathered a child with you. And if she knows the possibility exists, he may be denying the fact saying something like "it cant be mine we were already broke up." Trying to keep the peace in his new married relationship not knowing how his new wife will react making you look like the bad guy. Although, how is new wife will react doesn't really matter now he should be given the knowledge first hand so that if he is any kind of a man he can step up and do what is right. If he chooses not to do that you can take matters into your own hands as far as if you want to pursue child support. Just remember to do what you can deal with. Good luck and congrats!
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